The interdependence of the meaning of life and sexuality Bashny.Net

Attempts a conversation on the meaning of life and sexuality.

In 2009, Dmitry Chernyshev, Grigory Kramskoy read to the people (mostly youth), a wonderful lecture about sex and the meaning of life.
We wanted to look at human life from the point of view of physics — to consider the forces that affect male and female and move them in one direction or another. And to think that people can these forces be countered.
We will not talk specifically about you, but about some abstract person. We believe that you never stole money from parents and only had sex for love.


We have divided life into seven stages.Just for convenience.





0 — 7 years

You fantastically lucky. You are born human. Of all creatures on the earth you are the most powerful. Hamster you — God. From the point of view of the one-day butterfly you are immortal.
Even among people you have a huge advantage. You are an imbecile or a retard, you have all the limbs. You're a white man born in a relatively peaceful time in a potentially rich country.
For the first three years a person learns 80% of what he learns in the course of his life. He begins to see and hear, crawl, walk and run, taste and smell, speak and understand.
The crisis follows crisis. Or revelation upon revelation. He realizes that he is not the only valuable thing in this world. He understands that it is possible to speak the truth. And that others may lie. This immediately expands the possibilities of the world.
One is confronted with evil. Perhaps man will face death. This can be a beloved grandmother and found in the street chick. There is first the thought, which he quickly forgets all the people that surround it will die. All but him.

7 — 14 years

The child develops very quickly. And he is constantly trying to expand their area of influence. He is already perfectly able to manage their parents. And parental influence starts to decrease gradually. The child already has friends. The place of the father is another family member. TV.
It is considered that if all time to say the right things do what they say, not oppress the weak... it will make the child well mannered. Nonsense! This is not enough. Children do not listen to adults so much, how many copy their behavior. Dad once is enough at the child to call mom a bitch. Or punch her in the face.
A child commits a lot of mistakes. The best what can help him parents to teach him not to be afraid to make mistakes and learn to correct it.
No matter how it happens — tell the truth about sex, the parents or the boys in the yard, but the child at some point realizes that all people were conceived and born. EVERYTHING. And children begin to carefully examine his body. In boys, appears erection. It becomes much clearer why we need girls. The shock of the first menstruation for girls. Growing Breasts. Start more creative games than yanking pigtails. Boys learn to take care of. Here the first pornocasera.
In the child fighting two forces — the power of following tradition and the power of destruction. Which one wins depends on its environment.
The child ceases to be a child and becomes a man. He begins to try on different role models from books, films, stories friends.
In this age the person is very vulnerable. He does not have a child relationship to the offense — fell asleep and forgot. And no adult cynicism. Or the wonderful gift of forgiveness.
My friend had the folder "My Abide". Four graphs — what was done Abid, was caused when Abid, the essence Abidi and the widest graph — like revenge.

14 — 21 years

First sex. How?.. no, wait... that's it?.. maybe something is wrong?.. and because of this garbage we pile up so much...
The girl may not have had an orgasm. The young man sure that his ejaculation is orgasm. Although orgasm is a reaction of the nervous system, and ejaculation — sexual. Yes. Perhaps one without the other.
If the first experience did not discourage the desire to continue, the period of experiments. Sex on the beach, on the roof, in the car. The lack of available apartments expands the imagination. Earlier in this age young people were taken to brothels. Learn to distinguish between lust and love.
Hesitant to have sex starts to push the pressure medium. How? And you still don't? Sat / and maybe you're gay?
It turns out that sex is more effective Clearasil.
Sometimes sex becomes a sporting event — who more. Counting and notes in your notebook / phone.
Sex practice and sex as a topic of conversation with friends.
Possible refusal of sex. Vows never to marry. This requires the connection to not less strong source. For example — to be creative.
Comes the time of the collapse of the old authorities and creating new ones. The person turns into a lion. Nietzsche believed that a person can go through three stages — the camel, lion and child
First, any person — a camel. Like the camel, running in water for a long journey through the desert, a person accumulates the knowledge that he was given parents, society, school... the Camel is guided based on these knowledge, the camel agrees with everything and nothing is questioned. He knows how to say "Yes". He lives in the past.
When a person is tired to say "Yes" when it accumulates too many "no", which he had so long suppressed them, the camel begins to turn into a lion. Leo denies everything. He absorbed knowledge and experience from past generations and understand that it must all be destroyed, because only in these ruins, he will build the world where he will be happy. Leo — a revolutionary, he's not agreeing to anything. He knows how to say "no." A lion lives in the future.
If the person is not fit or does not want to fit into the world, start to visit thoughts of suicide.

