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The influence of childbirth on the child's personality
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In the mid-twentieth century psychology, new – prenatal and perinatal region, representing a new look for baby, starting with the embryonic stage of its development. Perinatal – a term consisting of two words: peri (peri) – around, about and NATOs (natalis) – relating to birth. Thus perinatal psychology is the science of the psychic life of the unborn child or the newly born.
Perinatal psychology studies mental life in the perinatal period and its influence on the formation of human personality. It is a science about the connection of the fetus and newborn with the mother, the influence of the mental life of the mother on the child.
It is believed that the leading role with regard to the physical and physiological processes, particularly in childbirth, plays psyche. The founder of the theoretical bases of this branch of psychology, an American of Czech origin Stanislav Grof, argues thatthe main function in childbirth belongs not a muscular organ, the uterus, and such a mental process, the so-called "controlled instincts" or conscious behavior, which is to be implemented does not prevent instinctive behavior and manages them, if necessary. Giving birth is not the body — uterus, and a woman — personality, and every woman gives birth in its own way, depending on their psycho-emotional and physiological abilities (Grof, 1993).
S. Grof developed a theory of four basic perinatal matrices, corresponding to the process of pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum period.
These matrices are laid in the prenatal period and during childbirth, and then affect the whole future life of man: his character, sexuality, habits, propensity to addictions and mental disorders.
Try to figure out if in fact "terrible" matrix, is it possible to fix them and how to do it.
1. Matrix naivety
When formed: from conception to the moment of birth.
Positive: the first matrix is primarily responsible for the extent to which people accept yourself as you are, and how he feels and harmonious personality. The more parents love and care for the unborn man, the higher he will have life potential and the less it will be complexes.
Negative: unwanted children grow up with a sense of alienation, guilt. All they seemed to ask forgiveness for what they have. In the same case, if the mother wants the child only of a particular sex, for example, she needs a boy, it may be a prerequisite for the development of sexual problems in the future. It is not necessary that he will join the ranks of sexual minorities, gender identity, the child will be more complicated: install "I was not accepted for who I really am" already with him.
2. A matrix victim
When formed: since the beginning of labor until complete or almost complete disclosure of the cervix.
Positive: when labor begins, the uterus shrinks. The child is the strongest pressure. Grof called this process "expulsion from Paradise" (that's where the name "matrix victim"). If the birth takes place normally — not too fast, no stimulation, cesarean section and anesthesia, the baby lays the ability to survive in difficult situations, persistence in goal achievement, independence, the will to win, confidence in their abilities. It is very important at this point that the mother was relaxed.
The negative: if a child is, as they say "jumps", it may backfire because in the future he will try to solve problems quickly. If something will not happen at once, "impetuous child" will to refuse it. The same kids who, on the contrary, too long "chosen" may feel like a victim (because of the matrix, pressure), they can often get into a situation when they are pressed. If childbirth is stimulated, such children may not be on the shoulder to take the first step or choice.
"Cesaret" difficulties can arise with overcoming obstacles, and babies born under General anesthesia, with the ability to solve complex issues: when you need to be active, they will "hibernate".
3. Matrix fight
When formed: during the period when the child moves from the uterus through the birth canal.
Positive: it is a real struggle for life (hence the name of the matrix), during which, according to some experts, the baby is subjected to strong mechanical impact, suffers from lack of oxygen. Others believe that the baby during labor is "disabled" and is awakened in the intervals between them. Whatever it was, but it's overcome the first serious obstacle. And pass it should, relying on its own strength. If the baby independently mastered this way and "met the deadline" (normally it should do this for 20-40 minutes), create the program "to me the sea knee-deep, and mountains on the shoulder".
Negative: the achievement of such a program high, of course, impossible if the birth takes place with the use of painkillers. This recipe gives a seductive escape from the problems in the drugs, because the first experience of this kind obtained at birth. Such children are particularly predisposed to computer addiction.
The use of forceps in childbirth — a strong psychological trauma for the child. If you don't compensate for it in early childhood, people can grow sensitive, prone to hysteria. In addition, he may refuse to help because the first aid in my life was painful. Babies, born by caesarean section miss a beat matrix: they may be understated sense of danger.
