A friend said he wasn't helping his wife, so I decided to explain why he was wrong.

Husband's duties to his wife They are quite blurry, so everyone sees them in their own way. A popular point of view says that if a man decided to put a signature in the registry office, then from this moment he must do everything so that his wife and children do not need anything.

He must provide comfortable housing, food, and clothing. You have to be responsible, protect, support and much more. But is everything really smooth and cloudless?

Today's edition. "Site" He will share the story of a subscriber who saw for himself that there is a gap between the beliefs of family psychologists and real life. At the same time, we will try to figure out whether the husband should help his wife with the housework. And if he helps, then he should be grateful.



My husband’s duties to my wife “An old friend came to visit me the other day.” We sat in the kitchen, started chatting about this, the fifth, the tenth. We had a meal and offered to drink tea. Comrade was only “for”, so I put the kettle, and in the meantime, I undertook to wash the dishes, says Ivan.



“When I turned off the water and put the clean plates in place, I caught the admiring look of a friend. It was obvious that he wanted to say something, but doubted. Yet he did not remain silent.”

" It's so cool that you're helping your wife. I see you can cook and you can wash dishes. At first I tried to help, but then I stopped. The floor washed - she didn't even notice. I cooked dinner and didn’t hear a word of thanks again. No more in her business, let her understand, he said with resentment in his voice.



“It made me laugh. I made us tea, cut off a piece of cake and tried to explain to my guest why I was washing dishes and doing many other chores around the house. It’s not about helping your wife or expecting any special words of gratitude from her.

I am not a helper to my wife, and she does not need a helper. She needs an ally, a life partner. And I like that role. We have equal rights and duties, we perform household chores together, each has its own functions.”



“I also have breakfast and dinner in this kitchen, so I also clean the dishes, cook, buy and bring the groceries here. I also live in this house, so I keep it clean, trying to make our home more comfortable for us and our children.

“And I don’t help a wife with children, because it’s not just her children. They're as much mine as hers. So I'm just doing my dad's job. I have no less responsibilities than my wife.”



“As for words of gratitude, are they necessary? Is it worth fervently thanking someone for just doing their job? It may, but not necessarily.”

“What better words are any if the head of the family is a reliable ally for his wife? When he is in the house a full-fledged owner who assumes the corresponding duties. Not when he's a guest in his own house, Ivan muses.



How close is that position to you? You agree with Ivan? Or should the house be handled exclusively by a woman?