Why older women prefer loneliness and avoid loved ones

Grandma always told me there weren't enough princes for everyone. Therefore, a woman should be able to do everything: cook, clean, be beautiful, raise children and make a living. She is not the only woman who thinks so. On the one hand, Grandma is right - only if you know everything, you can cope with any problem on your own. Should I? The motive of loneliness for women after 40 is to take a break from routine. who haunts them all their lives. Some people open their eyes even earlier.



It is no wonder that adult women prefer privacy and silence to loud companies and even close relatives. Yes, these women leave their husbands because they are tired of serving them. Relationships with relatives deteriorate because a woman does not want to talk to them on the phone, and so on.



Once upon a time there was a large family - a husband (often drinking) and three sons. The children took up all my time, only at night I could read a book. It was a vicious circle, running without rest and stop, no thoughts and desires. Damn '90s. The children grew up, went on their way of life, her husband was thrown out the door (he had by then completely descended). But I kept running through life - the elder got married, bought a house, repairs must be done, a grandson was born - how not to help, everything is running, everywhere you need to have time. My mother got sick, 2 years of care (dementia).



And then, after the funeral, I came home and realized that I was worn out. I couldn’t even get up in the morning. The kids called, worried. I told him I would rest a little and everything would be the same again. The daughter-in-law gave up work - sewing dolls for children's theater. And I got carried away. Gradually all the sadness and fatigue of life went away. Now I live alone, go to visit the children, do needlework, flowers. I talk to people online. Life has played with bright colors, is one of the many stories of women. who found salvation alone.



For many years, women try to please their parents, then their husband, children. Tens of years pass before a woman looks at herself in the mirror and asks, “What do you want, dear?” And I want to walk in the park and not think that the house is not boiled soup or washed children’s things. I want to go to the coffee shop and look out the window for half an hour for a mug of hot (and not cooled, as usual) coffee. She wants to feel like a woman again: to catch the interested views of men. Go for a manicure, soak up in a bath with foam, so that no one bursts in with requests, questions and screams.



I want it, and doesn’t a woman deserve it? Did she give her strength and youth to her family, forgetting her desires for years? Not everyone has an understanding husband who will share the household chores and give his wife a day off. That's it. It is very important to have time to understand what happiness is before you regret the missed opportunities. So, dear, drop the mop right now, get out in a deserted park, buy that expensive dress. And let the world wait.