My sister and I haven't spoken in 10 years, and a couple of days ago she showed up on my doorstep and asked for a favor.

It seems that relatives and friends should always support each other and be a reliable support. However, life often happens differently. The closest ones quarrel, and then do not communicate for years. In this situation was the heroine of our history. She stopped communicating with her sister, but after many years she appeared on her doorstep.



Editorial "Site" She shares this woman's story with you. She doesn't know what to do next. Maybe you have some advice for her.

My sister and I have not spoken in the last 10 years. We didn’t see each other or congratulate each other on holidays. But the other day she appeared on my doorstep and without preface began her story. It turns out someone told her we're not living well now. So she decided to ask me for money. They say we are close people, and there is no one else to ask.



If she had come to me with this request 10 years ago, I would have refused. But now I realize that life is not black and white. Anything can happen, you can't act hot. That's why I don't know what to do. I think we should start this story over and tell you what happened.



My sister and I are sisters. Mom raised us by herself. Since childhood, we have been very friendly. I tried to help my mom and started working early. When I was 22, I got married. My husband and I moved to another city and lived separately. And Inna stayed with her mother. She got married, too. So they started living together.

I haven’t asked my mom for anything since then. I tried to help everything I could. When my mother fell asleep, I would come and bring food and leave money. I was working two jobs and raising a child. I didn’t come often, but I helped them regularly.



When my mother died, it turned out that she had transferred all the property to her sister. I don't have a penny left. The sister said that it was fair, because she was near her mother to the last. And no one thought all the treatment was paid out of my pocket. I was deeply hurt by my sister's betrayal. But then my husband supported me. He told me to leave it as it is and let it go. I did, but I didn’t want to talk to my sister anymore.



And 10 years later, she shows up on my doorstep and asks for help. She's asking me to lend her $5,000. Her son-in-law's parents said they would buy an apartment. But only on the condition that she does her part. She has no money. That's why she decided to ask me. To be honest, her request made me very angry at first.

On the one hand, I can help. But on the other hand, she did me dishonestly. She sold her mother’s house to buy an apartment for her eldest son. And now he's asking me for money for a second apartment. My husband says he will support any decision I make. And I think maybe it's time to let go of old grievances and give money. We are truly close and close people. Mom always taught us to help each other. What am I supposed to do?



The heroine of our history is a very wise woman, we think. Over the years, she was able to let go of grievances and is ready to help her sister. But maybe she won’t see that money again. Apparently, her sister does not have the means to ever return it. Maybe it makes sense to make it official. What do you think of this situation?