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Combine an incompatible or two halves of one whole
In this article, we will talk about the stereotypes of our society, as well as how firmly they are embedded in our female heads.
Recently I noticed an interesting feature. For some reason, it's widely believed that a woman in life has a serious choice: she has to decide which path she chooses. The path of beauty or the path of kindness and care.
The first of them is associated with the image of a chic woman, allowing herself luxury and greatness, adoration and attention of fans, sensual and emotional pleasure. Everything is cool, if not for one small, but very tricky "but."
A woman like that doesn't care about anyone else. She is not ready to love and care, to be sensitive, loving and understanding. She is too self-centered, and sometimes so much so that she neglects other people, which over time makes her repulsive to others.
In contrast to this image in societyHe lives in TV screens, books and everyday conversations. A completely different character. She's simple, sweet, humble, kind, caring. To others and only to others. She does not even try to show care or attention to herself. This makes her comfortable for everyone, but dull and uninteresting for her surroundings, because in this situation she loses herself.
And here lies the most important point. The moment when every girl realizes that her life is waiting for either one road or another.This choice occurs most often unconsciously, imbued with images from films and books. And with examples from the life of others.
This choice is difficult and, most often, traumatic, because it basically involves the rejection of a part of yourself, a part of your essence and your nature. For a woman, such a choice in life implies that I myself agree to close my eyes, to cross out a part of my soul, and with bright light, I will try to be the one I chose. Even if I don't feel like it sometimes. These female images and stereotypes are so divided that it seems to us an absolutely unthinkable task to unite them.
And then this is what happens. A woman’s first instinctive choice is beauty. Without beauty, the nature of a woman is unthinkable. And with the concept of beauty at the moment associated images of fatal beauties-selfish, described above. This role works well in the life of a girl until the birth of children.With the birth of a child, the factor of care is included, because it is necessary to take care of the baby 24 hours a day.
How to cope with this difficult stage, without losing yourself, unfortunately, neither experience nor examples from real life is almost nonexistent. Then another scenario slowly unfolds in a woman’s life, a scenario of care and attention to another, and absolute indifference to oneself. Thus, a woman begins to zealously serve others, often torturing herself, proving to herself and others her right to exist.
Why can't we find another way? They lack awareness and responsibility for their lives. Often we tend to attribute the problems of our lives to others.Acceptance is the key to change in our lives.
©Chema Madoz
Accepting that there are certain difficulties in my life, I do two things. The first involves the fall of rose-colored glasses from my eyes, the moment when I bitterly confess to myself – yes, it happened in my life. I'm really being treated terribly, and first and foremost, I do it myself.
Step two. It's accepting responsibility, that feeling -- I can change that! If we compare the undesirable situation of our lives with a swamp (the comparison is not accidental, because we do not like, but habitually, warmth and we are generally satisfied), the first step is to admit that I am not floating in clouds, but lying in a swamp. And the second is the leap, the effort, when I give up my comfort zone and choose happiness. Everything we do leads to happiness or not.
So integrating these two images together is not an easy task, but it is the only one that will lead a woman to wholeness, beauty and harmony.
Born to be happy, especially for
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Source: Born to be Happy
Recently I noticed an interesting feature. For some reason, it's widely believed that a woman in life has a serious choice: she has to decide which path she chooses. The path of beauty or the path of kindness and care.
The first of them is associated with the image of a chic woman, allowing herself luxury and greatness, adoration and attention of fans, sensual and emotional pleasure. Everything is cool, if not for one small, but very tricky "but."
A woman like that doesn't care about anyone else. She is not ready to love and care, to be sensitive, loving and understanding. She is too self-centered, and sometimes so much so that she neglects other people, which over time makes her repulsive to others.
In contrast to this image in societyHe lives in TV screens, books and everyday conversations. A completely different character. She's simple, sweet, humble, kind, caring. To others and only to others. She does not even try to show care or attention to herself. This makes her comfortable for everyone, but dull and uninteresting for her surroundings, because in this situation she loses herself.
And here lies the most important point. The moment when every girl realizes that her life is waiting for either one road or another.This choice occurs most often unconsciously, imbued with images from films and books. And with examples from the life of others.
This choice is difficult and, most often, traumatic, because it basically involves the rejection of a part of yourself, a part of your essence and your nature. For a woman, such a choice in life implies that I myself agree to close my eyes, to cross out a part of my soul, and with bright light, I will try to be the one I chose. Even if I don't feel like it sometimes. These female images and stereotypes are so divided that it seems to us an absolutely unthinkable task to unite them.
And then this is what happens. A woman’s first instinctive choice is beauty. Without beauty, the nature of a woman is unthinkable. And with the concept of beauty at the moment associated images of fatal beauties-selfish, described above. This role works well in the life of a girl until the birth of children.With the birth of a child, the factor of care is included, because it is necessary to take care of the baby 24 hours a day.
How to cope with this difficult stage, without losing yourself, unfortunately, neither experience nor examples from real life is almost nonexistent. Then another scenario slowly unfolds in a woman’s life, a scenario of care and attention to another, and absolute indifference to oneself. Thus, a woman begins to zealously serve others, often torturing herself, proving to herself and others her right to exist.
Why can't we find another way? They lack awareness and responsibility for their lives. Often we tend to attribute the problems of our lives to others.Acceptance is the key to change in our lives.
©Chema Madoz
Accepting that there are certain difficulties in my life, I do two things. The first involves the fall of rose-colored glasses from my eyes, the moment when I bitterly confess to myself – yes, it happened in my life. I'm really being treated terribly, and first and foremost, I do it myself.
Step two. It's accepting responsibility, that feeling -- I can change that! If we compare the undesirable situation of our lives with a swamp (the comparison is not accidental, because we do not like, but habitually, warmth and we are generally satisfied), the first step is to admit that I am not floating in clouds, but lying in a swamp. And the second is the leap, the effort, when I give up my comfort zone and choose happiness. Everything we do leads to happiness or not.
So integrating these two images together is not an easy task, but it is the only one that will lead a woman to wholeness, beauty and harmony.
Born to be happy, especially for
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Source: Born to be Happy
