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You'll be working for me! Whether to work together
One day it could happen to any of us. "Dear, my heart bleeds when I see and for any penny you toil on this work. Have a great idea — you'll be working for me!" And here attention! You're treading in a minefield. And must be prepared according to the rules of wartime.
So he asked you to work with him. Here, we, of course, implied that he was the owner or even owner of a business, otherwise all the following tips will have to you no sense. So, he's the owner... And therefore, his right of ownership, which until then were spread on business and partly (possibly) to you, now with twice the power will start to work against you two. Who will benefit from this? Well, it depends.
Delicate question — money
The fact that he considered your salary "pathetic handouts" that "jerk of the usurper" — your ex-boss, does not mean that you intend to pay several times more. First, no matter how generous and loving man he basically was, but the company has the staffing and no one, from employees and ending the tax inspector will not turn a blind eye to "China," the salary of the woman boss. And who said that he actually has to pay it?
So, be ready that you will not offer anything outstanding, maybe even less good-naturedly promised "a special generosity in the envelope". Here don't be shy! Be sure to specify how much, in what time, for how much work and whether this clause to make a contract? Because... we all, well, men in particular, of course, honest people, but always prefer to save on those closer. And who as not the woman will understand — and about the delay of payment under the contract, and about the beast of the vendor, and about the unexpected expenses? Moreover, he has nothing to hide, all you have in mind.
Why does he need you?
And even if he is calling you to his work, it is useful to ask the question: why does he need you? The options can be few and each requires its own approach. Let's say you're a really valuable expert, and he has a shortage of qualified personnel. All is fair, but there is a risk that over time he will hold on to your relationship because he needs you in his business. Another option: you are a good specialist, and in his office a little unclean. Low wages, shortages of interest or no benefits. You have a choice, to take anybody from the labour exchange or to invite you in the hope that your love and good attitude to do cons work. Basically, if you really understand this situation and are willing to help the man she loves — ahead (where is the guarantee that a stranger can't happen?), but I suggest you to insinuate share in the business or increased premiums for the quarter. The main thing is to let him know that you are on assignment and you have no illusions about him.
To save or not to save?
And also it may be that in the office do bad things and he expects to get in your face more than the employee but also the assistant, partner, and investor. Word: "if not you, then who?" In this case, all have to deal with your relationship. Do you love him? Do you love him enough to hand-in-hand to build his case and in fact (as it happens in these cases) — he himself! And important question: what do you get in the business?
My opinion — to “save” the business men can only be a full partner and wife. As part of the vows "for better or for worse." In any other case, on his part to ask you to go to him, suffering the collapse of a business just because you are together — akin to humiliation. In such cases, the man should get down on bended knee and say that asking you to take him as he is now, promises to make every effort to make you happy and that all debts and obligations of the past, he leaves himself and the welfare of the future — fully shared with you!
If they say — then take it! And should we even consider such an option? — sure, I will ask you every second of you. By the way: businesses in General tend to endure best and the worst of times. The state of Affairs is not equal as men, although in many ways connected to each other. I know of many cases where the love of a woman forced the man to reconsider their business positions and to rise to previously unattainable heights. And I also know that the unlucky man, how unlucky businessman — is seen at once, and this is evident not only in the quantity of money in the Bank account. I'm sure you, the reader, are wise enough to cut off unlucky men.
So, to sum up. If he asked you to join his business, ask him a few questions:
1) Why? In what capacity? What are the conditions? What your future salary?
2) What behavior he expects from you in the office? Men generally have a very peculiar vision of how you should behave, dress and so his woman at work.
3) What else besides the standard of work he expects from you? No, it's not about the sex in the office... Maybe he wants you to be his "eyes and ears" and here the question is, is it to you?
4) How will build now your own time? Do not come to that house will become a branch office and all conversations will be only about business. Put your conditions — this is important!
5) What happens to your workplace, if you God forbid break up? If you go on condition partner the same question better addressed with a lawyer.
