Why they say that daughters-in-law like to count other people's money

My grandmother always prepared in advance for my birthday and other holidays. She thought that granddaughter It has to be memorable. So ba often gave me jewelry, telling me that I would wear it when I was an adult.



I grew up in care and love, not even knowing that the relationship between grandmother and grandchildren could be different. But things happen in life. And the older I get, the more often I face non-standard situations and problems of people. Today’s story is a great proof of that.

My husband and I often quarrel, and in general our relationship is not quite stable. I think this is the main reason why my mother-in-law is so indifferent to our daughter. Maybe I'm asking too much of her, but can I give my granddaughter some attention?

Nina Ivanovna lives in a village. She has a large farm that feeds her. And to be honest, it feeds pretty well. However, for all these years (the daughter recently turned 10 years old), the mother-in-law never gave her granddaughter anything worthwhile. Sometimes she just calls on holidays and talks to her daughter for a couple of minutes. And to invite my granddaughter to the village for the summer, never even a speech!



© Freepik I understand that this should not be the case. And it seems to me that the daughter somehow reluctantly communicates with her grandmother, feels that she is not loved. Another thing is the family of my husband’s sister. It's different there. Her children are fond of her grandmother and literally bathe in gifts. Of course, they live in the same village, you do not need to spend money on sending things! And Nina Ivanovna always tells us that there is no money, times are hard.

Well, that's her choice. But why should our little daughter suffer? She recently had her first big anniversary, 10 years old. For the first time, my mother-in-law sent us a package of gifts. She opened the box in anticipation, and when she saw what was inside, she almost cried. Lots of weird things with a bad second-hand smell. And the cherry on the cake is a small jar of raspberry jam inside the clothes.



I'm speechless. No, I don't mind giving clothes a second life, but couldn't I at least wash things before shipping? And about the poor jar of jam, I do not say anything at all. As a result, from all the junk daughter approached one sweater. I don’t understand what kind of merit Nina Ivanovna behaves in this way towards our family.



Maybe I want too much. Yes, I am not a perfect daughter-in-law, but I am always ready to listen to all the complaints and try to fix the situation. And here. There's something to fix! Mother-in-law is a greedy person who does not care about the fate of her granddaughter. It feels like she's sleeping and watching my husband and I get divorced, and she can finally forget that she has a granddaughter at all.

My husband just shouts at me, saying that I will also count every penny in old age. But how do you explain to your daughter why her grandmother treats her like that?

It is obvious that the reason for the prejudiced attitude of the grandmother to the family of her son lies in something deeper. But anyway, The child should not suffer from this.It takes the problems of adults to its own account.



It seems to us that the best thing a storyteller can do is to come to her mother-in-law in the countryside. soul-talk. At least this will allow her to no longer make any guesses and decide for herself what will be the future communication with the mother of her husband.

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