Why not overload children with unnecessary knowledge

In recent times you can see the first graders that, in addition to studying in a specialized school, engaged with Tutors, go to music school, literature, sports and in addition are taught two foreign languages. The children are under extreme pressure, and completely to immature young body that doesn't work.

The website with the permission of the author, a child psychologist Katerina Demina — published an article on 4 important things that you must understand to parents to save their children from the meaningless and sometimes destructive task.







Now, many parents provoke teachers to the complexity of the program and stricter requirements. Most moms and dads choose "strong school, strong teacher", although in fact such a teacher can demonstrate dictatorial and do not care about the mental and physical health of children. The results are not long to wait. Children begin to ache. From the point of view of psychosomatic medicine, any disease —is a natural reaction to the experience.

• Angina, for example, is a manifestation of unexpressed anger. If a person is experiencing strong feelings and to Express them, he begins to sore throat.
• If the child is frightened, when he shout, the answer will be abdominal pain, gastritis or vomiting before school.
• Less emotional kids still respond to stress, but otherwise, constant colds, SARS.

So, if your baby is often sick, there is reason to think, who is to blame.







The child in the first class that most needs to feel SAFE. This is the only condition in which the possible development of his abilities. If your child — "little genius", who can read at age three, but it was formed only in the home surrounded by adults, no need to send him to school in six years, in the hope that he will finish it in a couple of years externally. It is important not "knowledge-abilities-skills" and the child's ability to adapt to a changed environment, to children and to high loads.

Up to seven years in rebeccarutha not ripen those brain structures that are responsible for the text analysis and character recognition, even if the child is four years old can read. At this age the child's mind is dominated by gaming motivation, but in order to learn, the child should prevail training.







Surprisingly, however, particularly the ambitions of parents are manifested in the education of girls. At least the first year pupil, who in addition to school, attending foreign language courses, music school (a must!), dancing and art, are more common than first graders. Boys usually lead in the sports section and, unfortunately, not always the one that wants the child, often went or wanted to go dad.

Always assess the actual abilities of the child. If kindergarten is your child fond of designing and modeling, most likely, he'll go with a complex program in mathematics, but the easy life with foreign languages should not wait. Usually with foreign language acquisition and reading hand-in-hand is music. Someone who loves to draw, likely to experience difficulties with mathematics (because of the adopted in our country, teaching methodology).

Try to take all this into account when you determine the profile of the school. If just about equally, but the child is often sick, poorly tolerate change, wary and shy, it is better to give it in regular school with the most loyal teacher that I can find. And absolutely don't worry — with time, when stronger, he will be all caught up.







Main principle: the right school for you, not you for school.

You can insist on compliance with the letter and spirit of the law: homework in first grade is unacceptable in any form, assessment should not be contained neither in the words nor in the journal. All primary school preparation for lessons should not take more than 40 minutes a day, as well as invalid homework from Friday to Monday (except for foreign language, which is taught every day).

As already mentioned, the main task of the child in primary school is not only to acquire a certain amount of knowledge as to important social skills, learn something new about yourself and about the world, learn to interact with people. So agree, better to be in a relaxed and friendly atmosphere than to gastritis, studying at the prestigious school.

A healthy child will learn everything he needs but a bit later, in time.

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Photo on preview Ivan Troyanovsky
According to the materials of Katerina Demina


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