Ten phrases that will never fly from the mouth of a loving grandmother

Every grandmother thinks she's doing everything she can to make her grandchildren happy. But unfortunately, very often the views of grandmothers on raising a child do not coincide with the vision of parents.



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How to become a favorite of your grandchildren and not spoil relationship? First, remember these 10 stop phrases that a good grandmother will never say.

Grandma's words

1. Who dresses kids like that?
   Or, “Can you wear that on the street?” We understand that this is the best of intentions! But if your grandkids are dressed like that, then you have to accept it. After all, it's not your child, any grandmother has far fewer rights in raising children than their birth mother. And yes, maybe you're just a little behind on modern fashion?
   
   
   
   
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2. Didn't they teach you that at home?
   There is a set of skills that, according to grandmothers, all grandchildren should have. But the children are not perfect, and suddenly it turns out that the beloved granddaughter does not know how to iron clothes or peel potatoes. This is a phrase that offends children. First, it affects parents, and children usually stand up for their moms and dads. Secondly, the word itself has been taught... It's like a dog to a port team.
   
   
   
   
   
3. What kind of child will grow out of?
   First, why “what” and not “who”? And secondly, even if you said, "Which child will grow up?" - still hurt! There is doubt, if not doubt, that “nothing is good.” And if Grandma is not sure about the future of her grandson, then who is?
   
   
   
   
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4. There was no such thing today.
   These words sound like hidden criticism. Of course not! There used to be no video games, tablets, or robots, but that doesn’t mean that a modern child should play with wooden toys.
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5. My neighbor’s son was five months old.
   It is great if other people's children are ahead of the pace of development. But you don’t have to pass it on to your grandchildren. All children are individual and develop differently. And yes, such statements will hurt any mother!
6. I'm older, so I know better.
   Believe me, these words are more likely to irritate your children and grandchildren, but not respect! Of course, a huge life experience can sometimes be useful. But uttering this phrase, you literally humiliate a person, as if hiding its second meaning: “You have not yet grown up!”
   
   
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7. You look like your father.
   Or your mother. Or sister, second cousin niece, it doesn't matter. You can’t compare it to a failed relative. Any negative comparisons should be excluded.
8. I’m not the best grandmother, but...
   You don’t have to ask your kids to convince you otherwise and give you compliments. Don’t compare yourself to another grandmother. Accept the fact that the child has two grandmothers, and try to give him warmth and care.
   
   
   
9. She was so pretty. Where'd you go?
   And now the Kikimore is swampy! In fact, children worry about their appearance, and such phrases can easily impose an inferiority complex!
10. I do everything for you.
    Why? No one wants these victims! Live for yourself. And spend time with your relatives when communication is really fun for both grandchildren and you.
    
    
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