If the child is on their own, but a very long way in the wild, it can live with the feeling "life is struggle". If he was breeched, then it will be the desire to do things the unusual way.
4. The matrix of liberty
When formed: from the moment of exit of the child into the light and up to 5-7 days after birth.
Positive: the natural needs of the baby at this time is the safety and comfort. It is therefore very important that the child be adopted by all the rules of natural birth (early breastfeeding, circumcision, umbilical cord only after it stops pulsating, in constant contact with the mother). So "get" the optimists.
Negative: if these requirements have not been followed, then the child may develop a panic fear to remain without mom even for a short time. In adolescence "uncomfortable" birth threatens to lead to alienation, lack of understanding from the parents. And in older age, this could manifest as the fear of being alone, without a loved one.
Thus, experiences that occur in a child during birth, are summarized in the following picture: intrauterine existence ceases to hold the baby, and he decides to leave the uterus; the contractions begin and gradually whodas, intrauterine conditions become unbearable; a reaction to the deterioration of conditions is the incredible tension, the struggle in the birth canal and the desire to escape from him; as a result, birth is experienced as a liberation, as a fundamental improvement on the previous state.
This scenario plan is typical for all of life's events: the emergence of the project and the decision to implement it, difficulties in implementing planned, who replaced an impossible position, followed by active actions aimed at getting rid of obstacles by any means, the fight and complete resolution of the problem. Thus, perinatal matrices aktiviziruyutsya under the influence of external events in the order defined by the course of delivery, and determine the nature of the behavior and emotional reactions.
By the experience of biological birth, the baby gets ready for the future vicissitudes of life, endurance in the struggle and overcoming obstacles, the ability to understand life as a sequence of projects.
In the result of a successful physiological birth of the child and later adult behaviour, corresponding to the physiological norm and allows him to react adequately to external events. Moreover, the sequence of behavioral reactions is given by dynamics of change of the perinatal matrices during childbirth.
After reading about the negativity that can bring matrix, mothers should not take everything too close to heart. The fact that the matrix is "flexible", they continue to form until the child has turned three, and he starts to separate himself from the mother. Therefore the obtained during pregnancy or at birth, a negative experience or fixed, or adjusted with the correct actions of the parents.
It is believed that full breastfeeding up to a year, good care and love can compensate for the negative perinatal matrices (for example, if you had a caesarean section, if the child was taken immediately after birth to a children's hospital and was separated from its mother, etc.).
Start immediately after birth, with the method of "kangaroo". Hour lying on mom's stomach, sufficient to compensate for all the negative things that have experienced little, appearing to light. The method is suitable for all the kiddies. There are also special methods that you can use with each particular violation in the matrix.
(1) Pregnancy were "on edge"
Stress during pregnancy, a wrong mental attitude reflected in the first matrix.
If the pregnancy was unexpected, perhaps unwelcome, your job after the baby is born to set it on the fact that he loved you unconditionally accept him. Especially the kids of "the matrix naivety" in need of body contact, hugs, affection.
If you're expecting a baby of the opposite sex, in dealing with the child constantly emphasize his gender. Often say "my boy" ("my girl"), "how glad I am that my son" (daughter).
(2) stimulated the Birth of a child or "squeezed"
These kids are waiting for an external "push" to begin to act. The baby should learn to make independent decisions. As often as you can put it before a choice. Very small, offer a choice of several toys, older kids let the opportunity to make a decision: let him decide what you will eat for Breakfast, what clothes go for a walk and so on.
The child may be difficult to follow through. Give him small tasks, gradually complicating them. Be sure to praise for the result and encourage initiative.
If childbirth were punctured amniotic bubble, while the second matrix is laid fear of the water. As a result, the baby may be afraid to wash my hair. In any case, do not "crush" on him, to accustom to the water gradually.
For this category of children is dangerous overprotection. Permanent odergivaniya, the solution of conflict situations (e.g. with friends) for a son or daughter – all this forms a penchant for running away from my problems, exacerbating the negative experiences that are stored in the third matrix. Not to educate the kid the habit of running away from difficulties, let him find tasks and to cope with them.
