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A woman makes a man a man?

You know, somehow it became popular all the blame for the failed relationship to impose on women. Drunkenness, infidelity, aggression is convenient to explain the fact that "male behavior is just a consequence of women". It's hard not to agree that we all somehow affect each other, especially in a relationship. However, let's not forget that everyone has a choice. You can talk and find out what is wrong, it is possible to change something and to try to establish, you can leave and start looking for another pair, you can not divorce and have an affair "on the side"... to do or not to Do – people to decide.





Those who say that man will not find a way to fix the relationship, that the development and preservation of relationships – only a women's prerogative, I think, mean some infantile men. They need to lead, to direct, to teach, to instruct, to explain.

Now a woman is fashionable to ascribe superpowers to influence men.It seems that the healthier for both sexes is the division of responsibilities. Affect you can only to what manages that depends on you directly. But directly from itself, depend only on yourself. Because on the other person depends on a lot of other factors: its own will, or lack thereof, family upbringing, relationships with parents and the basic attitude to the world, personality traits, mental health, and the presence of complexes, intelligence, in the end. No one can convince, to force, to compel, to inspire people to do what he wants to do.

"Man will not be sure if you are going to instill confidence in him. He will not be responsible and purposeful, if you are not ready to trust him. He will not be brave and emotionally stable, if you will, to doubt, to criticize for mistakes to make trouble. He is not the head of the family until you stop fighting for power in the family and "give myself in his strong hands."

Sure, a man can be confident, responsible and purposeful, brave and emotionally stable by itself. Without the presence of women in his life. Only this category "made himself". And it's men.

Become the head of the family – such a need arises from men not because a woman close to bad or well-behaved. But because he wanted to. The woman's behavior can be an incentive, but the motive is born inside.When the man he loves. Then the incentive is significant, and the motive appears.





Is it possible to knock the man out of the way when he learned a lot about myself: who he is, why he is, who he wants to live and how? What do you think?

I'm sure no external deification does not force man to change. Let's be honest, every man is the first and greatest love is his mother. And since much of her with all the force of unconditional love could not inspire man to feats, any another woman this is unlikely. But change is possible. A man can change. But only when you feel the need. What will be the driving force behind it, only he knows. Love, self-esteem, power or something else. A loving woman will always support, praise, be proud of your man. But let's not deceive ourselves: to inspire changes only one who was ready for them.

It is interesting that, according to some experts, to inspire a man can only be a weak woman. In order to get a man to become strong, you have de to be weak. Only then will he be able to occupy a dominant position in Union with a woman.

What is strength and what is weakness? There are clear criteria and a clear definition? Dominance in the family implies that one person for some better performance, higher than the other person. Otherwise, what reason suddenly he has a right to dominate?

If we talk about physical strength, it is silly to discuss: a man by nature stronger. It gives the right to dominate? If we talk about the power of the spirit, that is a very beautiful expression: "the Strong is not the one who does not fall, the strong one who rises". This power women possess in perfection. And weakness? Can it be considered a weakness of emotion? Probably no, because to prove the dependence of social success from the developed emotional intelligence. And weak man, who at the end of a hard day, put his head on his knees for his beloved "pogelanie"?

Dominance implies the existence of superior and subordinate. And staff did not inspire. They are afraid of. To stumble, to do something not so, not to please the boss, get reward, get punishment. But the sentence, as gallant and protective attitude, too?

I wish marriage was a Union of two is not equal biologically, but equivalent individuals who know how to negotiate, respect each other, resolve issues within its competence without regard to who is the boss. Can not be worse than trying to fit their relationship in the "proper organization" of the family written by someone rules even if these rules are rooted in ancient history.

PS In an interview, Russian actor Georgy Taratorkin to a journalist's question: "Why did you move with his wife to Moscow, although he was a famous actor in Leningrad, and not moved it for yourself?", replied: "Because she has the right to the same creative fate as me." published

 

Author: Lilia Ahremchik

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind - together we change the world! ©

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