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Don’t look for something where it can’t be.
Psychologists say that children who are “disliked” by their parents experience problems in adulthood: they try to get this missing love from others. And they suffer very much: they suffer from rejections, their own mistakes, criticism in their address.
But there are also children who can safely say that they had a happy childhood where parents loved the child and each other. And these kids are now looking for parental love in other ways, because they think it's the norm.
Don’t look for something where it can’t be. Generally speaking: Nobody loves you.
Your boss doesn't like you. No one has to love you for doing your job well, you get paid for it. You do your job as long as you are useful to the company. Your job is not a cash feeder or an exchange of your time for money. Your expertise, experience and expertise is the norm, and it should be! It depends on your salary level.
It's a market, not love. Don’t expect praise if you’re just doing what needs to be done. A good boss values you, but doesn't. If your efficiency declines tomorrow, they will part with you. You are just an employee with your rights and obligations stipulated in the contract.
You are not loved by those whom you help with all your heart. Aid is not an exchange, it is a unilateral action. You can be grateful, to have a good opinion of you is at best. There are times when your help is not needed and/or it only gets worse. And to be offended in that case is stupid.
For help, they do not even pay back, unless it was agreed in advance. For help pay "thank you" and "thank you very much" - this is the maximum. You can’t help someone and wait for love. You either help because you can do it, or you are an infantile egotist, and your help at the price of love is too expensive and questionable pleasure for people.
Even your other half doesn’t love you. In the sense that today may be yes, and tomorrow, for example, no longer. Well, it happens: love is an uncontrollable unpredictable thing. Just because your loved one says “I love you” every day doesn’t mean it will always be like that. But there is no need to devalue his words. What are you gonna do?
We need to appreciate today and enjoy the moment. Building joint plans is not prohibited, but you need to be prepared that they may not come true. A person can leave (and at least in another world!), and you need to somehow move on. And this, as statistics and practice show, is quite possible.
But the worst thing is not that you are not loved, but that others do not care about you. The boss will replace you with another employee, your girlfriend will find another guy a month after the breakup, the neighbor's grandmother will call you a drug addict if you don't show up with packages of groceries once.
There are no indispensables. People succeed each other in an endless roundabout of social circles. But we tend to think that those who don’t love us don’t love us.
The girl of a friend of mine at general house parties looked at me angry and sometimes she could say something unpleasant to her face. I didn’t know how to behave, and when I was invited to another party at their house, I was hesitant to go or not. When I confessed this to a friend of mine, he laughed and said: “Don’t flatter yourself, Lena doesn’t like you, she doesn’t care, she just doesn’t like when we have a crowd.”
Even your mother-in-law doesn't love you. She loves her son and you're a stranger to her, but that doesn't mean she treats you badly. It may seem that she has suspicions about your culinary abilities (she brings you her cooked food or constantly asks what you eat and how often), in fact, she loves her son in this way, and she does not care about her daughter-in-law.
There are nocebo people. . .Love isn't about that. .
I must say that only your own parents love you. However, this does not mean that they should love you as you imagine. They love you the best they can. And the rest of us, how can we?published
Credit: Martha Shander
Source: gorabbit.ru/article/seychas-budet-bolno-tebya-nikto-ne-lyubit
But there are also children who can safely say that they had a happy childhood where parents loved the child and each other. And these kids are now looking for parental love in other ways, because they think it's the norm.
Don’t look for something where it can’t be. Generally speaking: Nobody loves you.
Your boss doesn't like you. No one has to love you for doing your job well, you get paid for it. You do your job as long as you are useful to the company. Your job is not a cash feeder or an exchange of your time for money. Your expertise, experience and expertise is the norm, and it should be! It depends on your salary level.
It's a market, not love. Don’t expect praise if you’re just doing what needs to be done. A good boss values you, but doesn't. If your efficiency declines tomorrow, they will part with you. You are just an employee with your rights and obligations stipulated in the contract.
You are not loved by those whom you help with all your heart. Aid is not an exchange, it is a unilateral action. You can be grateful, to have a good opinion of you is at best. There are times when your help is not needed and/or it only gets worse. And to be offended in that case is stupid.
For help, they do not even pay back, unless it was agreed in advance. For help pay "thank you" and "thank you very much" - this is the maximum. You can’t help someone and wait for love. You either help because you can do it, or you are an infantile egotist, and your help at the price of love is too expensive and questionable pleasure for people.
Even your other half doesn’t love you. In the sense that today may be yes, and tomorrow, for example, no longer. Well, it happens: love is an uncontrollable unpredictable thing. Just because your loved one says “I love you” every day doesn’t mean it will always be like that. But there is no need to devalue his words. What are you gonna do?
We need to appreciate today and enjoy the moment. Building joint plans is not prohibited, but you need to be prepared that they may not come true. A person can leave (and at least in another world!), and you need to somehow move on. And this, as statistics and practice show, is quite possible.
But the worst thing is not that you are not loved, but that others do not care about you. The boss will replace you with another employee, your girlfriend will find another guy a month after the breakup, the neighbor's grandmother will call you a drug addict if you don't show up with packages of groceries once.
There are no indispensables. People succeed each other in an endless roundabout of social circles. But we tend to think that those who don’t love us don’t love us.
The girl of a friend of mine at general house parties looked at me angry and sometimes she could say something unpleasant to her face. I didn’t know how to behave, and when I was invited to another party at their house, I was hesitant to go or not. When I confessed this to a friend of mine, he laughed and said: “Don’t flatter yourself, Lena doesn’t like you, she doesn’t care, she just doesn’t like when we have a crowd.”
Even your mother-in-law doesn't love you. She loves her son and you're a stranger to her, but that doesn't mean she treats you badly. It may seem that she has suspicions about your culinary abilities (she brings you her cooked food or constantly asks what you eat and how often), in fact, she loves her son in this way, and she does not care about her daughter-in-law.
There are nocebo people. . .Love isn't about that. .
I must say that only your own parents love you. However, this does not mean that they should love you as you imagine. They love you the best they can. And the rest of us, how can we?published
Credit: Martha Shander
Source: gorabbit.ru/article/seychas-budet-bolno-tebya-nikto-ne-lyubit
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