(3) were Performed by cesarean section
"Catarata" usually very lively, restless children. Gush of ideas, which, however, does not always realize. In addition, they are a natural born thrill — seekers. The instinct of self-preservation and the sense of danger these kids have the blunt.
This baby did not pass the second and third matrix was deprived of the experience of a natural birth. This can be corrected by arranging his obstacles. As soon as the child begins to crawl, play with him, "baby." Line up the pillow tunnel, so narrow that you have to squeeze through. And walk with him. You crawl first, and in the end
be sure to "meet" the baby. For the older child suitable all kinds of slides. As long as you continued each time to greet him at the "finish line".
(4) the Birth took place rapidly
Many children, born in rapid childbirth, it is difficult to hold the attention, consistently execute our plans. They want to get "instant" results. It dictates the experience laid down in the third matrix. This kid needs to learn patience and consistency. Speak more slowly than you used to, ask after the game, he arranged the toys in places. Child perfect any sports section, where the result depends on the amount of effort.
(5) Heavy labor
A child born with the umbilical cord around (failed in the fourth matrix) can't stand clothing that squeezes. You should not choose for him sweaters throat, scarves, hats, tied under the chin.
To smooth out the "negativity" inherent in the fourth matrix in the first three years the mom should spend more time with the child. Co-sleeping, feeding on demand, the use of the sling (this sling in the form of a large piece of fabric is becoming more popular and successfully competes with a backpack-kangaroo, after all, fits children from birth, and the child is in her most natural position) — all this is doubly necessary this baby.
For all
The children, having passed through certain problems in childbirth, it may be useful to work with a psychologist. Effective methods of game-, art therapy, Jungian sand therapy, work with clay. For adults who want to relive the birth, but with a positive experience, apply procedure, body-oriented therapy, holotropic breathing, homodynamic and many other systems. The main thing to psychotherapeutic work took place on three levels: intellectual, emotional and physical.
Examples of the practice.
Early separation
The eldest son of Catherine was born in rapid birth with a hematoma. A boy of about two weeks spent in intensive care, during this time, mom had no milk. He is now almost seven, he is developing normally, but the relationship with mother is quite distant. But the youngest son was born all the requirements of natural childbirth, it is immediately put to the breast from the first hours he was with my mom. He is now a year old and he is very attached to her.
Review: the experience of early separation from mom is a positive thing – it teaches man self-sufficiency. The baby can be easier to adapt in an alien environment. But the relationship with my mother in the future, indeed, may be somewhat dismissed.
Every seven years a person enters the phase of his birth. So now the baby is the age when much can be transformed. The boy needs as much tactile contact with the mother, touching. Often consider together a photo album, where son little, while touch his body, saying as you are happy that you have it.
These kids can be very flexible. It is important not to restrict the child, but to direct his energy in games related to touch.
Don't forget that all children live a natural phase of attachment to each parent. This does not mean that we are bad, he just desperately need right now.
With a toddler can play house. In this game you're a child, and he in turn then mom, then dad. By playing these roles, he will repeat the behavior of parents. That is, he will tell you if you are doing something wrong.
Vulnerability
Svetlana was the detachment of the placenta, and most of the pregnancy she spent in hospital on preservation. The birth was prolonged, the child was short umbilical cord. The kid had to push. He was posted to the stomach, but mom started bleeding, so applied to the chest of the boy failed. In three years the child was diagnosed with "hyperexcitability due to intrauterine hypoxia and birth".
Boy it is scary to take on something if he thinks it's difficult. He is very emotional and sensitive child. The Board of psychologist with the child step by step plan of action for the execution of the task; break the large task into parts, for each result, even the most insignificant, to encourage, to praise. Then the child will be much easier to handle, it will get positive emotions from completed assignments, enjoy his success, and in the future not to be afraid of large and complex cases.
Comment: indeed, so sensitive children psychologically difficult to digest a large number of people. They have to prepare to the situation, to stimulate to action, noticing the slightest steps, any manifestations of independence.
