The former worked on dating sites, pretending to be a woman, so deleted their profiles from there

With the development of the Internet, it became possible not only to work remotely, study or go shopping, but even get acquainted. Instantly appeared and became popular various services where you can not only communicate with interesting people, but even find true love. Really, dating They live too. And you have to be careful not to get hooked.

So today's editorial office. "Site" Wants to talk more about the dark sides of dating sites and similar dating (from the word date - date) services. After all, ordinary users do not always guess that behind a beautiful cover they are waiting for a cunning deception.



The first thing to say about scammers who are rubbed into trust, under a plausible pretext to solicit money from their “interlocutor”. It is interesting that such networks often come across single women over the age of 40 who are looking for true love. And they find unscrupulous scoundrels who are only interested in money.



As a result, the funds were lost irretrievably, and the long-awaited meeting did not take place, and trust in such services (as well as in humanity as a whole) was seriously shaken.

Such scammers can act in different ways, but by some signs they can be identified. They usually confess their love almost instantly. Almost immediately offer to leave the dating site to go to social networks. There, the cunning people feel more confident.

The photos they sent look like they are from glossy magazines. These people are often presented as foreigners. But most importantly, they have every time “suddenly” something happens, because of which they need help.

Most often, scammers are caught on unpromoted sites, where the user protection system is quite raw. Therefore, we can advise you to use only services with a proven reputation, do not follow suspicious links in messages, and just be vigilant.



In addition to scammers on dating sites, there are also relatively honest people who come here with a variety of goals. According to statistics, about half of users use dating sites for entertainment and finding friends.

Interestingly, only one in five people are looking for a couple. Love pleasures are desired by 18% of men and only 5% of women. At the same time, one in ten (regardless of gender) is looking for a partner for a long-term relationship or even to start a family. 10% of men and 14% of women refused to answer why they use dating sites.

Naturally, the average user, depending on their goals, behaves accordingly. Someone posts carefully retouched photos or photos from a decade ago (where they look younger), or even someone else’s. And someone in his profile adds a dozen centimeters of growth or “takes away” a dozen kilograms of weight. Such things are quite obvious and explainable.

However, sometimes the owners of the services themselves cheat along with the users. And it will be better if you talk about it from the words of those who know well how such platforms for dating work.



What else you need to know about dating sites

1. My ex-boyfriend worked for an Italian dating site. His job was to pretend to be a pretty woman and write to men. The site is designed so that to communicate guys had to buy or renew a paid subscription. As soon as they paid for it and signed it off, he stopped answering.”
2. About 10 years ago, I was working as a programmer on a website where most women's profiles were generated using random data and stock photos. The site was for guys who paid to get to know each other. The girls were given free access so that the difference in the number of real girls and boys was not so huge.”
3. 4 years ago I worked at Bumble. The saddest thing for me was that 91% of emails started with a single word like “hello.” And 85 per cent of all correspondence ended after the first communication.”
4. “My friend works on a pretty big dating site. So, the essence of its work is to remove inappropriate images. In other words, she looks 5 days a week from morning to evening at the male body parts that are not discussed in decent society.
   
   
   
   

Interestingly, many services use attractive bots that impersonate real people and perfectly imitate interest. They ask questions like “How are you?”, “What are you doing here?” or “Who are you looking for?” Delicately involved in the conversation and motivated to use the service. Then they disappear.

However, a person has already been hooked and continues to use this service, discovers its capabilities and gets acquainted with quite real (but this is not accurate) users. And there and registration of a paid premium account is not far off.



As you can see, there are pitfalls in online dating, so you should be aware of them. But this is no reason to abandon the use of such sites. After all, here you can really look for a soul mate, make friends or just have fun. The main thing is to act wisely and not have high hopes. Then there will be less disappointment.