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If you can't love — at least listen to
If you can't love someone now, at least listen to him.
Don't force yourself to love; that would be false.
Breathe. Restore the relationship with his presence. Feel your body, breath, the ground on which you stand.
And listen to other people, even if you don't agree with them. Honour your own feelings too. And maybe, at some time, with deep listening, you will begin to understand their point of view, their experience, their journey, their pain and struggles.
Even if you don't like what they say, or Vice versa. You're going to feel fear and deep sorrow, as they, will feel the powerful waves of frustration, despair, even rage flowing through you.
Thus, even if you have a different life story, you may more deeply understand their experience, the desire to be loved, to be in contact and safe with other people.
You don't have to put up with their words or behavior. You don't even have to see them again. But at this moment, if you can stay in the present? Not trying to love them, but listen, being in the presence? To wear their shoes for some time, knowing that you are safe in their own?
For a lot of people listen, it is like how to be loved. What you're interested in their experience speaks volumes. And when a person begins to feel loved, heard, and what value can happen amazing things. Like every morning the flowers unfold towards the sunlight.published
Author: Jeff Foster
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
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Don't force yourself to love; that would be false.
Breathe. Restore the relationship with his presence. Feel your body, breath, the ground on which you stand.
And listen to other people, even if you don't agree with them. Honour your own feelings too. And maybe, at some time, with deep listening, you will begin to understand their point of view, their experience, their journey, their pain and struggles.
Even if you don't like what they say, or Vice versa. You're going to feel fear and deep sorrow, as they, will feel the powerful waves of frustration, despair, even rage flowing through you.
Thus, even if you have a different life story, you may more deeply understand their experience, the desire to be loved, to be in contact and safe with other people.
You don't have to put up with their words or behavior. You don't even have to see them again. But at this moment, if you can stay in the present? Not trying to love them, but listen, being in the presence? To wear their shoes for some time, knowing that you are safe in their own?
For a lot of people listen, it is like how to be loved. What you're interested in their experience speaks volumes. And when a person begins to feel loved, heard, and what value can happen amazing things. Like every morning the flowers unfold towards the sunlight.published
Author: Jeff Foster
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Join us in Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: sobiratelzvezd.ru/schaste-v-teple-pozhimaemyx-ruk/
