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Why is it important to rely on your own strength?
When a person is not satisfied with his life, he wonders how to change everything. But even if the solution to the problem is obvious, many prefer to leave everything unchanged, just not to put extra effort into it. And their own lack of will is easily justified with the help of various excuses.
And today's edition. "Site" He speculates, How to change your destiny for the betterSo that life will play with new colors. Can you do that at all? Or is a person just a weak-willed observer of a long-written script of his own life? Psychologist and philosopher Anna Kiryanova will help us understand this, in her blog you can find a lot of interesting things.
Appearing in the light, a person already has an approximate scenario of life, which for him “carefully” developed by society and relatives. Others persistently look for the similarities of the baby with his parents and imagine how he will follow in the footsteps of his mother or father. And mom and dad are already dreaming of how their child will grow, for example, a great scientist or a famous athlete.
Then the child will study with tutors or go to the sports section, and every time his parents will praise him for success in moving towards their dream. And in the case of attempts to turn off the intended rut will be criticized and accused of ingratitude.
And change your destinyYou will have to abandon the birth program, the one imposed by your own family. However, this will require you to be persistent and courageous, to invest resources in laying down your personal destiny. It is a time-consuming process, but the result is worth it.
The first step is to avoid unnecessary but comfortable help. It is good when in a difficult moment there are close people who are ready to help. However, do not forget that help can be harmful. It takes resources. And the more people help, the more they need this help. Therefore, it is important to do without third-party support whenever possible.
It is easy to see that strong-minded people who have physical problems refuse help. The phrase “thank you, me” becomes their motto. It speaks of a desire to increase one’s own internal resources, because aid always weakens. They say that if you get used to crutches, your legs will weaken.
Of course, if you can not do without help, it is important. In all other situations, help simply creates a bad habit, does not allow you to get off the beaten track. And even if parents help, in return you still give energy and strength, forcing yourself to listen to other people's opinions and advice.
The most dangerous thing is to get help from loved ones who do not have everything smooth in life. Thus, together with help, you voluntarily agree to share the fate of the person who helps you.
And help should be considered any participation of a loved one in your life, not only material benefits. Refuse help and achieve success alone, because then you can help loved ones. This is definitely worthy of hard work.
Therefore, every time you decide to use someone else’s help, remember that by receiving support, you give the person the opportunity to influence your fate. So, help from a sick, aggressive, dishonest or simply unhappy person is unlikely to bring you much good.
It is one thing when you pay for a service, but it is quite another when you get free help. The latter option is acceptable only when it is vital, when it is salvation. Otherwise, it is a misdemeanor primarily against yourself.
And today's edition. "Site" He speculates, How to change your destiny for the betterSo that life will play with new colors. Can you do that at all? Or is a person just a weak-willed observer of a long-written script of his own life? Psychologist and philosopher Anna Kiryanova will help us understand this, in her blog you can find a lot of interesting things.
Appearing in the light, a person already has an approximate scenario of life, which for him “carefully” developed by society and relatives. Others persistently look for the similarities of the baby with his parents and imagine how he will follow in the footsteps of his mother or father. And mom and dad are already dreaming of how their child will grow, for example, a great scientist or a famous athlete.
Then the child will study with tutors or go to the sports section, and every time his parents will praise him for success in moving towards their dream. And in the case of attempts to turn off the intended rut will be criticized and accused of ingratitude.
And change your destinyYou will have to abandon the birth program, the one imposed by your own family. However, this will require you to be persistent and courageous, to invest resources in laying down your personal destiny. It is a time-consuming process, but the result is worth it.
The first step is to avoid unnecessary but comfortable help. It is good when in a difficult moment there are close people who are ready to help. However, do not forget that help can be harmful. It takes resources. And the more people help, the more they need this help. Therefore, it is important to do without third-party support whenever possible.
It is easy to see that strong-minded people who have physical problems refuse help. The phrase “thank you, me” becomes their motto. It speaks of a desire to increase one’s own internal resources, because aid always weakens. They say that if you get used to crutches, your legs will weaken.
Of course, if you can not do without help, it is important. In all other situations, help simply creates a bad habit, does not allow you to get off the beaten track. And even if parents help, in return you still give energy and strength, forcing yourself to listen to other people's opinions and advice.
The most dangerous thing is to get help from loved ones who do not have everything smooth in life. Thus, together with help, you voluntarily agree to share the fate of the person who helps you.
And help should be considered any participation of a loved one in your life, not only material benefits. Refuse help and achieve success alone, because then you can help loved ones. This is definitely worthy of hard work.
Therefore, every time you decide to use someone else’s help, remember that by receiving support, you give the person the opportunity to influence your fate. So, help from a sick, aggressive, dishonest or simply unhappy person is unlikely to bring you much good.
It is one thing when you pay for a service, but it is quite another when you get free help. The latter option is acceptable only when it is vital, when it is salvation. Otherwise, it is a misdemeanor primarily against yourself.