"Want to make God laugh, tell him your plans," the saying goes. Indeed, sometimes even thoughtful, "loyal" prospects thwarted due to unforeseen circumstances. Or... the man himself refuses planned. It turns out that in the last century this phenomenon has attracted the attention of many researchers.
It would seem that something has planned (to buy a car or a house, go on holiday abroad, to marry, to start a business), it is logical to tell about it to friends and acquaintances that they supported us and cheered for us. However, back in 1933 foreign psychologists have found that the more people we tell about their intentions, the less likely that they will be implemented.
What's the trick? If we talk about their plans in advance, it's in our subconscious mind becomes a fait accompli, says researcher Vera Mahler. And if the goal subconsciously reached, respectively, the individual is less motivation.
Professor of psychology at new York University Peter Gollwitzer touched on this subject back in 1982 in his book "Symbolic self-filling". Not so long ago, he conducted a series of studies which were attended by 63 people. It turned out that the people who did not share his plans with others, fulfill their more likely than those who publicly talked about them and received approval and the support of others.
Professor Gollwitzer believes that the story of his intentions gives us a "premature sense of completeness". In our brain there are so-called "symbols of identity", which help us to measure ourselves. To this symbol appeared, enough not only actions, but just talking about them. Suppose You spoke about your intention to write a thesis and presented yourself as a candidate or doctor of Sciences. The brain was satisfied with the play of the imagination, and You disappear impetus to do something to achieve this goal is to attend graduate school, to find a scientific leader, to sit in the library, collecting material, and so on.