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You do not owe anything to anyone
15 things that we don't have to report and justify. Never. Many of our solutions raise questions and comments from others. Family members, friends and even strangers somehow always have an opinion on how we should behave, how to look, with whom to communicate and how to build relationships. Sometimes these people go so far as to demand from you an explanation of your personal life choice. Popular psychologist and blogger David William believes that you absolutely do not have to answer when they ask you about the 15 things.
1. You don't have anyone to explain your life situation If you live in a civil marriage, or wander from one rented apartment to another, or live with your parents, though you no longer twenty — you do not have to report to anyone why you do so, and not otherwise. If you are fully aware of their situations, it means that you have your own reasons to keep her, and they are nobody's business.
2. You don't have anyone to explain your priorities in life you Have your own thoughts about what can be done for the comfort and happiness of your loved ones and yourself — that's your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, the priorities of one person will invariably be different from the priorities of another. You set your own, and not have to answer to anyone.
3. You don't have to apologize if you are not sorry If you don't regret your actions, still think someone was wrong, or not really need forgiveness, you don't have to apologize. Many people try too quickly to apologize, eager to heal the wounds that are not yet ready for such "treatment." This can only worsen the situation. You really don't need to apologize, if you don't feel guilty.
4. You don't have to justify to anyone for the time spent alone , Many people are afraid of being branded "rude", "antisocial", "arrogant", if you cancel or refuse invitations because they need some time alone to relax, "reboot" or simply read a good book. In fact, such a lonely time-outs — quite normal practice, most of us require. Take them confident and not bother about explanations.
5. You are not required to agree to anyone's personal beliefs Just because someone talks passionately about their beliefs, don't sit and nod in approval to everything. If you don't share their ideas, not fair to yourself and others to pretend that you agree with them. It is better to calmly oppose them, than to accumulate the disapproval and disappointment.
6. You don't have to say "Yes" You have every right to say No if the consent for no good reason. The greatest success in all spheres and attain people who have mastered the art of rejection of all that is not their priority. Accept the kindness of others and be grateful, but feel free to say "No" to everything that distracts your attention from the main goals.
7. You don't have to make excuses for their appearance You can be slim or full, high or not, nice or the most common, but you don't have to explain to anyone why you look that way. Your appearance is solely up to you, here you are required only to himself. Don't let appearance define your self-worth.
8. You don't have anyone to explain your food preferences , There are certain foods that just don't like you for different reasons — from taste to their impact on your health. If someone is bothering you with a question, why you eat (or not eat) certain foods, pay no attention to this and answer what you feel good eating that way.
9. You are not required to report to anyone about your sex life If you are in a relationship with an adult by mutual consent, it's nobody's business how, where and when you are satisfied with your sex life. You can wait for marriage to engage in casual sex and even experiment with a person of the same sex with you — as long as you enjoy, it is solely up to you.
10. You don't have anyone to explain your career or personal choice , Sometimes circumstances force us to choose between work and personal life. This decision is not always easy, and you can eventually choose the work — not because I don't care about his family, but because this choice will give you security in the future. In any case, you don't have to explain to others why you chose the profession (or Vice versa), if you are sure that you are doing everything wrong.
11. You don't have to explain your political or religious views If you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic, Protestant or Muslim is your personal choice. You don't have to explain their faith. When someone can't accept you for who you are, that's his problem, not yours.
12. You don't have to explain why you are single Married or not, married or not, should not concern anyone but you. Loneliness is not a personality disorder. You are free to choose whether to enter into a relationship or not. Just remember: you are not your marital status. No glue need for other useless social labels.
13. You are not obligated to date anyone just because you asked Someone can be sweet and cute, but you don't have to go on a date with him. If you feel deep down that you don't need a meeting, don't go on it. Find the reason for failure and don't change your decision.
14. You don't have anyone to explain his decision about marriage Regardless of whether you want to marry and have children or to remain free and childless, it will remain a personal decision. Even if your mom just raves about her grandchildren, she will have to come to terms with your life choices, as difficult as it may be.
