Mikhail Litvak: “pioneer” stage and 5 more stages of sexual relations

When I surveyed my patients and those who agreed to be interviewed and surveyed, I identified five main stages of sexual relations:

  • Ideator-diagnostic;
  • production;
  • presexual;
  • sexually;
  • post-sexual.
Let us consider each of them separately.



Ideal-diagnostic or "October" stage

This stage is characterized by the appearance in a person of an understanding that someone attracts him not just as a person, but as a possible sexual partner. In its deep development, this stage is divided into platonic and familiar – romantic.



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The first stage is platonic.

It does not involve the appearance of presexual and sexual stages. Note that in their dreams, a person does not go beyond the production stage. It is absolutely normal for children and can last up to the age of 12-14 years, and the object of love passion can be any adult mentor - coach, teacher or educator. The appearance of this stage is useful – the longer it lasts, the greater the zeal and desire of the child to learn. The platonic phase is also observed in adults - when a subordinate or a person lower in social status has a sexual attraction to a boss or business partner, although he perceives their relationship as a partnership.

In children, it is easier to form platonic love can only those teachers who have extensive experience and qualifications, do not have sexual deviations and problems. Such mentors quickly switch the lust of students, occupy them with business and in practice, the development of such a love affair has a positive effect on improving academic performance. According to the results of the research of Professor B.D. Petrakov, the average teacher of a general education school suffers from neurotic breakdowns, which occur approximately 350-400 times a year, so it is almost impossible to love such a teacher.

If this happens, it is useful for both the child and the teacher. For teachers, such an attitude towards him can be the only pleasant moment in life, he shows care and positively affects the fate of the student. The child, in turn, increases academic performance, it is characterized by increased business activity. There are not isolated cases when close contacts turned into sex between partners, which is an exception to the rule. If at first such relationships affect the improvement of performance, then after not always end in the best way. Suppose a student falls in love with a coach, a teacher or a mentor, a criminal authority, what happens in this case?

If the platonic phase is prolonged between two adults, then this does not lead to anything positive and good, and in practice almost does not occur, in 99% of cases platonic interest develops into sexual interest. If the platonic stage is delayed - it becomes a ground for conversation, people often hide their relationship, but if they go sexual and there is a social ban, for example, the boss or subordinate is married, the relationship is also hidden.

Romantic phrase The object is seen as a real partner for sex and the consequences are realized.. It can be a famous athlete or pop star, but it can be a criminal authority. This phase can be protracted in adolescents and in 70% of cases does not go into the so-called production phase of the relationship. The reasons for this can be many: feeling completely unworthy of your object of love, disappointment, social obstacles, etc. Teenagers do not do any harm, but in youth can be harmful. Non-existent qualities can cause deep disappointment in the opposite sex and then in adult life, having sex, such people will single out the object of their romantic love. If the stage is prolonged and inconclusive, everything can end in a nervous breakdown.



Production or "pioneering" stage

This stage requires special attention, as it has never been fully investigated before. Without the production stage, it is difficult to create a strong family. Boys and girls who studied in the same subgroup or group rarely have a relationship. Often this can be explained by the fact that teachers underestimate the self-esteem of children, who in turn are no longer considered by girls as sexual partners. They begin to feel sorry, the girls do not go on a date and do not have sexual relations. Unequal working relationships cause a lack of sexual relationships. Most often it happens so – young people meet at a disco and move to the presexual stage. If classmates meet and have sexual relationships that develop into marriage, then they form a strong family.

As an example, we can give the story of one woman, and draw independent conclusions:
My first real and, as it seemed, last love in the 2nd year of university was a fellow student. At college parties, we were together, kissing, hugging, but no sex. Such a relationship suited us, it lasted exactly three years, before the distribution. To work in the same city, we signed the fifth year. Within a month, I realized that my husband was an insignificant and narcissistic man. He thought only about himself, his career, but not about his family, his classmates began to treat him with open irony, and he considered me his shadow. The other guys who had been paying attention to me seemed much better. Our relationship did not go well, and after graduation we were distributed in different cities.”

The production stage of sexual relations does not have a certain limit and can be prolonged.. An example is the relationship between the director of a large company and women business partners. Manipulating relationships, such men make deals without bringing everything to sex. I want to warn you that after 2-3 transactions, a woman may lose attraction, and you will lose a business partner. Another thing, when partners clearly separate sex and the common cause, then we are talking about a business partnership.
Even the purest workplace relationships often have a touch of sexuality, as female employees often see their co-workers as masculine, not just professional, qualities.

Sexual rapprochement may not be, but there is always a great desire to do so. Do not refuse this, for good manufacturers it is only a sexual discharge, which they then do not remember and harm such relationships will not bring.
Notice that those who is more engaged in physical, rather than mental work, there are practically no sexual disorders, for example, impotence. AndThat is why if there are disorders - it is better to do sports, experts recommend gymnastics tai-ji tsuan. It is better if you do this together with your sexual partner, the result will be several times higher.
It is important to constantly improve, as personal growth changes the world in a certain way. If people with personal growth are fine, they have great sex, even if the salary is different.



Presexual or “cosmos” stage

The main signs of this stage are light strokes, gentle touches and modest kisses, which are allowed with strangers.. One of the stages of presexual relations is slow and fast dancing.. Note that for the following stages, the protracted presexual stage is unacceptable. It is the dance that can be read with some verification. If the girl agreed to dance a slow dance - she likes you, your touches are pleasant to her - then she will accept everything else with cordiality.

There are many examples of failed presexual stages. One young girl of 16 years dated a guy before the army, he wanted sex - she wouldn't let it before marriage. He ended up with another woman who got pregnant and our girlfriend forced him to marry, even though she loved him very much. At the age of 18, she entered a vocational school, met young guys, but nothing went further. Once a criminal authority began to molest her, forcing her to have sex, she had to flee to another city. The shorter the stage, the better.



Sexual or “Party” Stage

This stage is good in itself, as it does not require any additions, if the previous stages were perfect and went well, then both sexual partners enjoy. Here you need to give yourself to the power of physiology, the body itself knows what you need to get the maximum pleasure from intimacy.. The “partisan” or sexual stage, with an excellent preparatory process, can last more than 50 minutes and guarantee complete sexual satisfaction.

In what cases will the result be negative or absent? If one of the partners experiences physical fatigue, spiritual immaturity, there is no flexibility of the partners. Sexual experiments in this case will only lead to the extinction of excitement, and not to additional pleasure. If the partner everything is fine, then it is necessary to change positions so that sex does not become tedious, but is full of impressions. This behavior forms the impression that you have not one, but several sexual partners at once with complete monogamy.



Postsexual stage

In specialized literature, this stage is described the worst. Ethics of sex prescribes sleep to a tired woman in the arms of a loved one, but this is not always the case. Many men manage to insult a woman by turning away and falling asleep quickly. It is during the postsexual stage that the true attitude of a man to a woman is manifested. It becomes clear whether they are in the stage of expressed sexual attraction or not.

True feelings can be tested after good sex. A man can always find the right words to support the woman he loves. Be sure to analyze your feelings after all the sexual episodes, and then you will have harmony in the relationship.published



P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!

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