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Life on Monday: the ban on subliminal achievement
Why don't we reach our goals
Did you know that you can not achieve your goal? Like and the problem is quite on the shoulder, and all the necessary force is applied, and success is coming very close, but something at the last moment is wrong or not strong enough for the final stretch. How hard it is sometimes to lose the last two kg, to finish a project, start to work after long years of study.
And sometimes it is even difficult to start. To begin to respect the day, eat right, learn a foreign language, write articles, play the violin. You can sign up to courses and abandon them after a month, after a couple of visits to the gym pass is going to gather dust on the shelf, birthday cake, suddenly negates the weekly efforts of a healthy diet, problems at work forced to reach for a cigarette, despite the decision to quit Smoking.
Why is this happening? Is it about the proverbial "will power"? If Your life meet such a situation, it may be a scenario the injunction to "not achieve" the subconscious mind a ban to succeed. It can be based on fear of the conviction, learned in childhood "keep your head down" on the beliefs about the qualities of those people who become successful, fear of loss, in contradiction of the goal of the current image "I", the anxiety associated with the inevitable changes. Typically, this requirement is closely related to the driver "try". And it turns out that the goal is and it is desirable, then you need to perform certain actions to achieve it — to try. But try just enough to stay a couple of steps from her achievements.
Remember in school some of the teachers gave marks "for effort"? The job is not done, the result is wrong, but for trying three or four. Thus, the children rooted belief that it is enough simply to try or to create the appearance. These diligent girls and boys grow into adults who in response to the question of the timing of completion of the work tell us that they "are working on it, looking for options, understand, doing, watching, reading, etc.", but not "made, looked, decided, read, thought about, found".
When a certificate is received begins the real life, in which efforts are useless. Concrete results are needed. Imagine if the surgeon tried to do the surgery, the pilot of the plane said that they would try to take you to another continent, the accountant tried to take the tax returns? Uncomfortable, isn't it? Want more confidence and certainty.
A combination of "try" and "not achieve" leading to countless series of unsuccessful attempts, emotional and energetic exhaustion, insecurity and powerlessness. After all, if you have tried to quit Smoking more than 15 times and still your morning starts with cigarettes, then you have no willpower, you're a wimp, loser, etc., isn't it?
Not so. This means that besides conscious and unconscious benefits of Smoking yet there is something that does not allow you to achieve success. Moreover, the strategy "not achieve" can manifest itself in two ways: literally, when the person is off the rolls and fails, and indirectly, when the goal achievement is impaired and the result is a new goal.
You probably know the eternal students on the fifth diploma, but not working on any of these specialties, or those who attend a lot of training, but not wearing the knowledge into practice. From them you can often hear "now I finish this course and get a job", "I need to learn so-and-so and then I'm going to be a specialist." Thus, this strategy is incredibly energy intensive. In fact, you need to do double work to achieve the goal, to try and with all my strength to keep myself from her achievements, we sabotage success. It is not surprising that after trying you feel exhausted, tired and unhappy.
What if in these examples you recognize yourself? If you have a wish list, wandering from one year to another, if every Monday you plan to start a new life, to write from scratch, but the pages rapidly subside, and things are there? For starters, recognize that it is now. You try not doing that you invalidate the results or stop in a step from the top.
Stop looking for the guilty, to blame fate, parents, friends and circumstances for their failures. Stop berating yourself and lamenting about the lack of willpower. Next is to explore your own beliefs about success, achievement, successful people, the power of will and Your personal qualities.
To answer the questions: what will change in my life when I have this? What do I lose and what will become? What I think about castigator? What am I? What are my characteristics and personal qualities will help and what will hinder getting what they want? What I'm afraid of that makes me fear? What is behind my desires? How am I going to sabotage what's in it for me?
Also, in order to slightly shake the subconscious ban on achievements, to reduce the associated fear and increase confidence in their own abilities is useful to remember what you have achieved. To return your victories value, remove all "but" (but I just got lucky, but it helped me, but it was easy, etc.), to usurp their results, to take responsibility for all successes and failures, to remember and to praise yourself for all the conquered peaks.
And after that, set the goal, identify the timing and steps, highlight interim results and act boldly! published
Success!
