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How to Stop Being Afraid of Your Husband Going Young
I came across a topic that seemed quite relevant to me. A woman writes to us, saying that she has been living with her husband for 20 years, children were raised and everything would be fine, but at some point the relationship began to cool down, deteriorate. Now I'm afraid he'll pack up and leave for the young. Even though he's fifty, he looks very good, healthy. These are ours. marriage.
Editorial "Site" This letter can not pass, so we began to collect information. We found out what psychologists think, the comments read different. In fact, they agree with something and not with something. We're thinking about leaving it to you, but of course we have our own opinion. We'll tell you at the end. Now let’s think about what to do in this situation.
As it turned out, this fear is quite common. In the modern world, feelings have somehow leveled, people often treat each other rather carelessly. Also, relatives can add fuel to the fire with their advice about, say, appearance and life. From this complexes only grow, and the fear does not disappear. Here are some tips to avoid in a relationship.
What Psychologists Say
The problem has other roots, and it’s not because you’re old. It's all about common ground. If there is nothing in common, what relationship can we talk about? Let’s say you got married because of an unplanned pregnancy, raised a baby together, did everything for him. And now he is twenty, he has grown up and lives his life. What do you have left?
It’s a rhetorical question, because during that time, you’ve gone through a lot of things together, built a whole world. Destroying it would be a disaster. And do not think that your man does not understand or feel anything. That would probably be a mistake. Let's see how we can warm up the cooling feelings together.
Normal Spouse Relationships
Everything we’ve written here applies to men as well. A separate advice for them – if your woman is afraid, help her cope with this fear. And more. If the decision is made to part, do not enter into a painful depression and do not lose dignity - let it go on all four sides. Your life doesn't end there. However, we are sure that this will not happen.
Theme marriage Very sensitive. We want all people to be happy and relationships to be harmonious. Therefore, we conjure – love each other! Love with all your might! And finally, look at this one.
This will help you look at family relationships a little differently. We wish you luck in everything.
Editorial "Site" This letter can not pass, so we began to collect information. We found out what psychologists think, the comments read different. In fact, they agree with something and not with something. We're thinking about leaving it to you, but of course we have our own opinion. We'll tell you at the end. Now let’s think about what to do in this situation.
As it turned out, this fear is quite common. In the modern world, feelings have somehow leveled, people often treat each other rather carelessly. Also, relatives can add fuel to the fire with their advice about, say, appearance and life. From this complexes only grow, and the fear does not disappear. Here are some tips to avoid in a relationship.
What Psychologists Say
- Don't be too young. It is better to accept yourself as you are, it is important to conform to your status and age, not to go beyond common sense. Youth trends, fitting clothes and even facial plasticity – all this should not be within a reasonable framework.
- Not the best option is jealousy. If you haven’t been jealous of your man yet, and now you’ve taken it, it’s a wake-up call for him too. You see, he'll confirm that the young is better. And that's the opinion you're instilling in him.
- Show your man you're still candy and get a boyfriend, even if it's just a look. You can, of course, but it will not solve the main problem, will not deprive you of fear. Temporarily, of course, you will raise your self-esteem, but euphoria will again be replaced by neurosis. Because that's not where you're looking.
The problem has other roots, and it’s not because you’re old. It's all about common ground. If there is nothing in common, what relationship can we talk about? Let’s say you got married because of an unplanned pregnancy, raised a baby together, did everything for him. And now he is twenty, he has grown up and lives his life. What do you have left?
It’s a rhetorical question, because during that time, you’ve gone through a lot of things together, built a whole world. Destroying it would be a disaster. And do not think that your man does not understand or feel anything. That would probably be a mistake. Let's see how we can warm up the cooling feelings together.
Normal Spouse Relationships
- Go together on a trip, on a cruise or just for a walk. This is romance, adventure, and warm feelings from the fact that there is a close person nearby. It feels incredible!
- Who better than you should spend more time together? Yes, everyone has their own interests, but breakfast or dinner must be shared. You can team up to prepare something tasty, plan a budget, discuss future purchases.
- Have a special time once a week. Like Friday night. Or Sunday morning. Gather the whole family of Ivanovs, Petrovs or Sidorovs and explore together restaurants, museums, luna parks and shopping malls. With children, grandchildren and even friends.
- Remember that only in a dispute is truth born. In practice, it looks like this: if there is a problem, it is always necessary to discuss it, make it clear what is disturbing, what are fears, what worries. Twenty years later, we are very different, and telepathy is still not invented. Talk about everything and your feelings too.
Everything we’ve written here applies to men as well. A separate advice for them – if your woman is afraid, help her cope with this fear. And more. If the decision is made to part, do not enter into a painful depression and do not lose dignity - let it go on all four sides. Your life doesn't end there. However, we are sure that this will not happen.
Theme marriage Very sensitive. We want all people to be happy and relationships to be harmonious. Therefore, we conjure – love each other! Love with all your might! And finally, look at this one.
This will help you look at family relationships a little differently. We wish you luck in everything.