Such a child can be increased anxiety, sensitivity. He's got the support of a neurologist or a homeopath.
The baby may be hard to break away from mom (because the umbilical cord, there is a link with my mother was short). But mom may not be easy to "let go" of the child. In such situations, an appointment with a psychologist is working with a sense of guilt and anxiety mom and, of course, the condition of the child. Such children are very suitable games, sculpting, art therapy.
The baby may be bouts of aggression directed towards the mother. At this point the baby move two forces: the desire to grow, that is, to break away from mom, and the power cord, which pulls, which naturally causes resistance. The boy will fit a variety of games for the unwinding of the glomeruli, tug of war, the molding of the dough. A very effective tear-off application for which colored paper you just need to break up into small pieces and then stick them on cardboard in the correct order. This development of fine motor skills, and aggression, and creativity at the same time.
In conclusion, I would like to note that pregnant women often aim for a certain scenario in childbirth. When their expectations are not met, for example, doctors insist on caesarean section, the woman falls into a state of shock, panic and lose trust in the very process of birth. If something did not go as mom had planned, they tend to feel guilty and guilt always produces a negative subconscious attitude to the fact, before whom the person feels guilty.
There are versions that the soul chooses its parents, the place and method of birth. And birth is a learning experience, and challenges is needed here. Every child is born as he needs.
Modern research has established that the prenatal child is not indifferent to the hour of his birth and development of labor activity, ultimately depends on it. When in the mother's body already has all the conditions for the successful course of childbirth, the fetus is an active completion of the maturation of lung tissue.
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The decisive factor for the development of labor are chemical and electromagnetic pulses emanating from the fetus. During delivery of the active is not only the mother but also the fetus that during each bout, and then attempts to vigorously pushed out, making the limbs pastelnye movement and "burulas" head in the birth canal. From the efforts of the fetus depends on the speed of his birth: children who are making the subtle effort to come to the light, are born longer than children exhibiting significant activity.
Therefore it is very important to trust nature, doctors... and her future baby. published
Author: Irina Ishchenko
Source: ishchenko.pro/mirra/vliyanie-situacii-rodov-na-lichnost-rebenka/
Perinatal psychology studies mental life in the perinatal period and its influence on the formation of human personality. It is a science about the connection of the fetus and newborn with the mother, the influence of the mental life of the mother on the child.
It is believed that the leading role with regard to the physical and physiological processes, particularly in childbirth, plays psyche. The founder of the theoretical bases of this branch of psychology, an American of Czech origin Stanislav Grof, argues thatthe main function in childbirth belongs not a muscular organ, the uterus, and such a mental process, the so-called "controlled instincts" or conscious behavior, which is to be implemented does not prevent instinctive behavior and manages them, if necessary. Giving birth is not the body — uterus, and a woman — personality, and every woman gives birth in its own way, depending on their psycho-emotional and physiological abilities (Grof, 1993).
S. Grof developed a theory of four basic perinatal matrices, corresponding to the process of pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum period.
These matrices are laid in the prenatal period and during childbirth, and then affect the whole future life of man: his character, sexuality, habits, propensity to addictions and mental disorders.
Try to figure out if in fact "terrible" matrix, is it possible to fix them and how to do it.
1. Matrix naivety
When formed: from conception to the moment of birth.
Positive: the first matrix is primarily responsible for the extent to which people accept yourself as you are, and how he feels and harmonious personality. The more parents love and care for the unborn man, the higher he will have life potential and the less it will be complexes.
Negative: unwanted children grow up with a sense of alienation, guilt. All they seemed to ask forgiveness for what they have. In the same case, if the mother wants the child only of a particular sex, for example, she needs a boy, it may be a prerequisite for the development of sexual problems in the future. It is not necessary that he will join the ranks of sexual minorities, gender identity, the child will be more complicated: install "I was not accepted for who I really am" already with him.
2. A matrix victim
When formed: since the beginning of labor until complete or almost complete disclosure of the cervix.
