A complex relationship. It is necessary to You?

The relationship has a chance to be long-term, should not be difficult to determine. How much time a person is able to make the brain of themselves and others in non-stop mode? Well, six months, a year, in very advanced cases — a couple of years.

And then it all gets completely and the audience in mournful silence leaves the auditorium, leaving the hero alone to sweat on stage under the heat of spotlights.



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The so-called complicated relationship, all of these "come, gone" and many hours of conversations about high — is, sorry, from a surplus of free time. This is the wrong attitude. Seriously. It is as if you come into the showroom and want a Bentley, although your funds at best enough for a down payment for "zhopelya" in the base set. You can come to this salon for years, but all you get is the same "zhopelya". You will say that Bentley is the only thing that suits you, you will proklyate skull with all your family and friends, you will make a sad face and wringing his hands, you will spoil your life, you will elevate suffering into a fetish, but you never stop to think that all you need is a sturdy, reliable workhorse with a working AC, clean interior and proper tires that will take you from point A to point B.

Relationships should be simple as two pennies. No matter whether he is a genius physicist or a simple Bob-Miller, no matter what his education, how many languages he speaks, how many women he had and whether he writes poetry, the only important thing is how you are comfortable with him. If he brings you to depression, if you with it no less shitty than without it, if you know that you with it do not Shine, if it makes you a brain if he loves all these frazochki "I am not ready", or "We should wait", or "I need to think" or "It's so difficult," — send it. Whether you loved it or really it was just a whim — you will only understand much later, so you have absolutely nothing to lose.

Love in General is not measurable, love is often mistaken lust, respect, habit, jealousy, desire to get even and much more. From "complicated" relationship you don't win anything except a headache. If you want it, this headache, if you can live without it, can't find the courage to admit that you need not this particular man, and that headache you get with him. And learn how to extract the headache of a more productive relationship, just warn p-R-a-V-I-l-s-n-o-g-Oh man, on Wednesdays and Saturdays you — uniforms bitch, let him be prepared in advance. Again and again: the relationship should be simple. You're with this person to give birth to children, agriculture news, plans to build, to visit, to communicate with relatives and generally to conduct the most that neither is a primitive narrow-minded way of life. And if you think that you will pass this Cup, you about-about-about-about-very much mistaken.

It's how it happens?

At first nanogen высокийстройныйкрасивыйумныйбогатыйперспективныйсексуальныйромантичный, and only much later we realize we are ALL aware that all we need is a person you can rely on, someone who will be there, not when his head snapped right. As always. Always, you know? Therefore, reliability is an extremely important quality. Him to help you in the MOST difficult moments of life, when the well is complete ass and step right, step left, go nuts. Therefore, the responsibility is also very important.

You will want to share with him joy and sorrow, victories and defeats, dreams and fears, so empathy is generally kapets as important.

You will learn it backwards and forwards, you will understand each other perfectly, you eventually will get used to each other, as honed on supermegakraft gear, you will continue to make trouble and to accept, because he's not you, it's another person, though he tatachilla under you in the same way as you do for him.

Therefore, tolerance — without it, well, just did. And you always give each other a piece of yourself, a piece of a part gnawing his bachelor habits, it's fashionable now the word "compromise", so that flexibility is also very important. And you will make important decisions together and separately, solutions that can modify your current way of life, so without trust — well, just nothing at all.

Think about that when you were 20, you do nothing about any of this thought, right? You wished that he famously rolled up to you at this super car, presented flowers and so beautiful kiss right on the lips. And that you admired his awesome wonderful eyes and would be like the picture. So really it doesn't matter never. Spit, beautiful or not, tall or short, slim or chubby, talker or stutterer. All you need is the realization that this person and the fire, water and copper pipes, and that when he's around you very well.

And that WITHOUT it, you Gore-a-a-a-Asda bad, than With him. And I assure you, when you turn back in 20 years when you're still eye-to-eye, measuring its temperature and helping to write a will, although he is only sneezed once, and when you finally cease to conduct intimate conversations "And where we are going" because you have ALREADY arrived where you need it, so this is love. Love is not pre-calculated. Never.

And all these "complicated" relationship — well, damn, well, go on courses of macrame, or something. Or help orphans. Leave your poor brain alone, he and without you a lot on your plate.

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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