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Self-esteem: the scale that you constantly give light weight
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Self — esteem is these scales that will you to give light weight. So it seems to me the design of this concept. Now self esteem is one of the most popular psychological terms, which has become more worldly, than psychological. We often perceive self-assessment as an integral part of the psyche, as if it were such a body, located somewhere inside that either good works or bad. Either it is high or low, then falls, then rises.
There are many ideas about how to raise self-esteem. Some believe that it needs someone to humiliate and over someone to assert themselves. But this way of raising self-esteem is not particularly prestigious in society many believe that it is primitive and immoral, and the glory of God.
More prestigious ways to raise self esteem is to do something extraordinary, be successful, be all you need to earn status and respect, etc., etc., that is, to raise self-esteem,need something sootvetstvovatü high social standards, expectations of other people, the table of ranks.
In psychologically advanced circles such options are not particularly welcome - it is believed that if in their self-assessment the person focuses on some standards, it is dependent on other people's opinions, standards and regulations. Social addict shorter.
Psychologically prestigious option is to stop to depend in his self-esteem from something external, and myself to appreciate. And here the logic rests on the mystical concept of "love yourself". Mystical, because it's extremely mysterious and unfathomable for most people the action that it is impossible to understand the mind and the yardstick to measure. This, they say, you can learn, but the long and difficult way, and without warranties.
It turns out that whatever psychological issue the person has not arisen, it all comes down to the fact that we need to love and appreciate yourself. And that in itself becomes a problem.Love yourself in the end is another social standardthat many people try to fit in.
And yet it turns out, they feel inferior. As if something inside of them is damaged — say, a defect of the organs and structures responsible for self-esteem and self-love. And many seems to be that the necessary kind of medical procedure — in order to raise self-esteem, you need to consult a specialist who will be its therapeautic and operate to raise.
It seems to me that with self-esteem problems lie not in man, and in this concept. A psychological term might become relevant in a culture where everything is distributed on valuable and not valuable. As told to a philosopher, we live in a society and its values. The concept of values is our way to perceive the world — the filter through which we learned to structure reality. We learned any phenomenon — things, ideas, people distribute on the basis of values.
In the community or society directly estimated people someone valuable to society, some not. With the advent of the concept of personality, this assessment has moved from public space to the inner space of the individual. And now for a man secondary to its value to the community, and the primary value to himself. These two values are often linear or nonlinear related to the value to society affects the value to itself, and Vice versa. Yes, and society is becoming more diverse, and to many people more important to be valuable to some one group and not to the whole of society.
With such logic it turns out that self — esteem is the value that man assigns to himself, trying to prepare himself to certain standards of society values. And since the skills fitting of us learned in early childhood and are in the nature of an absolute reality, and some estimates have become so steady and familiar that we consider them part of ourselves — self-esteem as an internal structure.
We can assume that if society did not practice such a filter of reality, and applied to some other concepts-filters, and the problem of self-esteem is not particularly stood.
I don't understand how to do without the concept of value, how can you not allocate the phenomena of reality into valuable and not valuable. But you can still assume that without this it is possible. It is quite possible that there are cultures where the concept of value at all, or is it not particularly relevant. I have a few anthropological and culturological knowledge to find such culture — if you know, tell me. But I can admit that it's possible to distribute a world quite different characteristics.
For example, one can imagine a society in which one of the main concepts filters will be fluffy. And all the people in it are distributed on a fluffy and non-fluffy, more fluffy and less fluffy. But if this concept is to move in the internal space of the individual, then we would consider that each of us has a mental structure — samouchitel. Someone low, someone high. People with low samouchitelya would be considered problematic and corrupt, and psychologists would a request to increase samouchitel.
By the way, if you have problems with samouchitelya — please, increase!) But seriously, in psychological counseling, what's called a confidence issue — it is rather a reason to turn to the specifics: which situation a person not by his standards appreciates that such estimation affects how you can change these effects so that the client is satisfied. We are looking for ways such an attitude, which will be the customer preferred. I briefly and schematically described, of course, within the close to me approach, but something like that.
