I went on a date with a very nice man, and all night I was fascinated by him until he did one thing.

Ambition can manifest itself in different ways. In the sports field, when an athlete wants to get the first place by all truths and untruths. In terms of career. “If you want to build your life on any principle, let it be my work, my work and my legacy.” - That's what many people think. But What is ambition?What about relationships? Many modern women want to grab a richer prince. Just as men strive to build a future with beauties of unearthly heights. And what are they doing for that?



In our technological and quite difficult age, there is no room for emotions and banality. People used to love each other not for something, but in spite of it. Now, first of all, you need to work on yourself and achieve certain results. I'm looking for a couple. There is no other way, the competition is too great. Some people try to play here, breaking the rules. This will give them more points for a better result. Well, one can only guess what all this can do.

What's ambitious? Thank you mom and dad. They gave me a great education and raised me as a confident person. They told me what ambition is. I seriously believe that the slightest conceit for anyone will not be superfluous. If someone says you're upping your nose, think about it. This is many times better than being a gray mouse in a full minibus. “Ah, take my seat. It is not difficult for me to get up in this stinking bead and go to work. Every day.



At the age of 20, I moved from my parents’ home. They bought me an apartment in a new building. Not very big, but we are not millionaires. With repairs, good plumbing, and most importantly - in a very picturesque area. My apartment is my powerhouse. If my future husband does not buy us a private house, then I want to live in my current neighborhood. But the apartment is bigger, of course. And it would be nice if it was two floors. I like that layout.

But modern men, alas, are small. It wasn't my idea, you all know what I'm talking about. You don't have to choose from my peers. They haven't made any money yet. They have no practice or knowledge at work. In relationships, they don’t know what they want. And they don’t know what ambition is. And they have a new “trick”: to blame the entire female family for their failures. Like, we women do not want to work at all, but only demand money, new gifts and everything else in this spirit.



Who would tell these boys why a modern woman was finally able to lift her head? She had not even had the right to vote before. Only the opportunity to get married, have children and do household chores. And then they ask, where did the women scientists of the past go? All the same, they cook porridge for their husband-worker, so that he does not hit it so hard! And if you think about women’s health, physical strength and the fact that some days we just do not find a place for ourselves. Gifts in their eyes would seem like childish talk, believe me.

I started paying more attention to older men. Not old people, of course. But forty-year-old handsome people often know how to charm with their male brutality and clever conversation. And by that time, they had something behind them. No, don't think about it. I'm just talking about bachelors. I'm interested in family and the future. So my man should not have a wife, debts, children from a previous marriage, or the hope that I will one day be a housewife. This is my minimum program. Unfortunately, sometimes there are failures. And I'm not ashamed to say that.



In general, we met a certain Nicholas. Quite a representative man, sporty. Dressed well and not ashamed to talk about work. In short, he's fine with me. I don’t like to talk about anything on social media for long. Funny jokes on the Internet is full, and banality and especially vulgarity is not for me. Kolya felt it and invited me to a cozy cafe. Have some sweet tea. I'm actually watching the figure. But in such cases, we have an agreement: she does not recover, and I promise to buy more vegetables. So far, it's working.

Admittedly, the first part of the evening went very well. Either the chef changed in their cafe, or it was my companion who influenced me so much, but I really liked the treats. And the conversation was interesting. After that, Kolya looked at my watch and suggested that I start packing. He paid the bill himself and was extremely nice. And I didn’t want to stay at home so much that I asked my “young man” to continue the evening somewhere else. Like going to a karaoke bar. There is a hookah and food can be ordered. And get to know each other better.



With a smile on his face, Nicholas quickly agreed. I liked the fact that he didn’t have to beg and whine. This is how it should be when your man is a leader and knows what ambition is. It was the second half of the evening and I liked it even more than the first. We sang some stupid songs, drank a lot of delicious and hot, ate to the dump and laughed a lot. “Even if it doesn’t work out for us in the future, I was happy to meet this man. He may even be a good friend. That's what I thought until the housekeeper brought us the bill. Kolya looked at me with a happy grin and handed Daddy over to me, distracted, meanwhile, by the verse of a new ordered song.

As you can see, he didn’t even think about it. Fraudster, con man? An undercover karaoke worker? No, it's just my companion, it turns out, travels a lot. Especially in Europe. And in Europe, as it turned out, the one who invited pays the bill. That is, he initiated the meeting. Accordingly, he paid for tea and cakes, and for all that we ate, drank and sang afterwards - I am already. After an ever-increasing pause and my trademark “disappointed” look toward Kohli (to which he didn’t react), I knew I had fallen. Thanks to my parents for filling up my fire card. I had to fork out, but I didn't fall in the mud.



Of course, it was our first and last date. I will never have anything to do with such a person again. But that's not what matters. In Europe and America, men pay for themselves. So they are set up and it makes no sense to discuss it. But we don't have the U.S. You can't do that here, I think. We do not take money from men for wasting our time on their stupid courtship and in general, pay attention to them. You should.

So the next time you're getting ready to date a new man, just think about whether you need one. Who will pay for your new manicure, makeup and business class taxi? Nobody? So maybe it's better to sit at home and finally watch that new show that everyone is praising. And let the man sit and think whether his bouquet of crumpled roses is worth it for you to turn your attention to him. I think this decision will be good for everyone.