How to gently refuse relatives that asked to give them a house

If you are selling a property, it is very important to observe everything. deal. Nobody wants to get into trouble when it comes to such a serious matter. But what if there are relatives on the horizon who think they can offer their own terms? It seems that family ties are not enough here.



Today we will tell you a story that can happen to anyone. The main thing is not to lose your temper and make the right choice. Let's see if the main character of the story did it.

For many years my family has lived in a private house. As long as our children lived with us, that made sense. But when they fluttered out of their parent’s nest, my husband and I realized that we simply do not need such a large house. And maintaining a whole household is not an easy task. And we're not young anymore.

In general, my husband and I weighed the pros and cons and after a long meeting decided that it was time to sell the house. With the proceeds, we want to buy a small one-room apartment in the city. And put the rest in the account. So they can report their own and in the future buy their own housing.



© Freepik Having enlisted the support of a familiar realtor, we put our monastery up for sale. It's not a joke. So we decided not to experiment with it, given that we have no experience at all. Tatiana immediately warned that it will take time and patience. Buyers must be decent and follow all the rules of the transaction.

I received a phone call from my sister 2 weeks later. It wasn't a realtor, it was my cousin. "Lyudka, we're told you're selling the house. I have a business proposition. Let my daughter live there, and I will pay you every month for the house, Tamara said.



I was upset, but I did not want to fight with my relatives. Although my sister's audacity can only be envied. In the past 5 years, she has never remembered us. All after our little fight, which happened when Tamara and her husband came to my anniversary. And here's bang! Resentment is forgotten just to get a house.

“Think for yourself, you will spend half your life looking for buyers. And I'm ready to pay you a monthly fee right now. Consider it a sort of installment, just for relatives. Isn't that beautiful? her sister said.



I was wondering how Tamara imagined it. It turned out that she did not even want to issue documents. They say, in words, agree, “we are relatives.” I know this family! That's not going to happen, I was sure of that.

Tamara said no. Politely, not strictly. I think she got mad at me again, hung up on me without even saying goodbye. My husband fully supported me, but the unpleasant residue in the soul still remained. Maybe I should've taken it easy on her.



In the meantime, we are still looking for decent buyers. They say he who seeks will find. I hope that will happen as soon as possible. I feel my heart: now all our relatives will remember us sharply.

The presence of family ties does not oblige people to follow each other. Very often it happens that a person just takes advantage of his position, puts pressure on pity, or even completely violates the personal boundaries of his relative.



© Freepik In such situations, it is very important to be able to refuse. Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to do this, and then bite the elbows. However, this skill is vital when communicating with any person, whether a colleague or a close friend. On how to learn to refuse firmly, but politely, read our article.

Do you think the heroine of the story did the right thing? Have you experienced similar situations and how did you find a way out? They shared their impressions in the comments. And thank you for staying with us!