15. You don't have to explain your choices in relationships, Sometimes people make inappropriate comments about your romantic relationship. Surely someone told you "not the perfect couple" or you should find yourself someone else. However, in this question you are not accountable to anyone but themselves. Live your own life and never interrupt or not to save the relationship just because someone tells you to do so. Make mistakes and learn from them — this is the life.
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1. You don't have anyone to explain your life situation If you live in a civil marriage, or wander from one rented apartment to another, or live with your parents, though you no longer twenty — you do not have to report to anyone why you do so, and not otherwise. If you are fully aware of their situations, it means that you have your own reasons to keep her, and they are nobody's business.
2. You don't have anyone to explain your priorities in life you Have your own thoughts about what can be done for the comfort and happiness of your loved ones and yourself — that's your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, the priorities of one person will invariably be different from the priorities of another. You set your own, and not have to answer to anyone.
3. You don't have to apologize if you are not sorry If you don't regret your actions, still think someone was wrong, or not really need forgiveness, you don't have to apologize. Many people try too quickly to apologize, eager to heal the wounds that are not yet ready for such "treatment." This can only worsen the situation. You really don't need to apologize, if you don't feel guilty.
4. You don't have to justify to anyone for the time spent alone , Many people are afraid of being branded "rude", "antisocial", "arrogant", if you cancel or refuse invitations because they need some time alone to relax, "reboot" or simply read a good book. In fact, such a lonely time-outs — quite normal practice, most of us require. Take them confident and not bother about explanations.
5. You are not required to agree to anyone's personal beliefs Just because someone talks passionately about their beliefs, don't sit and nod in approval to everything. If you don't share their ideas, not fair to yourself and others to pretend that you agree with them. It is better to calmly oppose them, than to accumulate the disapproval and disappointment.
6. You don't have to say "Yes" You have every right to say No if the consent for no good reason. The greatest success in all spheres and attain people who have mastered the art of rejection of all that is not their priority. Accept the kindness of others and be grateful, but feel free to say "No" to everything that distracts your attention from the main goals.
7. You don't have to make excuses for their appearance You can be slim or full, high or not, nice or the most common, but you don't have to explain to anyone why you look that way. Your appearance is solely up to you, here you are required only to himself. Don't let appearance define your self-worth.
8. You don't have anyone to explain your food preferences , There are certain foods that just don't like you for different reasons — from taste to their impact on your health. If someone is bothering you with a question, why you eat (or not eat) certain foods, pay no attention to this and answer what you feel good eating that way.
9. You are not required to report to anyone about your sex life If you are in a relationship with an adult by mutual consent, it's nobody's business how, where and when you are satisfied with your sex life. You can wait for marriage to engage in casual sex and even experiment with a person of the same sex with you — as long as you enjoy, it is solely up to you.
10. You don't have anyone to explain your career or personal choice , Sometimes circumstances force us to choose between work and personal life. This decision is not always easy, and you can eventually choose the work — not because I don't care about his family, but because this choice will give you security in the future. In any case, you don't have to explain to others why you chose the profession (or Vice versa), if you are sure that you are doing everything wrong.
11. You don't have to explain your political or religious views If you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic, Protestant or Muslim is your personal choice. You don't have to explain their faith. When someone can't accept you for who you are, that's his problem, not yours.
12. You don't have to explain why you are single Married or not, married or not, should not concern anyone but you. Loneliness is not a personality disorder. You are free to choose whether to enter into a relationship or not. Just remember: you are not your marital status. No glue need for other useless social labels.
13. You are not obligated to date anyone just because you asked Someone can be sweet and cute, but you don't have to go on a date with him. If you feel deep down that you don't need a meeting, don't go on it. Find the reason for failure and don't change your decision.
14. You don't have anyone to explain his decision about marriage Regardless of whether you want to marry and have children or to remain free and childless, it will remain a personal decision. Even if your mom just raves about her grandchildren, she will have to come to terms with your life choices, as difficult as it may be.
15. You don't have to explain your choices in relationships, Sometimes people make inappropriate comments about your romantic relationship. Surely someone told you "not the perfect couple" or you should find yourself someone else. However, in this question you are not accountable to anyone but themselves. Live your own life and never interrupt or not to save the relationship just because someone tells you to do so. Make mistakes and learn from them — this is the life.
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