"Twister" — technology instant neutralization of injuries from the past
Why do we hear and understand NOT what we say
PS I want to clarify that I do not call to abandon the term self-esteem. Do not criticize people, including psychologists, who use this concept. I myself use it — I, too, live in this culture. I would rather try to take this concept into the framework, to understand its relativity — in fact it is rather part of the language, and not part of someone's personality. However, I to the notion of identity are about the same, but that's another topic. published
Author: Danila Gulyaev
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: danilling.livejournal.com/94588.html
There are many ideas about how to raise self-esteem. Some believe that it needs someone to humiliate and over someone to assert themselves. But this way of raising self-esteem is not particularly prestigious in society many believe that it is primitive and immoral, and the glory of God.
More prestigious ways to raise self esteem is to do something extraordinary, be successful, be all you need to earn status and respect, etc., etc., that is, to raise self-esteem,need something sootvetstvovatü high social standards, expectations of other people, the table of ranks.
In psychologically advanced circles such options are not particularly welcome - it is believed that if in their self-assessment the person focuses on some standards, it is dependent on other people's opinions, standards and regulations. Social addict shorter.
Psychologically prestigious option is to stop to depend in his self-esteem from something external, and myself to appreciate. And here the logic rests on the mystical concept of "love yourself". Mystical, because it's extremely mysterious and unfathomable for most people the action that it is impossible to understand the mind and the yardstick to measure. This, they say, you can learn, but the long and difficult way, and without warranties.
It turns out that whatever psychological issue the person has not arisen, it all comes down to the fact that we need to love and appreciate yourself. And that in itself becomes a problem.Love yourself in the end is another social standardthat many people try to fit in.
And yet it turns out, they feel inferior. As if something inside of them is damaged — say, a defect of the organs and structures responsible for self-esteem and self-love. And many seems to be that the necessary kind of medical procedure — in order to raise self-esteem, you need to consult a specialist who will be its therapeautic and operate to raise.
It seems to me that with self-esteem problems lie not in man, and in this concept. A psychological term might become relevant in a culture where everything is distributed on valuable and not valuable. As told to a philosopher, we live in a society and its values. The concept of values is our way to perceive the world — the filter through which we learned to structure reality. We learned any phenomenon — things, ideas, people distribute on the basis of values.
In the community or society directly estimated people someone valuable to society, some not. With the advent of the concept of personality, this assessment has moved from public space to the inner space of the individual. And now for a man secondary to its value to the community, and the primary value to himself. These two values are often linear or nonlinear related to the value to society affects the value to itself, and Vice versa. Yes, and society is becoming more diverse, and to many people more important to be valuable to some one group and not to the whole of society.
With such logic it turns out that self — esteem is the value that man assigns to himself, trying to prepare himself to certain standards of society values. And since the skills fitting of us learned in early childhood and are in the nature of an absolute reality, and some estimates have become so steady and familiar that we consider them part of ourselves — self-esteem as an internal structure.
We can assume that if society did not practice such a filter of reality, and applied to some other concepts-filters, and the problem of self-esteem is not particularly stood.
I don't understand how to do without the concept of value, how can you not allocate the phenomena of reality into valuable and not valuable. But you can still assume that without this it is possible. It is quite possible that there are cultures where the concept of value at all, or is it not particularly relevant. I have a few anthropological and culturological knowledge to find such culture — if you know, tell me. But I can admit that it's possible to distribute a world quite different characteristics.
For example, one can imagine a society in which one of the main concepts filters will be fluffy. And all the people in it are distributed on a fluffy and non-fluffy, more fluffy and less fluffy. But if this concept is to move in the internal space of the individual, then we would consider that each of us has a mental structure — samouchitel. Someone low, someone high. People with low samouchitelya would be considered problematic and corrupt, and psychologists would a request to increase samouchitel.
By the way, if you have problems with samouchitelya — please, increase!) But seriously, in psychological counseling, what's called a confidence issue — it is rather a reason to turn to the specifics: which situation a person not by his standards appreciates that such estimation affects how you can change these effects so that the client is satisfied. We are looking for ways such an attitude, which will be the customer preferred. I briefly and schematically described, of course, within the close to me approach, but something like that.
"Twister" — technology instant neutralization of injuries from the past
Why do we hear and understand NOT what we say
PS I want to clarify that I do not call to abandon the term self-esteem. Do not criticize people, including psychologists, who use this concept. I myself use it — I, too, live in this culture. I would rather try to take this concept into the framework, to understand its relativity — in fact it is rather part of the language, and not part of someone's personality. However, I to the notion of identity are about the same, but that's another topic. published
Author: Danila Gulyaev
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: danilling.livejournal.com/94588.html
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