Conflict — jewelry correction of the situation

Conflict is a great form of relationship. Conflict is not created for destruction, its essence is different — it reveals the lie.

The notion of "conflict" most negative attitude: they see aggression, bickering, war. But this warped view created by a perverted society. In fact, the conflict shows only one thing — the discrepancy. And this is very important working information. Well, of course, it is important for the living not for the dead a mushy average of society.

The conflict shows that things don't go smoothly, something goes wrong. Timely identification of conflict gives the possibility of rapid changes — while people avoiding this conflict, amass these destructive factors in themselves. Causing fracture increases significantly.

Conflict can solve the problem as it occurs — not leading to destruction.
The smearing of the conflict leads to the inevitable explosion.
Sometimes this explosion is directed outward, sometimes inward.
Knew a woman — all her life she endured the antics of her husband and others. Everyone thought she was a model of patience and moved by this resistance. But when she died and the autopsy was done, doctors were amazed: her heart was like a rock — solid brand. Ie all her life she exploded inward.

You should be able to go to the conflict, to be able to work with it as a positive factor. Identifying the conflict issues in early relationships can prevent a lot of damage afterwards. Generally speaking, the ability to identify the conflict points based on the most insignificant information — it is a great blessing and challenging art.
The problem of modern society is that it distorts everything — including the concept of conflict. So when the fool says that he is a fool (of course, talking about reasonable definition, but not the desire to emotionally hurt), the fool does not accept this information with gratitude — and takes offense, and goes for the continued saving "Yes, you over something to see!" And in the end deprived of the opportunity to stop being a fool.

But the conflict is not a scandal. Conflict is the result of clarity, start noticing the reasons for the destruction.
Of course, here the issue of trust reveals the conflict. After all, only a few are able to say "You fool" simply because he is really a fool — not because even though it hurt them politically or to manage. In part, this situation is simplified where people are initially aligned position of the teacher-student. There all students will understand that if the teacher criticizes them, it is not to insult and abuse any relationship — it helps them become better and stronger.

Real ability to work with conflict gives you the opportunity jewelry the correction of the situation in the origin — avoiding the inevitable dire consequences.
Incidentally, the ability to go to the conflict has nothing to do with emotional aggression. The conflict is not "who are you?", conflict is "Look — you have a here mistake. It can be corrected"

 

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