Days: Do you know why?

I see a lot of articles, interviews and tips on the topic of “How to make a lot of money” on the Internet. When these articles are written by “young and successful” citizens, they almost always look the same: I’m just like you, just really wanted money, tried hard, read smart books. And then – a list of tips for attracting colorful papers to your pocket.

I find it hard to find anything more harmful than these articles. Making money is a necessary and useful activity until it is closed in a “donut” – a vicious circle of self-worth. Here's why.

First of all, it's individual.As you know, the big profit from the books “How to make a big profit” receive only their authors. There are no easy paths to financial success like any other. Someone grows their business slowly, like a flower in a pot, and someone writes a successful book or song, or at the right time catches the eye of a producer.

Finally, someone needs more and someone less. "Successful" citizens are usually quite greedy - today they need five million, a year later they want to have thirty, and then climb the financial Olympus and write memoirs from there. Why would a large amount of money and the associated costs of time, nerves, and energy come from a small-town housewife who wants to start a business and run a family business alongside parenting, personal life, and travel?

Its distribution of values and the priorities of homegrown “business sharks” are quite different, their recommendations will only harm it.

Money, as an end in itself, is useless.Such advice in 99% of cases comes from the concept of money as an end in itself. But money does not have to be an end in itself, otherwise it is meaningless. You want more and more, nothing brings pleasure if it is not associated with making money.

Everyone knows the old truths: money cannot buy friendship, love, happiness or health. I’ve been videoing quite a few very rich people, talking to them, and I can tell you that none of them looked happy. Not a little. Gray skin and dull eyes, attempts to make up for lost life “anal wow impulses” according to Pelevin: the acquisition of increasingly expensive things, trained service and purchased people.

The constant pursuit of a monetary goal exhausts, deprives of simple joys of life, time for loved ones and oneself, undermines health, leveling spiritual values. Because money is a tool. Very important and necessary in a market economy, but only a tool.

Why do you want it?Ask yourself why you need the money. Let us recall Maslow’s pyramid: the basic necessities of life – food, shelter, clothing – come first. However, for the modern urban middle class, the basic needs already include a car, and a good apartment or house.

Then comes the need for love, for knowledge, and at the top the need for self-actualization. Successful people all have money. They love money, they learn the science of getting money (try talking to the average “successful” person about something abstract), actualize themselves and find the meaning of life. Love is also bought – not real, but with money, so the rich and successful are usually very cynical. You cannot imagine what you have never experienced.

In short, all of the above can be summarized as follows: Instead of being a tool for achieving goals, money replaces all goals.

The present versus the future.The main reason for this attitude towards money, it seems to me, is the substitution of the present moment with the expectation of the future. I will make money and then I will... But, as Erich Fromm wrote, “to be” and “to have” are fundamentally different concepts, they never touch. It is impossible to “be” something by “having” something.

For the moment, money is a tool. For an illusory future, a mental projection that doesn’t really exist, money is the goal. And so, probably, it all comes down to the old-fashioned “be here and now.” Setting a goal for the future, you need to achieve it, but not live it.

After all, it is a full life at any given moment that makes a person truly successful. You need to forget about money and develop - and then they will come by themselves.

Credit Andrej Nordbon

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