Mother-in-law offers to buy an apartment instead of a vacation in Turkey, and I don’t believe her, intuition works

Husband and wife leave should be an annual rule for couples who want to have a strong relationship after many years of married life. But in life everything is not as smooth as I would like. Olga can not find a common language with her mother-in-law. She constantly advises her son how to live. This time, Nelya Borisovna did not forgive her daughter-in-law for her planned vacation.



We do not get along very well with my mother-in-law, as she constantly teaches me how and what to do around the house. Vanya does not hide anything from her mother, they even advise without me on what to spend Vanya's salary on. This time, my mother-in-law crossed the line. She convinced my husband that we didn't need the holiday in Turkey I've been waiting for all year.



My husband and I have been together for eight years. And during that time, I was never used to his mother. I was very lucky with Vanya, he is a very caring husband. Spouse without screaming and scandal agrees to do part of the housework, even sometimes cooks. But the relationship with the mother-in-law did not work out. I really tried at first to please her in everything, to improve relations, but all in vain. Her son remains a little boy, whom Nelya Borisovna will never stop caring for. The problem is that it destroys our family.



Nelya Borisovna lives alone in a one-room apartment. My husband and I are in a two-bedroom room that I inherited from my grandmother. The house we live in is old, so my mother-in-law insists that we save money for an apartment in a new building. Nobody minds, but I just got out of my maternity leave, we spent a lot of money on the baby, and I really want to go on vacation. And when Nelya Borisovna heard that we were going to Turkey for a week, she began to insist that we do not spend money on nonsense.



My husband and I work hard and deserve at least one week a year without worries and counting savings. My mother-in-law does not accept this view. Recently, she came to us for two weeks and began to restore order. That's where I got wild. Not immediately. At first, my mother-in-law reproached me for not washing delicate things with my hands. Then she saw that my husband was shopping himself, and she shamed me. She told me everything she thought, and I couldn't help it. I told my mother-in-law to go home and take care of it, and we'll figure it out.



I'm used to her affectionate attitude. My husband surprised me. I took my mother’s side and decided that I should apologize. In addition, he and his mother canceled our vacation and look after a new apartment in a new building. I feel like she and I are going to live together.



The problem with such situations lies in the omissions. People have been accumulating resentment and anger at each other for years. Probably never during this time, they have not talked in the circle of the family about the things that bother everyone. Since Olya never talked about her feelings with her husband, he decided that Olya agreed with his mother. All three should visit a family psychologist. The specialist will help you understand your feelings and explain how to live peacefully and not impose your worldview on your relatives.