My friend's husband called her a boring housewife who could only press washing buttons after everything she'd done. Bashny.Net

While young women choose a career in a company, housewives More and more people regret their choice to stay home with their husband and children. And they have every reason for that. Who wants to give so much time, opportunity, and perspective to see their husbands treat them like they're supposed to? And the children do not lag behind: the mother must feed, take to school, decide lessons with them. Is that fair?



Peels And in the world reign completely different moods. Women can now work wherever they want. Getting paid according to your skills. A man is no longer the navel of the earth. With the advent of automation, the typical factory man is no longer a tough man in a greasy jumpsuit. Now this is a specialist, who has the main thing - the head on his shoulders and the relevant knowledge. A child can also press the buttons. The main thing is to know why and when. Even borscht can sometimes be more difficult to cook.

Mature housewives My friend invited me to talk, so, chat. And here's what she told me: modern women rely too much on their men. And they, in turn, take advantage of it. And it's okay that she's only 47. It would seem that it is not at all old. Her husband already puts her claims, comparing her with the wives of colleagues and generally female colleagues. It turns out that they are not as “useless” as a wife on the farm.

Marina has two children, not adults, but the youngest daughter has already gone to the third grade. The eldest son is also in school, but her children are completely on the father’s side. He's their breadwinner. A friend who is never in a bad mood is sometimes tired. But even in this case, he can be understood: he does not quarrel, does not reach for the “home”, does not ask what is new in school. In short, she doesn't ask too many questions.



But when he has weekends, it is the father who leads the children shopping, sledging, and generally walking. Due to the fact that at work he is mostly not so old team, you can talk to Dad on any topic. He even knows karate. Or at least, very nicely pretending to know. Sometimes my mother and I have conflicts. Everyone in the apartment knows who started them. Who is this ever-dissatisfied woman in an apron smelling of cutlets?

According to my friend, that is exactly what it is. Her husband does nothing but work or sleep. And on the weekends – a fun time with children. I guess that says he's a good father. But is he a good husband after that?

Marina’s wife has always had a cheerful temper. Like a big kid who's been having fun for a while. But like any child, he needs care. Or rather, just does not require, but he likes to live in comfort. Does he wash the dishes after himself? Of course not. Washing and ironing your own things, too. Although during the work he has already managed to become a small boss and appearance is the minimum that is required of a person with his profession.



What else is there? This man really works a lot, well, at least he has a long day at work. And, coming from work, he can only have dinner, take dishes to the sink, throw things somewhere in the direction of the chair and go to bed. It's, I'll say as a woman, a habit. I can't even imagine not putting conditions on my husband.

But that's not all. Although they all go together, on vacation and just travel. A friend of mine has long complained that she is tired of being a mom in another city or country. But to let the situation take its course somehow does not allow education. Because of this, she stopped watching herself as before. Gained a little weight, forgot the way to the beautician. We don’t even go shopping together anymore, like we used to do once every one and a half, two months. Well, the result is appropriate. Time doesn't spare anyone.



And now the husband has the shame of reproaching her for being, you see, a typical, boring housewife. While many women her age have already achieved something, she only knows how to turn on the vacuum cleaner and washing machine. He prefers not to think about everything else, as I understand it. What is this conversation with your own wife? Do men have to bear children, give birth, brother decree, from which there is no way back? Why not sleep at night because of a bad baby tooth? Do men know anything about this?

Marina is sad. What's so sad? At our meeting, she almost cried with resentment, even had to calm her down. It’s one thing when your husband has a problem with you. But to have children on his side? It's terrible. How do mature housewives survive in this situation?

I am also a housewife, but I have no complaints. The funny thing is, I don’t even try. I don't wash my floors every single day, I don't cook different dishes for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I cooked a pot of soup, and please eat, don't mess with it. And my mom is stressed, she needs to watch a couple of episodes on the big TV. And I think that's normal. Of course, sometimes you need to try not to get lazy at all. But to be in this state around the clock - it is possible to get sick.



Peels And, you know, my husband loves me. We have an agreement that on a certain date I have a certain amount on my desk. I didn't even get a card for this case - laziness. There is no protest from the spouse. Soul in soul. And kids are so silk. I try not to quarrel with their dad. At least with them. So they don't associate me with the "home-teacher" in the gown. But respect is respected.

I think I should advise Marina to get distracted and have an affair on the side. That doesn’t fit into the dream family. Of course, it's not very decent. But their family has already turned against a poor woman who is trying to help everyone. Perhaps a small change in her personal life could make her more confident. Nothing serious, of course. But I have one man in mind. He's single, not demanding. And I'm sure he won't get attached to a married woman to the point where he'll start sorting things out with her husband. Comfortable.



And don't make me a tempting serpent. I just want to help one poor woman, my good friend, somehow get out of this swamp of routine and stagnation. And let her do the rest. I hope this will yield results. Mature housewives should not give up after such husbands. The husband will see in her that feminine energy, which she herself hid somewhere deep inside. I assure you, before she was even more confident in some matters. But marriage can sometimes break. Which means we need a little rest from him. So to speak, take appropriate measures.