Husband at the last minute refused to move and stayed with his mother-in-law, I do not know how to cope with the experiences

For any married girl or woman weak-man It is the cause of most sadness and disappointment. A woman should feel a strong shoulder and support. And if it is not, then love, no matter how strong it is, will evaporate sooner or later.



It is especially difficult to be close to a man who shows weakness towards his mother. An adult, self-sufficient person will not make concessions that concern his wife and children. Especially if it's the usual whims of an older woman.

Weak husband Higher education I received far from home. More than 600 kilometers to be exact. I learned well, and I met a young man who later became my husband and father of my children.



Right away, we moved in with him. Or rather, the apartment of his mother, one who inherited. Her mother-in-law continued to live with her father-in-law in the village. As time passed, our family began to form and grow stronger. But not a week passed without Vladimir’s mother coming to us. My mother-in-law practically lived with us.

Then more. We had a daughter. My mother-in-law never stopped coming, even though there was less room. Of course, sometimes she brought gifts and even sat with her granddaughter a couple of times while my husband and I went to the city to spend some time together. But this was quite rare and, in fact, in most cases, it was her who had to babysit.



After college, when we both found a good job, there was a second child. I had to take the decree again, and the four of us were already living in the same one-room apartment. There was nowhere to turn around. Family life went downhill, and here is the eternal theme with her mother-in-law, who did not think to end her eternal trips to visit us.

I was screaming and hysterical. She asked her husband to talk to her mother. A couple of times she even fell out in front of her eyes. But they, like two images, did not want to change at all: the husband could not say no to his mother, and she, in turn, simply shrugged and came, if not a week later, then two for sure. And her visits could have been even longer after that.



The decision came somehow by itself. My sister, who had been in a relationship with me all along, offered to move in with her. She was still living in my hometown, and it just so happened that her neighbors were moving. They left a spacious apartment and were looking for tenants who would only look after the living space. The payment was for the communal. The area is not very, so there were not many people who wanted to.

After a conversation with Volodya, it was decided to move. He couldn’t go straight to a new place, it took time. But I was not held back, on the contrary, as you probably already understood. I gathered the children, and in a few days we were already on our way from the station to our new home. Meeting my sister and old friends, but that's not my story.



And then the phone rang. I answer with a good mood: the voice of my husband is in the tube. And he tells me he can't come. You see, Mom can't take it without us. She's sick. What kind of son would he be if he left his mother like that? And then what? In short, he will stay with her for the time being. Send money to the kids and maybe come in a couple of months for a while. And then back.

You can't imagine how bad I got. It's all about family collapse. I thought about it for a long time and now I am a little calm. Maybe that's how it was supposed to be? Maybe I need to calm down, find a job and a new man. And what is wrong, if my father left us, how I turn and on whom to rely in my native, but so far away city? I am slowly forgetting my husband.



It is a sad story, especially when you consider that the mother-in-law, aka grandmother, interferes with the normal childhood of their grandchildren. We can only hope that everything will end on a good note and Vladimir will understand that adult men should be responsible for their family. Not without it.