A friend lost faith in men, so she decided to check on her new boyfriend

New romantic relationships always affect us in a special way. Mood improves, I want to start creating, those very butterflies appear in the stomach. The beginning of something new as it is. But How to know if a guy is in love Really, not just wanting the same thing from a girl? One-time relationships, as we all know, happen very often.



In fact, some signs immediately give off another predator. Undimmed confidence in its magnificence. A large number of promises that are kept, at best, 1 in 10. Being late or ignored at the most inopportune times. Although, they are predators to act on their strategy. Finding out who is in front of you is not always easy. It takes time, a cool mind, and even intuition. Who said it would be easy?

As an unmarried girl, sometimes it is difficult to listen to your “ringed” friends. That's probably how people lose friends. They grow up and grow and move on. Honestly, we used to talk about everything. Rumors, gossip, guys. That's if it's not serious. But there were conversations about study, about work, prospects. I mean, normal human communication about everything. Not just shopping and rags, dear men.



Now, that's it. Time is gone, the old days are gone. Three of my four married friends seemed to switch to another level. It’s like they’ve become robots with only one topic to talk about: family. Nothing can interest them anymore. They don’t even pretend they’re interested in listening to someone else. No baby or stamp on your passport. Sometimes I feel like they are being replaced. Because married guys don't really change at all. The topics for conversation are very different.

Her husband’s parents, apartment issues, repairs, children or waiting for their birth, buying things for the children and “no, I don’t think he likes her, they’ve been working together for a long time.” That's literally all I can talk to most of my married girlfriends about. Either routine or suspicion of treason. That is what they all do except the one closest to them. Katya. I can still meet with her, talk about everything I want and not feel superfluous. I never thought I'd be so excited about a normal conversation.



Do you know why Katya hasn’t changed? Not turned into a hen or a paranoid jealous? In my theory, it's because she found the right person in her life. A man who truly loves her and is confident in her. I'm so sure I fell in love with him myself, even though at first, I know I had a problem with it. In short, love not only saves the world, it also preserves mental health.

And this is how it all started. In short, three years ago, when Katya did not even plan to get married, and we were friends of a sequel breeder, she had an interesting boyfriend. The guy is not simple, earning well, with the right acquaintances and from a good family. He spoke several languages because he decided to learn them all as a child. I worked on my own, can you imagine? And so I learned German and French. Not a man, a fairy tale! The only thing that prevented him from being happy with Katya was constant employment. Meetings, meetings, trips.

It's not that my friend was up to her neck in love, she's already out of that age, but Nikita really liked her. And given his appearance, financial capabilities and general background, it was not surprising. Unfortunately or fortunately, they rarely saw each other because of Nikitina’s work. But love doesn’t come immediately either, does it? So they met. We actually talked on the phone.



And at some point, Katya seems to have had enough of it. Not knowing how to influence the situation or what to do to avoid being intrusive, she decided to invite her boyfriend to a serious conversation. It was necessary for her to at least approximately understand what prospects their relationship has and whether they are not wasting time on each other. So my friend, without thinking twice, took the phone in her hands, turned on the speaker and made a video call to Nikita, tuned in for a serious conversation.

Although it was 2 p.m., the young man’s sleeping and tired voice responded. I understand from Katie's story that he didn't immediately realize he had been called over a video link. So he put the phone to his ear and began to murmur about how it worked and at the moment can not speak. After a few phrases, Nikita decided to change his posture and for a couple of moments took his hand with the phone somewhere sideways. Opening, thereby, a wonderful view of white bed linen and a sleeping girl who tried to cover herself with a pillow. She probably didn't like that conversation either. A lot of work.

It turns out that this call saved Catherine a lot of time and nerves. She found out where and with whom her boyfriend was missing, although then he tried to explain himself and repeated that it was not serious, just “sport”. But my friend didn't give anyone a second chance. This ended her rather long and unsaturated romance. And I thought she wouldn't be looking for a new man for long. We've all been burned once. So many people will understand me.



However, as I said, Katya is the proud wife of her husband Misha. And from their acquaintance to the wedding it was only six months. He's an ordinary office worker, he's got some money, but he's not Katin's past version. He was of medium build, so she didn’t like him either. No money, no appearance, what then, you ask? And I'll tell you, attitude. Kate finally found a man who really loved her. Her, not the body and everything. And she saw that for herself.

In general, they met Misha at a general party of colleagues. Something was celebrated, I don’t know the details. And Michael immediately began to take care of Katya as soon as he saw her. The following weekend, only thanks to the lover’s well-hung tongue did they see each other again. Katya went on a date with him rather out of boredom, not expecting anything good from the evening. But she liked it. Then they went on another date and another. And Misha was still the same open, sweet guy. I didn’t even try to spread my hands or hint at anything.

Three months later, when they were already a couple, Katya wanted to test her young man for lice. She was trying to figure out how to know if a guy was in love. I started playing dumb and watched Misha react to it. Arranged a tantrum in the mole - he hugged her and tried to calm her down. In the end, she was tired of it and she “came to herself”. Then she asked for the phone from her boyfriend. He gave it to her without any problems, just smiling and teasing. Said they were serious now that a girl like that was jealous of him.



Katya came to the conclusion that, apparently, Misha is too grated kalach and knows how to behave in any critical situation. But he probably didn't count one. And Katya went all-in. It's stupid, even I admit it. But she suggested to her young man... Get married. Soon enough. It wasn't just an idea. She demanded more. So that the two of them on the same day went to Misha’s mother and told her the news. Before that, Katya spoke with her future mother-in-law only once, by phone. And Misha? Yes, Misha agreed!

They really went to Mishina's house. They gave her all sorts of goodies and bought flowers. And she was glad. The woman was really having a holiday then. She was happy for her son and was happy. That evening, Katya realized that she had no more suspicions about Misha's feelings. And she started falling in love with him herself. And soon there was a wedding. They have been together for two years, soul to soul. Do I envy them? A little. Am I happy for my friend? Crazy!



It’s hard to be 100% confident in someone. But, if confidence has come, then do not waste time and act. Unfortunately, I do not have such a relationship yet. How do you know if a guy is in love? I’ll probably have my fiancé take a test at some point. And let him try not to pass it!