Husband communicates with ex and does not see this as a problem, but I am not going to tolerate this. Bashny.Net

Creating a new family sometimes feels like a road that has just begun, and you need to spend a lot of energy to overcome it. But the power is running out. The reasons can be different: material, psychological, social. For example, a wife cannot tolerate her husband’s relatives. Or husband communicates with ex. And there are these feelings to each other, do not want to leave everything halfway and just disperse. There's no resource. I don't know where to get it.



In the past, of course, people lived easier. A lot of couples didn’t need this fake love at all. The couple simply lived together, raised children and sometimes spent their lives together. And it wasn't considered a shame, really. And now divorced so many psychologists and coaches who themselves can not understand anything, and others are trying to advise. Come to them with a real problem... In general, not everyone can call themselves an expert in law.

My husband is talking to his ex. And that led me to literally being between two fires. On the one hand, I don't want to lose my man to some crazy fool. I understand that this will only make things worse for myself and my relationship. But on the other hand, pride, of course, also takes its toll and at some points I want to leave Alyosha and never see him again in my life. It hurt, you know, the nerves aren't there anymore.

Since I am only 30 years old this year, I am not one of those women who will be silent and patiently waiting for the outcome of the situation. Of course, I immediately expressed my dissatisfaction with the fact that his ex-wife was still in our lives. But he told me in a predictable and very standard way: he felt sorry for his ex, but he really only loved me and nobody else. Blah, blah, blah. But that's how I feel. Lesha is not someone who can change. But on the other hand, the light just pisses me off.



This woman is a real infantile. The kind who's been trying to be nice and childish all their lives. You know, even when she sees how much I hate her, she talks to me like a child. With all that tone and stupid snares. And she needs help all the time. He wants to take her to the other side of town. It also helps to pick up food for a couple of weeks, it's so fragile. And my husband agrees and doesn't see it that way.

Yes, I admit, I have rights and once I insisted that I help Svetlana with the trip to the store. Especially since I wanted to come and buy something. Then I thought, finally, this woman will show her true side. She can't be crazy all the time. I tried to get her emotional, I wasn't even afraid that we might have a fight, I wanted to. But as a result, she only showed herself as a very uneducated person. Although, Sveta probably didn't even notice it.

It may seem that she is really not all right with her head. This is actually a professional deformation. When you work all your life in kindergarten with a baby, sometimes it can bear fruit. I don’t even know, but what if she went to work in kindergarten because of her strangeness?



Her husband lived with her for about 4 years. He said he used to like her way of acting. Because even when he could do things like he once flooded the apartment, she didn't make scenes, she just sighed loudly. That's it, no quarrels or resentments. Sometimes I would like to have such a partner, without too much emotion. But it's still not normal and I refuse to share my husband with the Light. No matter how harmless it is. What do I do with my husband talking to my ex?

Recently I had to go to an appointment with a psychologist. My beloved friend was not in town, and I have what they call a boil. In addition, I wanted to think that talking to a specialist is not just a conversation, scratching the tongue. That she could give me some good advice. And just to listen to it. Without interruptions and interjections about what a wonderful situation I have. "But other people, no, listen to me!" My friend could never stop and listen. That's her only drawback.



But it wasn't. My “specialist” turned out to be a very peculiar girl and the conversation, which in my understanding was supposed to be informative and contributing to the solution of my problem, turned out to be as difficult and even silly as possible. From the beginning, I began to be squeezed on those fronts that I did not even pay attention to. We found out my temperament type, then Alexei’s temperament type. Whether we fit each other or the Light is his ideal.

It turned out that my husband is very close spiritually to his touched ex. Because men like these "psychotics", close to children. To which I answered correctly, no. He has nothing like it in his character, and never has. Moreover, I want to have a child with him myself, but I am not sure that we will pull him out financially. And when you work at all, you need to drive the Light around the city.



But a woman claiming to be a professional psychologist stopped me from trying to translate the topic to my husband’s ex-wife. Thank God, I didn’t start blaming my parents, as movie psychologists often do. I probably couldn't stand it. We talked for a long time about our relationship with my husband and about the fact that Sveta has probably been in a relationship with Alexei for a long time, they just keep it a secret from me. To which I replied that I was sure otherwise. Unfortunately, for my one-time psychologist, I was not in authority, so she just stubbornly ignored my words.

Perhaps it was much more useful to spend that money not on a questionable specialist, but on shopping. Or a gym. I always forget that exercise relaxes your brain and makes your body more resilient. And that's exactly what I could use. Well, at least I wasn't home alone, that's good.



In general, as you know, I have not achieved much success in my question. Conversations with her husband and his ex did not lead to anything. Psychologist, I'd rather not talk about her. And my friend still hasn't come, although she's unlikely to be able to advise me on this. So, people of the Internet, I'm talking to you. Maybe someone can give me some advice about my situation. Maybe someone had something like that. I would be very grateful. I can't stand it anymore, but I'm still holding on. Or should I find a new man?