There is an opinion that in modern realities, only women need a family, which means that they should maintain it, decided to understand the issue.

Whatever the current trends and trends, womanEven today, it is considered insufficient. Socially, of course. A man is considered a breadwinner. Those who are able to support a family, understand technology or, in extreme cases, pay for the labor of someone who understands. A man should be able to do a lot and be gentle enough when he is alone with his wife or children. This is, of course, ideal.



Peels And what do men think about this? Yeah, basically the same thing. Some are not so clear on the issue: gender roles have changed over time. If a woman can find a good job, why not invest in a family? And paying for it on every date, isn't it too much? But there's also a third category. Those who used to be called Alphonse. They haven't changed at all. Living off someone else's money? Why not if she has the ability and I have the desire. 21st century in the yard, what do you care about our relationship?

I don’t want to brag, but I’ve never felt alone in the world. Before, of course, I might have had some problems. A little depression, lack of money, failed internal ambitions and, of course, problems with girls. But who didn't? I lived like everyone else. I went to work, talked to friends, tried to build relationships. But now, despite the fact that I am older, I have nothing like it. Why? I've reconsidered my outlook on life.

I'll probably start with work. After graduation, I was faced with a more or less interesting position, office life, in short, nothing special. But after a year and a half, I got tired of it. I looked at alternative sources of income, browsed online, and even talked to some successful people. And I was lucky. Now I'm making passive income in one business, doing almost nothing. No, I don't own yachts or villas. But, comparatively, my salary will be higher than the city average. It's normal to be taller.



With the girl I had already broken up, there were problems too. She wanted a family, she wanted a traditional relationship. Well, you know what, I mine and she spends. No, seriously. We rented an apartment together, which I fully paid for. Food, communal was also part of my responsibilities and it was taken for granted. In addition, rest, some gifts and romantic moments. It's not free, as you know. Well, whose problem is that? Of course, men's.

My ex worked, too, don't think about it. But her money is her money, and my money is our family budget. Which, by the way, I wasn't even allowed to spend on my own. I didn’t love her for her appearance, believe me, I just had feelings. But only now do I realize the irrationality of female behavior. She could spend a lot of her money on expensive rags and cosmetics. Although at home I went without makeup and in general, in ordinary household things. I wonder who this farce is for? For employees at work and bystanders? I don't understand.

I, in turn, saved on clothes, walked in the same. That my ex-girlfriend didn't like much. “It’s a shame to go out with you,” she said. Poor girl had to dress up at home for half the evening, so that we would go somewhere at my expense and it was still my fault. How it worked in her head, I have no idea. And one day, I just realized that this wasn't going to work. It’s hard to play one goal, receiving only offensive comments and reproaches that I’m not successful enough.



So, after the breakup, I was not in a hurry to look for someone, and began to deal with myself. Go to the gym. I didn’t want to become a typical rocker, but active training with middle weights made my figure quite attractive. Press, if anything, with blocks, like in the movies. Then he changed his wardrobe. Throwing out all the stupid old T-shirts, drew attention to stylish monotonous things that emphasize the figure. I never thought it was important, but I really liked my new look. And somehow inspired.

I began to appear often in the company of friends, but only those who became more or less successful. I met new people and learned their stories. Of course, I had short-lived romances. It's normal, part of life, right? But my bachelor life ended after I met the Light. No, we're still single. And we're fine with that, I'm sure. But since then, I haven’t flirted with anyone, I don’t sit on dating sites or even ask for phone numbers from young girls, purely out of sport. It's all in the past.



The fact is that with Sveta we have an age difference of just over 15 years. And she gives me everything. Did I think this would ever happen to me? Absolutely never! Moreover, I despised such men, considering them not even men, but pocket dogs of old women. Even more for status, not for business. But now I've changed my mind. I figured out what to do, so to speak. And I really like it.

Sveta - she's a beautiful woman. She had a few minor cosmetic surgeries on her face, but nothing special. She herself is very slim, as she has been practicing Pilates for a long time, goes to yoga and sometimes meditates. Inwardly, she and I are really close, probably because of past difficulties with partners. And in general, a woman who has just turned 50, a priori remains young. Unless it ploughs like a traction horse.



I no longer feel like a “debtor” in a relationship. I don’t understand the phrase “wasted time on you” when breaking up. We were dating, not investing. What did you spend? I would never say such nonsense to my new woman. Again, I have my own funds and I can provide myself from and to. But I just don't have a reason for that. We live near Sveta and all other expenses are also solved at her expense. Although I sometimes like to buy her relatively small gifts, like the same dress or perfume. Just because she's become my own person.

But overall... And by the way, what woman can judge me? If I am, in fact, now in the position of a typical “successful” woman who just forgot that she also has obligations. The only difference is that I don’t need to saw my partner, teach him about his life and tell him how to behave in front of his friends. I'm free. And my woman is also free next to me. Am I Alphonse? Not really. I will not give up the Light for a richer woman, even if she is younger and more attractive.



Am I a bad person? I don't think so, because I'm not spending my last money. And I don't demand expensive gifts, trips, attention. So who am I? Probably just a man who meets all modern standards. Equal rights for men and women. I have the right to be happy and she has the right to be happy. And in this life I do not see any negativity from either side. I finally started to understand girls a little. The kind of life they want from their men. But I still don’t understand why they can suddenly start scandals and tantrums from time to time. But I think I’ll take this for women’s philosophy and their famous “personal secrets.” As men, I have no need for that.