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How much to pay a grandmother to sit with her grandchildren
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It often happens that a grandmother is forced to sit with her grandchildren during the day while the children are at work. Many couples have faced this situation, but what to do, work is work. The main thing in this case is no grandmaShe spends her time and health on a child.
But as we know, everything is learned by comparison. And just because one person wants to offer their support and help children doesn’t mean everyone is like that. Our reader shares her observations and sincerely does not understand her mother-in-law, who suddenly decided that she needed to be provided.
My mother is a woman who worked all her life in a factory and is now retired. She is 61 years old and loves her granddaughter. Dad's still working, so you could say they have enough money. My mother loves to do all kinds of needlework, especially she likes to make soap. It even generated some income. I have to admit that in this matter I went to my father.
© Freepic A year ago I was offered a promotion if I quit my maternity leave. After much thought, I agreed. Not the last role in this was played by my mother, as she agreed to help me and my husband on the household. Cooking dinner, babysitting, and some small things. We work until the evening and without her help we would not have pulled out such a regime.
It’s even easier for us to come home tired, but with a sense of accomplishment. The apartment is clean, the child is fed, all things are in their places, nothing is lying around. I'm ashamed to admit, but it's hard for me to do routine work, let alone my husband.
But don't think about it, my mom and I agreed from the beginning. Twice a month, my husband and I are supposed to give a part of my salary to my mother, and we consider it the least we can pay at the moment. We think it’s best because my career is evolving and I don’t have to worry about my home routine. Mom sees her granddaughter, and she's fine.
You can’t say that my mother ever asked for something too much. Again, my father works, and they don't need anything special. Of course, we give gifts for the holidays, but give up something dear when offered to us by my parents.
On the other hand, my mother-in-law, my husband's mother-in-law, is a little older. She's 65. She has been in retirement for a long time, I must say, pretty good. He does not come to us, except once every six months and then, only on the insistence of his husband. In general, I am satisfied with this, and I am not going to demand any changes.
But more recently, her bosom friend went on vacation to the boarding house. She liked it so much that she was buzzing my mother-in-law's ears. You will be resting (from what?!), you will be resting. Fresh air, delicious food, there is a place to walk. Shift, he says, settings.
Mother-in-law, in turn, is a lover of walks and outdoor activities, even in the pool signed up. She listened to her friend, and she, of course, wanted to shake the old days. That's just she has no money, did not save, and did not try, in general. Who's supposed to pay for it? Of course, my beloved son!
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Well, Grandma came to visit her granddaughter and, therefore, told us her sad story. My husband wanted to help my mother, and I understand. But I suddenly felt hurt. My mother, like work, comes to us like a bayonet, and sometimes leaves even later if we are late. It's not fair!
And I decided that it would be fair if my mother-in-law also helped us a little: a month would sit with my granddaughter, and my mother finally rested. To be honest, I was really excited about this opportunity.
That's just my proposal was immediately perceived with hostility: age does not allow, and in general, what it is that the son did not help the old mother. Where's his conscience?! The husband was sad in the shower, it was obvious. But to his credit, he didn't. I repeated my arguments, even suggested not to cook me dinner, still going on a diet. But the granddaughter and the son somehow can try.
But none. She left us with scandal and resentment. Even scared my daughter. My husband speaks to me through his teeth, although he does not say any complaints. It was my fault. But please tell me why it turns out that my mother is in my working conditions, and not for the most generous payment. And can my mother-in-law take money from our family budget at the first wish?
But as we know, everything is learned by comparison. And just because one person wants to offer their support and help children doesn’t mean everyone is like that. Our reader shares her observations and sincerely does not understand her mother-in-law, who suddenly decided that she needed to be provided.
My mother is a woman who worked all her life in a factory and is now retired. She is 61 years old and loves her granddaughter. Dad's still working, so you could say they have enough money. My mother loves to do all kinds of needlework, especially she likes to make soap. It even generated some income. I have to admit that in this matter I went to my father.
© Freepic A year ago I was offered a promotion if I quit my maternity leave. After much thought, I agreed. Not the last role in this was played by my mother, as she agreed to help me and my husband on the household. Cooking dinner, babysitting, and some small things. We work until the evening and without her help we would not have pulled out such a regime.
It’s even easier for us to come home tired, but with a sense of accomplishment. The apartment is clean, the child is fed, all things are in their places, nothing is lying around. I'm ashamed to admit, but it's hard for me to do routine work, let alone my husband.
But don't think about it, my mom and I agreed from the beginning. Twice a month, my husband and I are supposed to give a part of my salary to my mother, and we consider it the least we can pay at the moment. We think it’s best because my career is evolving and I don’t have to worry about my home routine. Mom sees her granddaughter, and she's fine.
You can’t say that my mother ever asked for something too much. Again, my father works, and they don't need anything special. Of course, we give gifts for the holidays, but give up something dear when offered to us by my parents.
On the other hand, my mother-in-law, my husband's mother-in-law, is a little older. She's 65. She has been in retirement for a long time, I must say, pretty good. He does not come to us, except once every six months and then, only on the insistence of his husband. In general, I am satisfied with this, and I am not going to demand any changes.
But more recently, her bosom friend went on vacation to the boarding house. She liked it so much that she was buzzing my mother-in-law's ears. You will be resting (from what?!), you will be resting. Fresh air, delicious food, there is a place to walk. Shift, he says, settings.
Mother-in-law, in turn, is a lover of walks and outdoor activities, even in the pool signed up. She listened to her friend, and she, of course, wanted to shake the old days. That's just she has no money, did not save, and did not try, in general. Who's supposed to pay for it? Of course, my beloved son!
56629.
Well, Grandma came to visit her granddaughter and, therefore, told us her sad story. My husband wanted to help my mother, and I understand. But I suddenly felt hurt. My mother, like work, comes to us like a bayonet, and sometimes leaves even later if we are late. It's not fair!
And I decided that it would be fair if my mother-in-law also helped us a little: a month would sit with my granddaughter, and my mother finally rested. To be honest, I was really excited about this opportunity.
That's just my proposal was immediately perceived with hostility: age does not allow, and in general, what it is that the son did not help the old mother. Where's his conscience?! The husband was sad in the shower, it was obvious. But to his credit, he didn't. I repeated my arguments, even suggested not to cook me dinner, still going on a diet. But the granddaughter and the son somehow can try.
But none. She left us with scandal and resentment. Even scared my daughter. My husband speaks to me through his teeth, although he does not say any complaints. It was my fault. But please tell me why it turns out that my mother is in my working conditions, and not for the most generous payment. And can my mother-in-law take money from our family budget at the first wish?
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