How to Stop Being a Single Person

Loneliness is a bad habit. Many people think that loneliness is destiny, but in fact it is our choice. Or rather, the result of cultivating traits that are incompatible with happiness.

The deficit of ordinary human communication is not compensated by material goods, social statuses, various achievements. Let’s see what really makes us lonely.

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Causes of loneliness

Waiting for the first step
Do not hesitate to show your feelings, emotions, sympathy. This is called “taking a step forward.” You don’t have to take drastic steps. A woman can not ask a man on a date first. But flirting is recommended, this is a powerful impetus for the development of relationships.

In any case, if you sit in a corner and do nothing, nothing will happen.

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Continuous monitoring
Perhaps you are a punctual, neat, neat person who has everything in its place. You plan your life without stepping away from your plan. But the people you encounter can be frightened by your desire to control them. Control has nothing to do with love and is not always appropriate in a relationship.

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Grumpyness
No matter how old you are, grumpyness adds a dozen to your age. Stop being rude. A person who is constantly dissatisfied with something and is set on a negative, does not have people in his favor.

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Abuse of gadgets
The scourge of modern society. When was the last time you met in person instead of on social media? Someone who spends too much time in the virtual world, weaned from the real.

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The desire to please everyone
When you become that comfortable person who doesn’t know how to say no, you’ll stop being happy. It is much better to have a number of real friends and faithful life companions, rather than opportunists who are looking for benefits and for imaginary friendship or relationships choose “rescuers” who are ready at any time to come to the rescue and sacrifice themselves. Establish reasonable personal boundaries. When you learn to listen to your desires, others will begin to appreciate you as a whole person who does not adapt to everyone, losing his own appearance.

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Failure to fulfil obligations
When building personal boundaries, make sure that your actions do not harm others. If you promised something to another – fulfill it, start the business – bring it to the end, borrow money – give it on time and so on. Don’t forget the people you promised to meet. It’s better to apologize on the phone if you’re late than to lose a good relationship. That is, observing your boundaries, be sure to respect the boundaries of others.

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Lack of hobbies
Hobby helps to grow from the inside, to become a whole, self-sufficient person who will be interesting to others. If you are not interested in anything, with burning eyes, with sincere interest, you do not live. Hobbies will help you attract like-minded people into your life. The causes of a person’s loneliness may lie in his apathy for everything in this life. You need to find something that encourages you to create and create.

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Active search for 'prince'
Causes of women's loneliness They are looking for a non-existent ideal. Too arrogant, too proud, unable to see the positive in those around them. They believe that “the same man” will make them happy and solve all everyday problems. In fact, they are looking for an excuse for their depression and shifting responsibility for their own inner state onto someone else.

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Persistent complaints
Sharing your feelings is normal. An understanding person will support, sympathize, help with something. It is another thing to constantly complain about life. You can't do that, it's repulsive. When both work and government are bad, and parents are bad, and housing and even the sun is too bright, the question is: Why not try to change something, look, and complain?

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Open envy
You only need to compare yourself to the former. Envy is hard to hide. When the achievements of others are annoying or depressing, those people stop talking about all the good that happens to them. Communication is gradually being stopped. Sometimes loneliness is good. There are times when you need to be away from society to understand yourself.

This “rest” should be temporary. If loneliness threatens to become a way of life, it is a signal to think and change.

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