Positive: when labor begins, the uterus shrinks. The child is the strongest pressure. Grof called this process "expulsion from Paradise" (that's where the name "matrix victim"). If the birth takes place normally — not too fast, no stimulation, cesarean section and anesthesia, the baby lays the ability to survive in difficult situations, persistence in goal achievement, independence, the will to win, confidence in their abilities. It is very important at this point that the mother was relaxed.
The negative: if a child is, as they say "jumps", it may backfire because in the future he will try to solve problems quickly. If something will not happen at once, "impetuous child" will to refuse it. The same kids who, on the contrary, too long "chosen" may feel like a victim (because of the matrix, pressure), they can often get into a situation when they are pressed. If childbirth is stimulated, such children may not be on the shoulder to take the first step or choice.
"Cesaret" difficulties can arise with overcoming obstacles, and babies born under General anesthesia, with the ability to solve complex issues: when you need to be active, they will "hibernate".
3. Matrix fight
When formed: during the period when the child moves from the uterus through the birth canal.
Positive: it is a real struggle for life (hence the name of the matrix), during which, according to some experts, the baby is subjected to strong mechanical impact, suffers from lack of oxygen. Others believe that the baby during labor is "disabled" and is awakened in the intervals between them. Whatever it was, but it's overcome the first serious obstacle. And pass it should, relying on its own strength. If the baby independently mastered this way and "met the deadline" (normally it should do this for 20-40 minutes), create the program "to me the sea knee-deep, and mountains on the shoulder".
Negative: the achievement of such a program high, of course, impossible if the birth takes place with the use of painkillers. This recipe gives a seductive escape from the problems in the drugs, because the first experience of this kind obtained at birth. Such children are particularly predisposed to computer addiction.
The use of forceps in childbirth — a strong psychological trauma for the child. If you don't compensate for it in early childhood, people can grow sensitive, prone to hysteria. In addition, he may refuse to help because the first aid in my life was painful. Babies, born by caesarean section miss a beat matrix: they may be understated sense of danger.
If the child is on their own, but a very long way in the wild, it can live with the feeling "life is struggle". If he was breeched, then it will be the desire to do things the unusual way.
4. The matrix of liberty
When formed: from the moment of exit of the child into the light and up to 5-7 days after birth.
Positive: the natural needs of the baby at this time is the safety and comfort. It is therefore very important that the child be adopted by all the rules of natural birth (early breastfeeding, circumcision, umbilical cord only after it stops pulsating, in constant contact with the mother). So "get" the optimists.
Negative: if these requirements have not been followed, then the child may develop a panic fear to remain without mom even for a short time. In adolescence "uncomfortable" birth threatens to lead to alienation, lack of understanding from the parents. And in older age, this could manifest as the fear of being alone, without a loved one.
Thus, experiences that occur in a child during birth, are summarized in the following picture: intrauterine existence ceases to hold the baby, and he decides to leave the uterus; the contractions begin and gradually whodas, intrauterine conditions become unbearable; a reaction to the deterioration of conditions is the incredible tension, the struggle in the birth canal and the desire to escape from him; as a result, birth is experienced as a liberation, as a fundamental improvement on the previous state.
This scenario plan is typical for all of life's events: the emergence of the project and the decision to implement it, difficulties in implementing planned, who replaced an impossible position, followed by active actions aimed at getting rid of obstacles by any means, the fight and complete resolution of the problem. Thus, perinatal matrices aktiviziruyutsya under the influence of external events in the order defined by the course of delivery, and determine the nature of the behavior and emotional reactions.
By the experience of biological birth, the baby gets ready for the future vicissitudes of life, endurance in the struggle and overcoming obstacles, the ability to understand life as a sequence of projects.
In the result of a successful physiological birth of the child and later adult behaviour, corresponding to the physiological norm and allows him to react adequately to external events. Moreover, the sequence of behavioral reactions is given by dynamics of change of the perinatal matrices during childbirth.
After reading about the negativity that can bring matrix, mothers should not take everything too close to heart. The fact that the matrix is "flexible", they continue to form until the child has turned three, and he starts to separate himself from the mother. Therefore the obtained during pregnancy or at birth, a negative experience or fixed, or adjusted with the correct actions of the parents.
