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My husband and I agreed that he would be there during childbirth, but my mother-in-law at the most critical moment overplayed everything.
Maternity ward - a truly holy place. New lives are born there, which in itself is the most valuable event. When this becomes a cause for family quarrels, it is worth thinking. Galina gave birth difficult not so much physically as morally. The happiest day for a woman turned into tears and swearing. How this is possible and how this story ended, read further in the article.
My husband and I have always lived in the soul, until my mother-in-law climbed into our relationship. When Yarik proposed to me, she could not accept that her only beloved son would no longer live with her. At first, she considered him a traitor who abandoned his mother.
Through all truths and untruths, he always tried to make her feel. I saw that it was hard for him because he had been with her all his life. His father died when Yarik was still a child. And I can understand my mother-in-law. She gave her son all her love and care. But it turned hyper-operating.
When we got married, the question of living with Yarik’s mother was not even worth it. We immediately decided that we would rent a separate house and start saving for our own. It was not without a curse with the mother-in-law either. She didn't understand why we had an apartment when she had an empty room. Yeah, the one my husband lived in all his life.
With grief, we finally moved out. My mother-in-law often came to visit, tried to give unsolicited advice. But I bravely fought back from her attacks, and, I must say, always very politely. At the time, I was 25 years old, and I knew how to live, cook and clean the apartment. That's ridiculous to say! But Vera Petrovna did not understand this. She always thought her experience was no match for mine, so I had to listen to her.
I was terrified of what would happen when Yarik and I had children. I really wanted it, as did my husband. We planned the pregnancy in advance. I immediately told my husband that I would not tolerate his mother sticking her nose where she was not asked to go. He even had an explanatory conversation with her, so to speak.
My mother-in-law promised that she would leave me alone, not take care of me, and all that. And you know what happened? The situation has changed radically. While I was pregnant, she constantly reproached me for being too relaxed. Like, I have to do that and that. And Yarika, on the contrary, constantly regretted. He's a family earner, he's tired at work, he's trying for us.
When the birth was still a few months away, I began to catch myself thinking that I would happily live alone. In peace and tranquility. But Jarik reassured me. He was the one who offered me birth together: You know how much I love you. I want to be with you, hold your hand when it's hard. Who if not me?
My husband's proposal moved me. I didn't even think he was at the birth before. But I liked the idea. And friends said that it is very close. I really needed it. Only now, when the most critical moment came and I was in the hospital, everything went wrong.
Or rather, everything was fine at first. Separate maternity ward, the best staff and everything that could be useful was. But at the most critical moment, my mother-in-law rushed in and just sent my husband home to rest. Because he's tired, poor boy. And I, pushing and sweating, could not even get angry.
The act of my mother-in-law and my husband was a betrayal for me. I did not hear Vera Petrovna’s arguments, I could not understand why Yarik went home. I thought it was some kind of dream. But it happened. When the baby and I were discharged, I didn't say a word to my husband. When I got home, I told my mother everything I thought about her.
I don’t want to see her in my house anymore. Yariku said that if this continues, we will just get divorced. He did not expect such a turn of events from me. I'm tired of being treated like that!
Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? This story shows what can be done. Unhealthy relationship between mother and adult son. We understand that, most likely, this is a consequence of the fact that Yaroslav lost his father in childhood. The mother tried her best to make her child happy. However, as an adult, this turned into a personal tragedy for a man. Whether Galina decides to divorce is not yet clear. However, we believe that her husband will be able to find the strength to change the situation. What do you think?
My husband and I have always lived in the soul, until my mother-in-law climbed into our relationship. When Yarik proposed to me, she could not accept that her only beloved son would no longer live with her. At first, she considered him a traitor who abandoned his mother.
Through all truths and untruths, he always tried to make her feel. I saw that it was hard for him because he had been with her all his life. His father died when Yarik was still a child. And I can understand my mother-in-law. She gave her son all her love and care. But it turned hyper-operating.
When we got married, the question of living with Yarik’s mother was not even worth it. We immediately decided that we would rent a separate house and start saving for our own. It was not without a curse with the mother-in-law either. She didn't understand why we had an apartment when she had an empty room. Yeah, the one my husband lived in all his life.
With grief, we finally moved out. My mother-in-law often came to visit, tried to give unsolicited advice. But I bravely fought back from her attacks, and, I must say, always very politely. At the time, I was 25 years old, and I knew how to live, cook and clean the apartment. That's ridiculous to say! But Vera Petrovna did not understand this. She always thought her experience was no match for mine, so I had to listen to her.
I was terrified of what would happen when Yarik and I had children. I really wanted it, as did my husband. We planned the pregnancy in advance. I immediately told my husband that I would not tolerate his mother sticking her nose where she was not asked to go. He even had an explanatory conversation with her, so to speak.
My mother-in-law promised that she would leave me alone, not take care of me, and all that. And you know what happened? The situation has changed radically. While I was pregnant, she constantly reproached me for being too relaxed. Like, I have to do that and that. And Yarika, on the contrary, constantly regretted. He's a family earner, he's tired at work, he's trying for us.
When the birth was still a few months away, I began to catch myself thinking that I would happily live alone. In peace and tranquility. But Jarik reassured me. He was the one who offered me birth together: You know how much I love you. I want to be with you, hold your hand when it's hard. Who if not me?
My husband's proposal moved me. I didn't even think he was at the birth before. But I liked the idea. And friends said that it is very close. I really needed it. Only now, when the most critical moment came and I was in the hospital, everything went wrong.
Or rather, everything was fine at first. Separate maternity ward, the best staff and everything that could be useful was. But at the most critical moment, my mother-in-law rushed in and just sent my husband home to rest. Because he's tired, poor boy. And I, pushing and sweating, could not even get angry.
The act of my mother-in-law and my husband was a betrayal for me. I did not hear Vera Petrovna’s arguments, I could not understand why Yarik went home. I thought it was some kind of dream. But it happened. When the baby and I were discharged, I didn't say a word to my husband. When I got home, I told my mother everything I thought about her.
I don’t want to see her in my house anymore. Yariku said that if this continues, we will just get divorced. He did not expect such a turn of events from me. I'm tired of being treated like that!
Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? This story shows what can be done. Unhealthy relationship between mother and adult son. We understand that, most likely, this is a consequence of the fact that Yaroslav lost his father in childhood. The mother tried her best to make her child happy. However, as an adult, this turned into a personal tragedy for a man. Whether Galina decides to divorce is not yet clear. However, we believe that her husband will be able to find the strength to change the situation. What do you think?
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