21 — 28 years

Human life is gradually structured. He finished College and/or starting to work. Have more free time and he starts to think about the world around him.
Each of us is alone in this world. Each is enclosed in a copper tower and can communicate with his fellows only through signs. But the signs are not the same for all, but because their meaning is dark and wrong. We desperately want to share with others the treasures of our heart, but they don't know how to take them, so we wander lonely through life, side by side with his companions, but not at the same time with them, not understanding them and not understood them. We are like the people that live in a foreign country, almost without knowing its language; they want to make a lot of wonderful, deep thoughts, but they are doomed to utter only stamped phrases from a PhraseBook. In their brain wander ideas one more interesting than the other, and tell these people is that: "the Aunt of our gardener had forgotten my umbrella." S. Maugham
One begins to look for Teachers. Buddhists believe that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Man borrows from friends / from movies, phrases, intonation, facial expression.
Comes the interest in religion. The main trap here — you have a ready, simple, convincing answers to all the questions — how the world works and why people live. This eliminates the need to search for the answer yourself.
Starts an independent life.
Sex is one of the best tools for the manipulation of the partner. Sex as promotion, refusal of sex as a punishment.
Sex becomes a cure for boredom. And boredom, multiplied by the fear of loneliness and the fear of losing a partner can push a woman into a rash act — a baby. A woman who thinks a baby will solve her problems is wrong — that it will solve the problems of their child. And hate him for it. There is a good rule to bear children need only from those of men, as you would like — they will be similar.
Sex is an excellent way better to know a person. To move from strategy to "get to know better with a girl, sleep with her" strategy "to have sex with a girl in order to better get to know her". Although many may say everything about a person in five minutes after meeting
People can already learn to love. Rejoice not only when he takes something, but also when giving.

28 — 35 years

The average life expectancy in Europe in the early nineteenth century was about thirty years old (high infant mortality, frequent wars and periodic epidemics). You can safely assume that you begin a second life. And once an adult, educated man, having achieved some financial independence. Isn't it beautiful?
It is possible to pause a moment and draw some conclusions. You don't become who you dream to become in childhood — an astronaut, a rock guitarist, a great scientist, a President, a sex symbol of the nation, a brilliant writer. No matter your it was a dream or it was imposed on you by your parents.
It's time to create a new dream. Why is it called midlife crisis. If one seeks the cause in himself — he changes jobs. If family — changing family. He tries to start a new life.
Nothing terrible has happened. Dream come true can be much more dangerous. Or a person understands that all his life he was not there and that's not what he wanted. Or was it extinguished my eyes and it becomes interesting to live.
Women in this age is beautiful. They have all the know how and not afraid of anything. General fear of threat. His corpse poison it poisons life. A man attracts what he fears.
Man starts to fulfill their fantasies.
Sex becomes a solid convertible currency. Sex to husband bought a fur coat and was kinder. Sex to the second half was not looking to the side. Sex at work. Sex out of sympathy and compassion.
Women in Russia much better take care of themselves. And men began to grow rapidly the stomach.
A person begins to realize how much he resembled his parents. He catches himself thinking that he talks to his children almost the same that once said to him. And with the same intonation.
The person may go headlong into work. It is a time of success and achievements. Previously, he worked for his reputation, now the reputation begins to work for him.

