What not to do even for your favorite grandchildren

My parents always worked very hard, and they had almost no time for joint leisure with me. But I had the best grandmother in the world, who managed to raise me a decent and responsible person (for which I will always be grateful to her).

Many grandmothers try to achieve the gratitude and love of grandchildren through gifts and permissiveness. And it seems that everyone understands that it is not worth it, but still continue to follow this tactic.



Today's edition. "Site" He will talk about the most common mistakes in the upbringing of grandchildren and explain why you should not allow them, as well as share tips on how to be awarded the title of the best grandmother in the world, without resorting to tricks and various manipulations.

The best grandmother.

1. A good grandmother will never criticize the methods of parenting. Modern education of children, of course, has a huge number of differences with the one that was adopted before. However, you must understand that this does not make it bad or wrong.
2. Judging parents by the eyes of a child is also not the best idea. All difficult issues should be discussed exclusively between adults. A child should not feel guilty for still loving his or her parents when they hurt his or her grandmother.
3. Do not expect that your sudden visit will greatly please children and grandchildren. Even the closest and most loved people need personal space and time to take a break from each other.
   
   
   
   
4. Some grandmothers are so happy to spend time with their grandchildren that they are even willing to neglect the established regime of the day. It should be understood that parents do not in vain send the child to bed at exactly 10 p.m. or call for lunch at 2 p.m. If you do not teach a child from an early age to observe a certain regimen, in adulthood he may have many problems, because of which he will not be able to fully realize himself.
5. We all know how grandparents like to buy something delicious. It's actually really cool. For many adults, grandmother’s cinnamon buns and chocolate cookies are on the list of best childhood memories. However, you should not be too zealous with sweets, because no matter how tasty they are, and they do not bring much benefit to the body.
6. In addition to the previous point, it is worth noting that in principle it is not necessary to challenge and try to change the eating habits of the family. Even if it seems that your diet is much better and more useful for grandchildren than the one offered by parents.
   
   
   
   
7. A good grandmother will not criticize parents for refusing to name their first child after their great-grandfather.
8. Paying off grandchildren with gifts instead of giving them a little time is also a bad idea. Strangely, some grandmothers do believe that expensive gifts can replace the care and life lessons that could help them cope with life’s failures in the future.
9. The best grandmother in the world will never try to cure a child with the help of dubious folk remedies. Herbal tea and prayer for grandchildren can be a great addition, but not the main way to treat the disease.
   
   
   
   
10. Perhaps it would be superfluous to talk about how painful it is for a child that his brother or sister is loved more? But perhaps it is news that children notice and understand perfectly well when a grandmother has a favorite. In any case, do not do this to your grandchildren. This can negatively affect not only your relationship, but also the relationship between the children themselves.
11. A responsible grandmother will never change the appearance of her grandchild. If parents do not allow their 10-year-old daughter to prick her ears, their decision must be respected. In the end, when the baby grows up, she will be able to make a more balanced decision and find her way to the salon without any problems.
12. Good grandmothers are always eager to help their granddaughters and their parents financially. And the best help only when it is really necessary and only after consulting with parents.
    
    
    
    
13. Instead of letting your child watch TV or play computer games all day long, a good grandmother will try to get her grandson interested in educational literature or board games.
14. No loving grandmother would compare grandchildren to their parents. They will not be blamed for doing the same thing.
15. Among other things, it is necessary to refrain from serious conversations with children without prior approval of such with parents.
    
    
    
    
16. A good grandmother will not ignore the requests of parents regarding the hygiene and safety of the child.
17. And especially not allow yourself to throw away promises that you can not fulfill.
18. It's stupid to be jealous of a second pair of grandparents. And again, many people can’t get rid of this addiction, even realizing it.
    
    
    
    
19. Good grandmothers won’t override parents’ punishments and undermine their authority.
20. In addition, they will not allow themselves to punish the child in ways that parents consider unacceptable.

As you can see, being the best grandmother is not an easy task. But it's still achievable, isn't it? We would be happy to hear your opinion on this. We look forward to comments and new meetings. Have a good day!