Author: Ekaterina FACS
Source: Suima.ru
Did you know that you can not achieve your goal? Like and the problem is quite on the shoulder, and all the necessary force is applied, and success is coming very close, but something at the last moment is wrong or not strong enough for the final stretch. How hard it is sometimes to lose the last two kg, to finish a project, start to work after long years of study.
And sometimes it is even difficult to start. To begin to respect the day, eat right, learn a foreign language, write articles, play the violin. You can sign up to courses and abandon them after a month, after a couple of visits to the gym pass is going to gather dust on the shelf, birthday cake, suddenly negates the weekly efforts of a healthy diet, problems at work forced to reach for a cigarette, despite the decision to quit Smoking.
Why is this happening? Is it about the proverbial "will power"? If Your life meet such a situation, it may be a scenario the injunction to "not achieve" the subconscious mind a ban to succeed. It can be based on fear of the conviction, learned in childhood "keep your head down" on the beliefs about the qualities of those people who become successful, fear of loss, in contradiction of the goal of the current image "I", the anxiety associated with the inevitable changes. Typically, this requirement is closely related to the driver "try". And it turns out that the goal is and it is desirable, then you need to perform certain actions to achieve it — to try. But try just enough to stay a couple of steps from her achievements.
Remember in school some of the teachers gave marks "for effort"? The job is not done, the result is wrong, but for trying three or four. Thus, the children rooted belief that it is enough simply to try or to create the appearance. These diligent girls and boys grow into adults who in response to the question of the timing of completion of the work tell us that they "are working on it, looking for options, understand, doing, watching, reading, etc.", but not "made, looked, decided, read, thought about, found".
When a certificate is received begins the real life, in which efforts are useless. Concrete results are needed. Imagine if the surgeon tried to do the surgery, the pilot of the plane said that they would try to take you to another continent, the accountant tried to take the tax returns? Uncomfortable, isn't it? Want more confidence and certainty.
A combination of "try" and "not achieve" leading to countless series of unsuccessful attempts, emotional and energetic exhaustion, insecurity and powerlessness. After all, if you have tried to quit Smoking more than 15 times and still your morning starts with cigarettes, then you have no willpower, you're a wimp, loser, etc., isn't it?
Not so. This means that besides conscious and unconscious benefits of Smoking yet there is something that does not allow you to achieve success. Moreover, the strategy "not achieve" can manifest itself in two ways: literally, when the person is off the rolls and fails, and indirectly, when the goal achievement is impaired and the result is a new goal.
You probably know the eternal students on the fifth diploma, but not working on any of these specialties, or those who attend a lot of training, but not wearing the knowledge into practice. From them you can often hear "now I finish this course and get a job", "I need to learn so-and-so and then I'm going to be a specialist." Thus, this strategy is incredibly energy intensive. In fact, you need to do double work to achieve the goal, to try and with all my strength to keep myself from her achievements, we sabotage success. It is not surprising that after trying you feel exhausted, tired and unhappy.
What if in these examples you recognize yourself? If you have a wish list, wandering from one year to another, if every Monday you plan to start a new life, to write from scratch, but the pages rapidly subside, and things are there? For starters, recognize that it is now. You try not doing that you invalidate the results or stop in a step from the top.
Stop looking for the guilty, to blame fate, parents, friends and circumstances for their failures. Stop berating yourself and lamenting about the lack of willpower. Next is to explore your own beliefs about success, achievement, successful people, the power of will and Your personal qualities.
To answer the questions: what will change in my life when I have this? What do I lose and what will become? What I think about castigator? What am I? What are my characteristics and personal qualities will help and what will hinder getting what they want? What I'm afraid of that makes me fear? What is behind my desires? How am I going to sabotage what's in it for me?
Also, in order to slightly shake the subconscious ban on achievements, to reduce the associated fear and increase confidence in their own abilities is useful to remember what you have achieved. To return your victories value, remove all "but" (but I just got lucky, but it helped me, but it was easy, etc.), to usurp their results, to take responsibility for all successes and failures, to remember and to praise yourself for all the conquered peaks.
And after that, set the goal, identify the timing and steps, highlight interim results and act boldly! published
Success!
Author: Ekaterina FACS
Source: Suima.ru
