Oleg came home every day and ate watery barley for dinner, but somehow his patience ran out.

An ordinary person during his life can get into a variety of life situations. He can become rich, turn into a beggar, find happiness and immediately lose it. This is not to mention the active seekers of a better fate and all sorts of adventurers. We have only one life and we need to live it as we want, not as we are taught in school. However, with all this, it is definitely necessary not to forget to preserve honor, conscience and self-esteem. Otherwise, no way.



To monitor the attitude of others, you need to be very careful. After all, if someone is hostile to you or even simply does not respect you, you need to find out the cause of such feelings as soon as possible. It's the right thing to do. And then either the situation can be corrected, or you need to leave it. Because self-respect is important. And you need to be able to save it in life, no matter what.

My son has left the family. He left his wife, just packed up and said goodbye. Moreover, my daughter-in-law at this time was also three months pregnant. Many will criticize Oleg and say that I am playing along with him because he is my son. But my personal opinion in this situation is right. I would have done the same if I were him. I think his late father would have approved of it, too, had he been alive and known all the introductory notes. And I'm going to tell you about them.

So where to start? My daughter-in-law, Larisa, found out early about her pregnancy. She is a lover of soap operas despite her young age. Literally, obsessed with them. And since the main characters get pregnant more often than brushing their teeth, she constantly had a test for this case with her. Having made it again and received the long-awaited positive result, she immediately hurried to please her husband. I mean, my son.



But, unfortunately, Oleg had bad news for his wife: their firm went bankrupt and almost all employees were asked to leave with their belongings. The situation was spoiled by the fact that Oleg was a highly specialized worker, so it was no longer possible for him to work in our small town. It turns out that you had to look for a job from scratch, while life required, on the contrary, large expenses. A child is expensive.

I don’t know what they were talking about, whether it was about abortion, but only ended up with my son and daughter-in-law moving in with her parents. Matchmakers have a large house, they live in the suburbs, have their own farm. And in general, they are people of a special type, rural. "He who does not work, does not eat." That's their creed in life, and I'm sure they have their reasons for that. But there must be boundaries!

Since then, the life of the young family proceeded as follows: the “happy” husband and future father plowed on all sorts of sharashkas and part-time jobs. At the same time, I was looking for something serious through friends, relatives and the Internet. He even came to me. But his search was long and brought no hope. His father-in-law and mother-in-law looked at him as a wolf, and even his own wife began to shout and condemn him, treating him not as a legitimate spouse, but as a negligent dog. It is clear that mom and dad will instantly adjust the daughter how to live.



Often my Oleg came late at night to visit, just take a shower, have a snack and sit a little in silence. I understood that in someone else’s house he would not be given a normal life, but just to such an extent. I am a mother and this is my only child. I had thoughts about calling matchmakers and telling them, including my daughter-in-law, what I thought of them all. But at the last minute, I always gave them up. Starting a scandal first is a weak position. My son is an adult and can take care of himself.

But then he came with a backpack. There's stuff in the backpack. The face is evil. Everything I could ask him was pretty vague. Said he was only given watery pearl porridge for a week. Nothing. No meat or vegetables. As Svatya said, “There is no money, and what is, we put on the table.” But then Oleg saw that they even gave the dog bones. In the daytime, so when he's gone, they cook, they eat from the belly. Even for dinner. And by his arrival, everything is hidden and there is only a morbid porridge. Just boiled for him. Because no one will eat it except Oleg.



Peels Son began to clarify the relationship, but only achieved criticism and condemnation. Even Larisa was on the side of her parents and called Oleg “not a man”, since he could not get a job and support his family for so long. Then Oleg decided to leave, staying with me for a while. Of course I let him in. My child was in a critical situation, could I say a word against it? I still think that party was 100% wrong. And no one's gonna convince me.

And then something went by about 10 days and Oleg had some good news. I found his profile work. Yes, the company is new and is far away, so almost all free time is spent on the road. But what to do if there is no other option. It is necessary to settle down, endure, because it is impossible for a good specialist to taxi, get a master of minor repairs or, moreover, go to the construction site. In a young age, you can spend your free time so generously. But not as an adult.



But what did Oleg decide about his family? There, nothing. He answers my questions reluctantly and I am becoming more aware that he may have decided to divorce. He really understood something about his other half. In the worst of times, she will not be on his side, but will go where it is profitable. If it was visible then, then in the future it can not be relied on. I'm a woman, but I think her behavior is a betrayal. And nothing else.

Svatya called, asked me why her son-in-law was so categorically against them. I tried to shame my pregnant daughter. They say that I raised such a man, sensitive, who does not understand that they tried to “help” him. (Treating him worse than an animal, yeah.) The daughter-in-law yelled into the phone and demanded that Oleg take her away from her parents and take care of her at all costs. And that is his direct duty. I understand she doesn't know what my son is up to.



In this particular case, my son is completely right. His wife betrayed him. Even on the side of her parents, she went against her husband, humiliating him and breaking all his trust in her. I don’t think you can forgive such things. I hope life puts everything in its place. Oleg will find another woman who will appreciate him. And Larisa will meet a man who will have a very deep wallet and the desire to feed her and her child. I won't talk about love, she doesn't need it. That's probably a generation now.