Why You Should Not Be Overly Frank

Everyone. trouble. The first thing you want to do after an unpleasant event in your life is to tell someone about it to ease your soul.

The Silence of Man



Is it worth it? Most psychologists are convinced that it is not worth it. You want to share your grief in order to get support in return. You want to hear that you weren't guilty of anything and you just weren't lucky.





However, human psychology will not always work in your favor. In most cases, extreme frankness will only bring you more trouble.

Why You Should Not Talk About Your Failures

1. Usually we want to talk about our life problems in order to get understanding.
   
   
   
   But compassion often turns into pity. And pity is based on contempt. People look at people who are doing much worse than they are.
   
   
2. It often works in people. victimization. People are so afraid of getting into a similar situation that they try to find the person’s fault for what happened to them. For example, if someone was deceived or offended, then the person himself allowed it.
   
   
   
   Therefore, do not be surprised if after your complaints will be the fault of you.
   
   
3. If you share information about your vulnerableness With a lot of people, you can attract bad people. Many people, like vultures, always see such victims, at the expense of which you can profit.
   
   
   
   If a person is defenseless, it means that you can attack and grab something for yourself. Excessive frankness can cause a lot of trouble.
   
   
4. Some experts believe that by listing out loud your failures, you brainprogram scenarios like this. Especially if you talk about your problems very emotionally and often.
   
   
   
   
5. Of course, there are people who can and should be told about their troubles. First of all, they are genuinely loving people. Silence of a loved one It always hurts a lot, especially when you know he's in trouble and you want to help. Your family deserves the truth, if only to really support you.
   
   
   
   Second, they're specialists. Psychologists and psychotherapists, people who are specially trained to help in intractable situations.
   
   

The silence of two people Sometimes it is much more useful than an endless conversation about problems and problems of life.





If you find yourself on the other side of the barricade and you urgently need to comfort a loved one who has experienced something unpleasant, be sure to read our article about it.





Helping a person overcome the effects of severe stress is not very difficult.

The main thing is to be tolerant and cultivate tolerance.