Great love has power. And she's cruel.

Burt Hellinger’s stunning text on the power of great love is worth reading.

Great love has power. And she's violent. Cheap love is soft, it cannot bear suffering. Sometimes a person can not stand the intensity of great love and begins to cry. Then someone fails, goes to this person and tries to comfort him. He does not comfort him because he needs it. He comforts him because he needs it. Such love is weak. It interferes with the soul of another, without regard to what serves his soul. We need to learn to endure the suffering of others without interfering. The Bible has a great example of this. God struck Job hard. All his children died. His body was covered with wounds and he was sitting on a pile of dung. Then his friends came to console him. What did they do? They sat at a certain distance and for seven days did not say a word. It was a love that had power.









If the doctor operates and at the same time bursts into sobs, then let him be very soft, but he can no longer operate. To help in the face of great suffering, we must reach a higher level. At this level, we are devoid of emotions, but full of love. A well-operating doctor does not show emotion, but he is full of love. So he can operate. A helper who really wants to help must be able to endure suffering without being dragged into it. If he endures suffering, he gives strength to the other, although he does not interfere.

He who has a problem can carry it, and only he alone. If the other wants to carry it for him, he becomes weak. We may, for example, observe this with us, but I learn it in myself: if I see something in another and I want to tell him it, but I restrain myself and do not say it, it costs me strength. The strength that this restraint costs me becomes a strength for him. Suddenly, what I wanted to tell him came to his mind. Since this thought came to him, he can accept it.

If I can’t stand it and want to tell him something, I’m relieved that I told him that. But I took his power away. Even if what I wanted to say is right, he can't accept it because it comes from the outside. So such restraint is the foundation of respect and the foundation of love. published



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