35 — 42 years

Akhmatova said that with age man gets the face he deserves. If the person was scornfully fastidious, folds of mouth is underlined. If people smiled a lot — this will tell the wrinkles around the eyes.
If the man managed to knock out of the medieval nonsense, which he carefully stuffed — that loving each other people can be sexual perversion that there is right and there is wrong sex that the right to love have only heterosexual people... So, if a person forgets about this stuff — it becomes more tolerant to people. If not, he turns into a bigot. Becomes the Bastion of Ethics and Morality. Complains about the decline of morals. The reason is not very important. In the 18th century he published a book "Proof that waltzing is the main source of weakness of the body and degeneration of our generation."
The man begin to die close friends. His peers. Death is coming closer. Look, it's not scary. The earth has not stopped spinning.
The man finally realizes that it's time to engage them and begins to walk to the gym. Or going to Nepal.
Grow up and leave children. The man gets the dog. Woman to fill the void, begins to ask the daughter about the grandchildren.
There is a period of energy vampirism. Young mistresses / lovers. The desire to prove yourself "I can" mixed with fear "to have time until later." People stored impressions.
There is an ability to appreciate the undertones and get pleasure from the shades. And the courage to take responsibility. If a person has not lost the ability to wonder and the desire to impress — that is, if he did not gradually began to die — he has a chance to complete the transformation of the "camel-lion-child." And begin to live and act in the present.
Perhaps religion is just a byproduct of something very important for humans. Our survival depends on the accumulated previous generations of experience and passing it on to children. Child who fell, burned, cut sharp remembers: unquestioningly believe what adults say. And he does not distinguish between "don't go swimming in crocodile-infested Limpopo" and "full moon need to sacrifice a goat to the gods, otherwise there will be a drought". At this age people are already able to distinguish one from the other.
Man has the fear of aging. Because the whole culture is built on the glorification of youth. There is no guilt of man is that he begins to turn gray hair and wrinkles. He had not made up these rules.
It is believed that man is above the angels who can do only good. Because man has freedom of choice.

42 — 49 years

For a person this age is not drunk and not become a whore starts a Golden age. He practically ceases to be afraid of. At least for myself. He might die one or two times and the thought of it gives him courage.
People can one go against the crowd not because of youthful bravado, but because of their beliefs. "I'm sorry, but I'm not going to participate in your orientation meeting hatred. Fuck you in the ass"
The person becomes a perfectionist. The idea that some things he did with dignity, not allow it to fall below this level. In addition, people understand that there were not a lot of time and this balance is simply a pity to translate shit.
People have already very good idea of how the world around us. And it allows him to solve problems that previously seemed impossible.
Comes the ability to enjoy the simplest things. Throat water when thirsty
— Pooh, what do you like doing most in the world?
— Well, — said Pooh, is I love most...
And then he had to stop and think because although eating honey was a very pleasant experience, but there is a moment just before you are accepted for the honey when it's still nicer than when you're eating, but the Fluff didn't know how this moment is called.
Women who have the courage to honestly accept your age become simply beautiful. They do not want to participate in this rat race called "please everybody". These women can rule the world.
Men are not like women, begin to pay for sex. And go to relax in South East Asia. After several failures of the male samples 1-[[3-(6,7-Dihydro-1-methyl-7-oxo-3-propyl-1H-pyrazolo[4,3-alpha]pyrimidine-5-yl)-4-ethoxyphenyl] sulfonyl]piperazine citrate. Sprinkles or member with cocaine.
The woman, who was sitting with several children, starts to work again.
One begins to reread the classics. For the first time or discovers Montaigne and Marcus Aurelius.
People are already able to correct errors. And to restore justice. If he has money, he begins doing charity work. Or to help other people. Or to give advice.

49 — 56 years

Look in the mirror in the morning man wants less. It's time to quit.
There is a strong dissonance between the person looks like and even how old he feels. "Let me in the dark, but I can see where the light is. My heart for fourteen years."
Grouchy man at this age is not so much the qualities of his character, but with the fact that he begins to live with constant pain. Any pain makes a person more sensitive. For example, he has a new body that allows you to predict the weather.
One begins to see the world through the water column. Until he heard some sounds from the surface. Begins to kink sight. Smells lose their sharpness. Do not blame the women, the too strong smell of perfume.
The world as a child again begins to become large. Harder to climb the stairs.
Man begins to gradually turn into a sexless creature. Between spouses, lived for many years together, begins to occur something similar to telepathy.



Although wisdom has nothing to do with age, a person's opinion gains additional weight.
The man starts to give way to public transport.
People are increasingly immersed in their past. Places on the shelves of memories. Memory is quite selective and some events that happened with his friends, he begins to ascribe to themselves. From the unpleasant stories he carefully freed.
Men in Russia begin to die early.

Great art is to grow old with dignity.

Three of the strongest painkillers: smile, love and creativity. Man in this moment releases endorphins, which act like a wonder drug to reduce pain and improve mood. To learn how to do it, it is not necessary to wait for fifty years.

The hardest thing is not to start feeling sorry for myself. This sweet intoxicating feeling to believe that the world is unfair to you, too addictive. There are decent people on the head better than us with whom life has been much tougher.

From the point of view of the birds people are born flawed.

From the point of view of the poet is an ordinary man — a cripple, because he has almost atrophied the most important organ. On the emotional cognition of the world.

But we hardly notice their inferiority, right?










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