What to do if children care only because of a will

The older we get, the faster time flies. Before you know it, you're 60, kids are grown and babysitting their kids. It is very important that in old age there are relatives who will not let you get bored, and will support when you need help. I wish it were, but when it comes to possessions, people get greedy. The saddest thing is that close people begin to behave selfishly. Probate heirs often argue over who gets the bigger piece. At the same time, greedy people forget that we are talking about their elderly parents and overstep all boundaries. There was an unpleasant situation with one of our readers. I have to say that in the end she did the right thing.



In the middle of the summer in the country I suddenly became ill. I'm not young, I've been 65 years. I had a son and wife that day. If they hadn't, I don't know what would have happened to me. They put me in a car and took me to the city hospital. The daughter-in-law of all the doctors she knew put on her ears when we were on the way. In the hospital, I was examined by specialists and prescribed treatment.

Natasha's relatives are doctors, so I'm lucky. They recommended a good clinic where I was examined from head to toe. Until the moment of recovery, everything was like a fairy tale: a separate room, pleasant doctors and delicious food. It was a serious case, but in the end everything was fine. My Grisha and Natasha paid for everything, provided me with care after discharge.



Natalia even cleaned up my house so that I could return to a clean home and feel good. We bought all the necessary medicines and filled the refrigerator with food. During that difficult period, the children helped me a lot. Who better to take care of a sick old woman?

When I finally felt better, Natalia decided to seriously discuss one burning issue. He said, “Larissa Ivanovna, make a will for your son.” I feel bad because I have another daughter, Olga. In the meantime, the daughter-in-law continued: Of course, we wish you to live to a hundred years, but you understand. Health does not get better over the years. Without connections and money, it will be difficult for an elderly person to take care of themselves. If you make a will for Grisha, we will certainly provide you with the best specialists and will take care of you as expected.



Natasha's monologue gave me food for thought. For the first time, I was pushed to make a choice that I didn’t even think about, and it turned out to be time. I have two children: Grisha and Olya. Grisha and Natasha are not poor, they have an apartment, but no children. When Gregory got engaged to his daughter-in-law, she said that they would not have children. And since she'll be 40 this year, she'll probably be. This topic is already closed..



Olga lives much more modestly, besides she has two young children. She and her husband are barely making ends meet, recently took out a loan. I see how hard it is for them, I try to hand over conservation, and sometimes I put money in my daughter’s pocket.



Natasha will not calm down, says that Olya never visited me in the hospital, and they, they say, were always there. So Olga is on maternity leave, so what will she leave two children? And they're not allowed in the room with them. She called me every day and asked me how I felt.

But Natasha insisted, said that the will should be issued on the one who takes care of parents. Or, he says, they will take care of me half, and let Olya do the rest. Soon we went to the notary, and I indicated in my will that my son would get my two-piece. Only my son upset me, sat and ducked at one point while my daughter-in-law talked about the will. After that trip, I kept thinking that I had done the wrong thing.



What if my son wanted a bicycle and I bought him half and the other told him to ask my father to buy it? That's all wrong. A week later, I went to the notary and reissued the will. There indicated that the apartment will inherit Olga with children, she needs more. And I will give my little cottage, so be it, Grisha and his wife. The cottage costs a little, maybe for a symbolic amount and sell, they are not poor people.

I didn’t tell anyone about the change, it would be a surprise. I want to live my old age without these trials. Everyone gets what they deserve. Only about Grisha I think, did I raise my son so badly or is it about my daughter-in-law?



I don't want to think grown-up kids are visiting you because of a will. What if there were no apartments, would leave an elderly woman alone? The editorial board is sure that it is necessary to act according to conscience and not to go along with greedy people. We think Larisa Ivanovna did the right thing, and what do you say?