How Dating sites killed the love. Sobering post

We have forgotten how to care for women. Think this now makes no sense...

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We always knew that the available women in big cities are a dime a dozen. But never before have they been in your smartphone. Dating sites and social networks has led to the fact that the maximum romantic gesture that we can now afford is a smile.

Even write an SMS with the text "Good morning!" — this is something from a past life. We all agree that romance is dead. And everything seems to have made peace with that.

But if you want to achieve great success in your personal life, you will have something to do with it. Start small: look on during dinner, in her eyes, but not in smartphone. It's unthinkable, right? The fact is that relationships with people are like a buffet. We have too much choice. We believe that it is good, but in reality this often does not allow us to make any strong and both need a relationship.

To register at the new Dating site is like diluting a tasty juice with water. Sort of beverage is increased, but its taste is hopelessly lost. Too much choice does not allow us to focus on the person with whom we already went on a date, and that is right in front of us. What if this is not the guy — not the best of all who are on the site? What if tomorrow will register a new girl who will blow your mind?

Love does not exist. It killed the Internet. We have changed the love for variety. Now, in order to gain new experiences, we don't need to plan a unique date. Simply meet a new person.

Now for a relationship we are not ready to sacrifice anything. Still, it seems so easy to find one that will love us for who we are.

No one generation of people on the planet didn't have those opportunities that we have. We can open a new tab in the browser and immediately view photos from Portugal. A couple of clicks — and we've got the ticket by paying with your Visa card. We can do it every day, but do not do.

The fact that we never know whether we have enough money to get what we want. Same thing with women. We never know whether we will have enough time to "try all options".

Before you could meet in a bar and immediately ask her out for tomorrow. Today you'll cycle through dozens of contacts to decide who is worthy of your audience. And as a result, most likely, you will remain at home Saturday. Alone.

There's always a lot of tempting options. We have forgotten what it's like to live and meet people. Why ask, if we saw it in Instagram? Why make a choice if open so many doors? But this choice paralyzes us. Because of the possibilities too much, it is much easier to get lost and to postpone the selection for later.

We tell ourselves that we need a stimulus. We convince ourselves that it is not good enough. And then complain about stupid life where we are not wanted.

We used to think that in a relationship after first sex. And even much earlier. Now we are in a relationship only after we change the corresponding status on Facebook. And everyone else will believe us only after we publish the couple for photographs. All this has turned our relationship into a myth.

No one will post at three in the morning statuses about why she was crying all night. No one posting sad tweets about how hard it is to love. We see in social networks a happy statuses and impressive photos. And make a false conclusion that one of us is "perfect" relationships.

But the truth is that the more we believe in ideals, the less happy. Real life and Facebook life are two different things. There is no "ideal" partners. There is no "perfect" family life.

But we do not believe it. To do this, we stay too long on Dating sites. And it's not just in relationships. It seems to us that we're not good enough. Our relationship is not good enough. We begin to believe that love is supposed to be similar to pizza delivery: it's simple and clear.

We have forgotten how to love...


P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©



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