And, of course, in this matter, as work, solves a lot of interest. If you're interested its a matter of principle — it will only enrich you in every sense, but if you're not interested, soon you'll hate not only the work, but his. So — think! And maybe this isn't bad to work together! published
Author: Elena Shubina
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: /users/26725
So he asked you to work with him. Here, we, of course, implied that he was the owner or even owner of a business, otherwise all the following tips will have to you no sense. So, he's the owner... And therefore, his right of ownership, which until then were spread on business and partly (possibly) to you, now with twice the power will start to work against you two. Who will benefit from this? Well, it depends.
Delicate question — money
The fact that he considered your salary "pathetic handouts" that "jerk of the usurper" — your ex-boss, does not mean that you intend to pay several times more. First, no matter how generous and loving man he basically was, but the company has the staffing and no one, from employees and ending the tax inspector will not turn a blind eye to "China," the salary of the woman boss. And who said that he actually has to pay it?
So, be ready that you will not offer anything outstanding, maybe even less good-naturedly promised "a special generosity in the envelope". Here don't be shy! Be sure to specify how much, in what time, for how much work and whether this clause to make a contract? Because... we all, well, men in particular, of course, honest people, but always prefer to save on those closer. And who as not the woman will understand — and about the delay of payment under the contract, and about the beast of the vendor, and about the unexpected expenses? Moreover, he has nothing to hide, all you have in mind.
Why does he need you?
And even if he is calling you to his work, it is useful to ask the question: why does he need you? The options can be few and each requires its own approach. Let's say you're a really valuable expert, and he has a shortage of qualified personnel. All is fair, but there is a risk that over time he will hold on to your relationship because he needs you in his business. Another option: you are a good specialist, and in his office a little unclean. Low wages, shortages of interest or no benefits. You have a choice, to take anybody from the labour exchange or to invite you in the hope that your love and good attitude to do cons work. Basically, if you really understand this situation and are willing to help the man she loves — ahead (where is the guarantee that a stranger can't happen?), but I suggest you to insinuate share in the business or increased premiums for the quarter. The main thing is to let him know that you are on assignment and you have no illusions about him.
To save or not to save?
And also it may be that in the office do bad things and he expects to get in your face more than the employee but also the assistant, partner, and investor. Word: "if not you, then who?" In this case, all have to deal with your relationship. Do you love him? Do you love him enough to hand-in-hand to build his case and in fact (as it happens in these cases) — he himself! And important question: what do you get in the business?
My opinion — to “save” the business men can only be a full partner and wife. As part of the vows "for better or for worse." In any other case, on his part to ask you to go to him, suffering the collapse of a business just because you are together — akin to humiliation. In such cases, the man should get down on bended knee and say that asking you to take him as he is now, promises to make every effort to make you happy and that all debts and obligations of the past, he leaves himself and the welfare of the future — fully shared with you!
If they say — then take it! And should we even consider such an option? — sure, I will ask you every second of you. By the way: businesses in General tend to endure best and the worst of times. The state of Affairs is not equal as men, although in many ways connected to each other. I know of many cases where the love of a woman forced the man to reconsider their business positions and to rise to previously unattainable heights. And I also know that the unlucky man, how unlucky businessman — is seen at once, and this is evident not only in the quantity of money in the Bank account. I'm sure you, the reader, are wise enough to cut off unlucky men.
So, to sum up. If he asked you to join his business, ask him a few questions:
1) Why? In what capacity? What are the conditions? What your future salary?
2) What behavior he expects from you in the office? Men generally have a very peculiar vision of how you should behave, dress and so his woman at work.
3) What else besides the standard of work he expects from you? No, it's not about the sex in the office... Maybe he wants you to be his "eyes and ears" and here the question is, is it to you?
4) How will build now your own time? Do not come to that house will become a branch office and all conversations will be only about business. Put your conditions — this is important!
5) What happens to your workplace, if you God forbid break up? If you go on condition partner the same question better addressed with a lawyer.
And, of course, in this matter, as work, solves a lot of interest. If you're interested its a matter of principle — it will only enrich you in every sense, but if you're not interested, soon you'll hate not only the work, but his. So — think! And maybe this isn't bad to work together! published
Author: Elena Shubina
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: /users/26725