It is believed that full breastfeeding up to a year, good care and love can compensate for the negative perinatal matrices (for example, if you had a caesarean section, if the child was taken immediately after birth to a children's hospital and was separated from its mother, etc.).
Start immediately after birth, with the method of "kangaroo". Hour lying on mom's stomach, sufficient to compensate for all the negative things that have experienced little, appearing to light. The method is suitable for all the kiddies. There are also special methods that you can use with each particular violation in the matrix.
(1) Pregnancy were "on edge"
Stress during pregnancy, a wrong mental attitude reflected in the first matrix.
If the pregnancy was unexpected, perhaps unwelcome, your job after the baby is born to set it on the fact that he loved you unconditionally accept him. Especially the kids of "the matrix naivety" in need of body contact, hugs, affection.
If you're expecting a baby of the opposite sex, in dealing with the child constantly emphasize his gender. Often say "my boy" ("my girl"), "how glad I am that my son" (daughter).
(2) stimulated the Birth of a child or "squeezed"
These kids are waiting for an external "push" to begin to act. The baby should learn to make independent decisions. As often as you can put it before a choice. Very small, offer a choice of several toys, older kids let the opportunity to make a decision: let him decide what you will eat for Breakfast, what clothes go for a walk and so on.
The child may be difficult to follow through. Give him small tasks, gradually complicating them. Be sure to praise for the result and encourage initiative.
If childbirth were punctured amniotic bubble, while the second matrix is laid fear of the water. As a result, the baby may be afraid to wash my hair. In any case, do not "crush" on him, to accustom to the water gradually.
For this category of children is dangerous overprotection. Permanent odergivaniya, the solution of conflict situations (e.g. with friends) for a son or daughter – all this forms a penchant for running away from my problems, exacerbating the negative experiences that are stored in the third matrix. Not to educate the kid the habit of running away from difficulties, let him find tasks and to cope with them.
(3) were Performed by cesarean section
"Catarata" usually very lively, restless children. Gush of ideas, which, however, does not always realize. In addition, they are a natural born thrill — seekers. The instinct of self-preservation and the sense of danger these kids have the blunt.
This baby did not pass the second and third matrix was deprived of the experience of a natural birth. This can be corrected by arranging his obstacles. As soon as the child begins to crawl, play with him, "baby." Line up the pillow tunnel, so narrow that you have to squeeze through. And walk with him. You crawl first, and in the end
be sure to "meet" the baby. For the older child suitable all kinds of slides. As long as you continued each time to greet him at the "finish line".
(4) the Birth took place rapidly
Many children, born in rapid childbirth, it is difficult to hold the attention, consistently execute our plans. They want to get "instant" results. It dictates the experience laid down in the third matrix. This kid needs to learn patience and consistency. Speak more slowly than you used to, ask after the game, he arranged the toys in places. Child perfect any sports section, where the result depends on the amount of effort.
(5) Heavy labor
A child born with the umbilical cord around (failed in the fourth matrix) can't stand clothing that squeezes. You should not choose for him sweaters throat, scarves, hats, tied under the chin.
To smooth out the "negativity" inherent in the fourth matrix in the first three years the mom should spend more time with the child. Co-sleeping, feeding on demand, the use of the sling (this sling in the form of a large piece of fabric is becoming more popular and successfully competes with a backpack-kangaroo, after all, fits children from birth, and the child is in her most natural position) — all this is doubly necessary this baby.
For all
The children, having passed through certain problems in childbirth, it may be useful to work with a psychologist. Effective methods of game-, art therapy, Jungian sand therapy, work with clay. For adults who want to relive the birth, but with a positive experience, apply procedure, body-oriented therapy, holotropic breathing, homodynamic and many other systems. The main thing to psychotherapeutic work took place on three levels: intellectual, emotional and physical.
Examples of the practice.
Early separation
The eldest son of Catherine was born in rapid birth with a hematoma. A boy of about two weeks spent in intensive care, during this time, mom had no milk. He is now almost seven, he is developing normally, but the relationship with mother is quite distant. But the youngest son was born all the requirements of natural childbirth, it is immediately put to the breast from the first hours he was with my mom. He is now a year old and he is very attached to her.
