53
Childbirth is such a special sex.
Having practiced as a doula and bodily therapist for some time, I notice how often women do not realize, feel, fear or pinch their “bottom” – the perineum, vagina, cervix, uterus.
I observe that in childbirth, women do not look at the opening, refuse to touch the erupting head of the baby on attempts, wait for clues about how to get the baby and the placenta out, what to take the position.
I fully understand why this is so. And I always try to gently remind a woman that she can, knows, feels - herself. I'm afraid in my posts to urge women to be braver, to explore their bodies, to refuse "help," to insist on their own. I am afraid that this will hurt their feelings, I am afraid of being misunderstood. On the other hand, keeping quiet about it is also wrong. That's why I write.
I think it’s important to tell a woman that she can masturbate to understand how everything works there and be able to do herself well, bring herself to discharge. In my first childbirth, when I was alone in the hospital while dreaming of giving birth to loved ones at home, I stroked myself “there” at the contractions and this greatly eased the pain. I was embarrassed to talk about it for a long time, but now that I'm a doula and watching birth, I think that's what we need to talk about: childbirth and sexuality.
It is necessary to make normal the idea that an intimate relationship is the best preparation for childbirth when the deadline has already come. It should be said that the birth itself is such a special sex that during contractions, some couples madly want to retire and caress each other, that with weak labor activity you can not put artificial oxytocin, but leave the husband and wife alone so that he begins to kiss her, stroke, excite. . .
I think it should be said that the use of pads greatly affected the ability to know your body. The pad does not imply that the girl / woman touches herself with her hands inside, while the use of caps (menstrual cups) allows her to very well learn where she has the cervix, to be able to find and feel it, and this is the creation of neural connections, this connection of the mind and vagina / neck, awareness, building a realistic image of the bodily self. And then in childbirth, all this will play a role.
And I really want to start talking aloud about something like vaginal massage. Thank you to a few people I know for learning the details of this process. I'm careful. But I say. I want to tell you what it is, how it happens, how flawlessly built the ethics of the person who does this massage should be, and what a strong “movement to” it can be for women who have difficulty conceiving or bearing children, for women in labor and for mothers in the postpartum period.
Michelle Auden on fetal bladder autopsy and ultrasound after childbirth
Michelle Auden: How to make childbirth easier
And in conclusion, I want to remind you that now we do not live in the USSR, where there was no sex, I want to remind you that sexuality is not equal to sexual intercourse and that life itself is born through sexuality, that is, it is very important for women who are preparing for motherhood not to pinch this energy, to know it, to burn and enjoy it.
Author: Natalia Tomilina
Source: vk.com/project_aoj?w=wall-53900174_17291
I observe that in childbirth, women do not look at the opening, refuse to touch the erupting head of the baby on attempts, wait for clues about how to get the baby and the placenta out, what to take the position.
I fully understand why this is so. And I always try to gently remind a woman that she can, knows, feels - herself. I'm afraid in my posts to urge women to be braver, to explore their bodies, to refuse "help," to insist on their own. I am afraid that this will hurt their feelings, I am afraid of being misunderstood. On the other hand, keeping quiet about it is also wrong. That's why I write.
I think it’s important to tell a woman that she can masturbate to understand how everything works there and be able to do herself well, bring herself to discharge. In my first childbirth, when I was alone in the hospital while dreaming of giving birth to loved ones at home, I stroked myself “there” at the contractions and this greatly eased the pain. I was embarrassed to talk about it for a long time, but now that I'm a doula and watching birth, I think that's what we need to talk about: childbirth and sexuality.
It is necessary to make normal the idea that an intimate relationship is the best preparation for childbirth when the deadline has already come. It should be said that the birth itself is such a special sex that during contractions, some couples madly want to retire and caress each other, that with weak labor activity you can not put artificial oxytocin, but leave the husband and wife alone so that he begins to kiss her, stroke, excite. . .
I think it should be said that the use of pads greatly affected the ability to know your body. The pad does not imply that the girl / woman touches herself with her hands inside, while the use of caps (menstrual cups) allows her to very well learn where she has the cervix, to be able to find and feel it, and this is the creation of neural connections, this connection of the mind and vagina / neck, awareness, building a realistic image of the bodily self. And then in childbirth, all this will play a role.
And I really want to start talking aloud about something like vaginal massage. Thank you to a few people I know for learning the details of this process. I'm careful. But I say. I want to tell you what it is, how it happens, how flawlessly built the ethics of the person who does this massage should be, and what a strong “movement to” it can be for women who have difficulty conceiving or bearing children, for women in labor and for mothers in the postpartum period.
Michelle Auden on fetal bladder autopsy and ultrasound after childbirth
Michelle Auden: How to make childbirth easier
And in conclusion, I want to remind you that now we do not live in the USSR, where there was no sex, I want to remind you that sexuality is not equal to sexual intercourse and that life itself is born through sexuality, that is, it is very important for women who are preparing for motherhood not to pinch this energy, to know it, to burn and enjoy it.
Author: Natalia Tomilina
Source: vk.com/project_aoj?w=wall-53900174_17291
