What to do for a middle-aged woman who has accepted that she will live alone all her life

For some reason, it is female loneliness that causes others to want to show sympathy and support. It is believed that a successful marriage is the basis of a happy life of any woman. And if a woman does not have a beloved man in her life, she is doomed to suffering. But is that really true? Editorial "Site" Ask for the opinion of the “unfortunate” lonely woman.

One day, gathered at lunch with my friends, I suddenly found myself sitting at the table alone without a couple. Half an hour later I realized it wasn’t just me. All those present considered it their duty to ask how I am doing on the personal front. When I answered that at the moment I do not have close relationships, my friends only nodded understandingly, advising me to be filled with hopes for happy love and tune in to marriage and a prosperous personal life.



I have never been particularly embarrassed by my loneliness. More than that, I was happy to be free and independent. But that day I felt just awful. When I got home, all I thought about was, “Is my situation really that bad?”



I haven’t had a serious relationship in a long time. For more than three years, it did not go beyond two-week novels. And after meeting my friends, I began to think that this would always be the case.



I really like my life. Even without a long-term love relationship, I managed to fully fulfill myself and become a truly interesting person. I have a favorite job, wonderful friends, goals, dreams and a lot of hobbies. I like to meet new people and not burden myself with obligations to one man.



But when they hear it, they take it as an excuse. And I think that's what makes me feel so unhappy sometimes. It is not the very fact of loneliness that is depressing, but the fact that relatives do not accept it as your choice. It’s hard to understand how a woman who has never worn a wedding dress can be happy.



Now I can safely say that female loneliness is a heavy burden. But it is heavy only from misunderstanding and condemnation of others.



It is not loneliness that makes a woman unhappy, but the fact that everyone is persistently trying to convince her that she should be.