Review: the experience of early separation from mom is a positive thing – it teaches man self-sufficiency. The baby can be easier to adapt in an alien environment. But the relationship with my mother in the future, indeed, may be somewhat dismissed.
Every seven years a person enters the phase of his birth. So now the baby is the age when much can be transformed. The boy needs as much tactile contact with the mother, touching. Often consider together a photo album, where son little, while touch his body, saying as you are happy that you have it.
These kids can be very flexible. It is important not to restrict the child, but to direct his energy in games related to touch.
Don't forget that all children live a natural phase of attachment to each parent. This does not mean that we are bad, he just desperately need right now.
With a toddler can play house. In this game you're a child, and he in turn then mom, then dad. By playing these roles, he will repeat the behavior of parents. That is, he will tell you if you are doing something wrong.
Vulnerability
Svetlana was the detachment of the placenta, and most of the pregnancy she spent in hospital on preservation. The birth was prolonged, the child was short umbilical cord. The kid had to push. He was posted to the stomach, but mom started bleeding, so applied to the chest of the boy failed. In three years the child was diagnosed with "hyperexcitability due to intrauterine hypoxia and birth".
Boy it is scary to take on something if he thinks it's difficult. He is very emotional and sensitive child. The Board of psychologist with the child step by step plan of action for the execution of the task; break the large task into parts, for each result, even the most insignificant, to encourage, to praise. Then the child will be much easier to handle, it will get positive emotions from completed assignments, enjoy his success, and in the future not to be afraid of large and complex cases.
Comment: indeed, so sensitive children psychologically difficult to digest a large number of people. They have to prepare to the situation, to stimulate to action, noticing the slightest steps, any manifestations of independence.
Such a child can be increased anxiety, sensitivity. He's got the support of a neurologist or a homeopath.
The baby may be hard to break away from mom (because the umbilical cord, there is a link with my mother was short). But mom may not be easy to "let go" of the child. In such situations, an appointment with a psychologist is working with a sense of guilt and anxiety mom and, of course, the condition of the child. Such children are very suitable games, sculpting, art therapy.
The baby may be bouts of aggression directed towards the mother. At this point the baby move two forces: the desire to grow, that is, to break away from mom, and the power cord, which pulls, which naturally causes resistance. The boy will fit a variety of games for the unwinding of the glomeruli, tug of war, the molding of the dough. A very effective tear-off application for which colored paper you just need to break up into small pieces and then stick them on cardboard in the correct order. This development of fine motor skills, and aggression, and creativity at the same time.
In conclusion, I would like to note that pregnant women often aim for a certain scenario in childbirth. When their expectations are not met, for example, doctors insist on caesarean section, the woman falls into a state of shock, panic and lose trust in the very process of birth. If something did not go as mom had planned, they tend to feel guilty and guilt always produces a negative subconscious attitude to the fact, before whom the person feels guilty.
There are versions that the soul chooses its parents, the place and method of birth. And birth is a learning experience, and challenges is needed here. Every child is born as he needs.
Modern research has established that the prenatal child is not indifferent to the hour of his birth and development of labor activity, ultimately depends on it. When in the mother's body already has all the conditions for the successful course of childbirth, the fetus is an active completion of the maturation of lung tissue.
9 principles of noble education, which are relevant in the twenty-first century
What thoughts give birth to healthy children
The decisive factor for the development of labor are chemical and electromagnetic pulses emanating from the fetus. During delivery of the active is not only the mother but also the fetus that during each bout, and then attempts to vigorously pushed out, making the limbs pastelnye movement and "burulas" head in the birth canal. From the efforts of the fetus depends on the speed of his birth: children who are making the subtle effort to come to the light, are born longer than children exhibiting significant activity.
Therefore it is very important to trust nature, doctors... and her future baby. published
Author: Irina Ishchenko
Source: ishchenko.pro/mirra/vliyanie-situacii-rodov-na-lichnost-rebenka/
