The fatal flaw in love women Bashny.Net

So you fell in love. In my heart spring, butterflies in the stomach, and it seems to take off - time to spit. Or, perhaps, they have not yet fallen in love, but you will definitely like the choice. The main thing - the interest is mutual and has already led to the beginning of a new relationship

. That's when many women make the mistake, which later destroys everything that was built by hard work. Remember - "the woman hopes that the man will change, man - that a woman does not change; Both are wrong? " And here it is, the same error: trying desperately to prove to elect at its best

. It would seem that there are such? This is quite natural desire, and most of the people follow him. But the fact is that very few people that somehow manage a change really. Most often it is a temporary change, pretending that we practice without malice - on the contrary, with the most well-intentioned.



Sometimes we ourselves strongly believe that correspond of the picture that we draw for the elect. Someone's coming in the second half for the concert of her favorite band or a new action movie and then enthusiastically talks about his admiration of what is actually indifferent. Someone pretends that he loves to cook, but the apartment is always a perfect order - not only for the arrival of guests to the elect. Or doted in his friends, parents, football and fishing, and scattered on the floor socks wont crumble chips on the sofa and tank battles until four in the morning - not a problem

. Now someone will object: what nonsense, I have never done

! Well, you - a happy exception of the most (if not prevaricate, of course). But most of us still somehow alter habitual behavior in an effort to impress the innocent. That's just sooner or later we would break down and once again become a, and the one for whom we have tried to, will feel cheated. After all, he has built a relationship with another person!

And I'm not even when an adorable angel suddenly turns into a shrew. Only those, when an ordinary woman, with all its advantages and disadvantages to create a certain image of an attractive, to please a man. And then the image falls apart, unable to stand the test of time, and under it found a completely different person. It is possible, which is also very good -. Yet another

Why do we do it? At the beginning of the relationship we have always looked out for each other, even when they do not notice it. Even if the relationship is initially positioned as "frivolous" things can change gradually. After all, who in their right mind would be to break those that like everything?

That desire is guaranteed to enjoy the game with us a cruel joke. If a woman before meeting with the elect could not stand to cook something complicated poured boiling water "Rolton", it is unlikely from this moment begins deliriously create culinary masterpieces every day and keep the enthusiasm for life. If a man accustomed to three nights a week to spend in the bar or bowling with your friends, then after the candy-buketnogo period he wants to come back to this.

People tend to primarily take care of their own needs, and then about the needs of others. During candy buketnogo dominant period is often a need to be liked. Sometimes it is so prevalent over the others, that we are ready to change all their habits and interests.

But when passion runs, in the first place back the usual requirements, and now wants to finally get some sleep instead of having to cook your favorite hot breakfast or a cup of tea with a friend, but do not look to him documentary about the shipbuilding industry during the Second World.
< br> We Are What We Are, with strengths and weaknesses, and we can not magically become different - even for the most beloved and dear person. However, we are afraid to let the partner to see themselves "as is", without beautiful masks. Especially if he seems unattainable perfection, to which compliance is still to grow and grow.

We do not take into account one thing: sooner or later, it still happens! And if a partner is all the time loved artfully crafted image, then a meeting with the true owner of the image it will likely not be happy - especially if the "original" does not possess all the advantages of "masks". And if the man he loved, never existed, and no one to love more. Deception will be revealed anyway, and will not matter, it was in bad faith or was not.

But what if the "as is" you are not interested in a partner? Since this can only accept - unless of course you are looking for a serious relationship and not a fleeting affair - or yet to begin to change for real. But one thing - to become the best version of yourself, and quite another - to change yourself, your ideals, aspirations, vocation, finally

. The ability to cook or personal enrichment is unlikely to hurt any woman, but if you are, say, can not imagine life without traveling or have always dreamed about your business, and the chosen ideal - Economic mother of a large family, then you should seriously consider whether all will be happy in such a marriage .

If this man really so important to you that he can get you to change fundamentally and truly, you have changed. And it is possible that you will be happy. If you own principles expensive, must be able to recognize it as soon as possible, because the all will go on, the more painful is the parting. And the world is great, and there will be many people who are able to appreciate it you ...

Author: Alexandra Karavaeva