Is it possible to invite your ex-husband home if the new mother-in-law is against it? Bashny.Net

People meet, fall in love, get married. Then comes a period when all this is no longer a joke, but the most that neither is a real family. So, in addition to the positive aspects, there is also household, duties, responsibility. Even such seemingly nonsense as good relationship with mother-in-lawIt should be at a high level. Otherwise, problems can start.



In most cases, the mother-in-law is quite open and demanding. Everyone knows how mothers treat their sons, even adults. So wives often have a hard time, sometimes even when there is practically no reason.

Good relationship with your mother-in-law. I am an adult, modern woman who was born and raised in a big city. I understand only this world, and I am not interested in any folk customs, signs and, especially, village relationships in the family. It just so happens that I am used to dynamic, confident people and I am not going to change.



I am 38 years old and have a child. Son Leo, age 8. Just 5 years ago, I separated from my first husband and part-time father of my boy. I won’t go into details long. We were just different people, but for too long we delayed the obvious. No, there was no cheating, no intrigue or anything like that that people are interested in right now.

It’s just that if a person likes to work and then rest, they will never understand another person who likes to work to achieve. My ex-husband is in the first category. I am close to self-development, career and achievement of some goals. I want to do better.



So, after the divorce, we didn't stop communicating, especially since Leva needs a father. I had no complaints about my ex, and I gave my son to my father for the weekend and not only. The boy got the love of both parents and I could focus on my tasks. I think that's perfectly normal.

Two years ago I met Victor. A young man, 1.5 years younger than me. From a poor family, he was born in the suburbs. A very energetic man, moved to the city, got a job with us and immediately showed himself a good specialist. I noticed his spark, and he in turn noticed me.



Pretty soon we moved in, and then signed. I think the first month Victor met my ex. Adults, they immediately knew who was who and did not feel any negativity towards each other. I often gave my son to my father for a while. I also liked it and it fits all the parameters.

But there was a problem. Mother-in-law. A woman with her views on life, I would even say "cockroaches." She wasn't against our relationship, but she wanted to control it. We visited several times and inspected the apartment. She praised me for being so independent. I invited you over.

But in her house, this woman is the hostess. She lives outside the city, in a small private house. With his farm, chickens, goat and a small plot of land. Such a village life. And on her territory, she radically changed her attitude towards me. “Go pick the apples, go get some water,” I wasn’t ready for that.



To the best of my ability and upbringing, of course, I tried to help my mother-in-law, but this made me extremely uncomfortable. Why work at her age near the ground when everything can be easily bought on the market? Especially since my son helps financially. We even had a little conflict, but it quickly ended in reconciliation.

The real problem came when Victor's mother found out about the ex. That he could come into our house. He could call late at night and have no complaints. At that point, she seemed to forget that this man was my son’s father.

Now my mother-in-law has issued her ultimatum: she won’t talk to me until this obscenity stops. Allegedly, I am not enough of her son, so I also build with my former schews. We, the city, apparently, have no conscience or shame left. Victor doesn't mind my views, but he can't do anything about mommy. I wonder how I can coexist with her.



I think I found the weakness of my loved one and that weakness is his mother. If I were younger and without a child, the issue would have been resolved the next day. But now I can't throw things around like that. On the other hand, the problem has not disappeared, and the bragging nature of the mother-in-law only worsens. What to do in this case, I do not understand. Fighting for a relationship or just rewinding a year ago when I was just a divorced woman?