Psychologist sheds light on what makes people treat you like a pig

Is the ideal of human beauty just a characteristic of appearance? There are millions of beautiful people in the world, and they are all different. It seems to others that beautiful people have drawn a lucky ticket at birth and everything is easy for them in life: to build a career, find a mate, make friends. But beauty has another side of the coin - the self-esteem of a person with a beautiful appearance.



Beautiful appearance can play a cruel joke with a person. Man is a social creature, and the opinion of others is of great importance. That opinion is not always the same. A person who looks attractive faces humiliation, betrayal and failure in life just like others. In some cases, it is even more difficult to live beautiful than people with unremarkable appearance.



When people see a beautiful guy or girl in front of them, they necessarily put a bunch of labels on a stranger. Actors, models, singers, other public figures often say that society does not expect much from them. This harms the self-esteem of a person, because he is not interesting to friends and fans as an interlocutor, as an intellectually developed personality.

Because of such stereotypes, famous people consider themselves talentless and useless to anyone. People think beautiful people are empty. No one ever wants to delve into how a person achieved success, what obstacles and personal dramas in life the person on the cover had to overcome.



So famous people become lonely among millions of admirers and haters. People lose their right to privacy. Their entire existence is in the palm of your hand. Is it possible to be happy in the sight of lenses in sorrow and in joy? Not being able to live certain moments of your life alone? There will always be a viewer who will judge, sympathize, envy. Beautiful people are often too demanding on themselves. You can’t be yourself in front of everyone, you always have to meet the expectations of the crowd. Dependence on someone else's opinion adversely affects the psyche.



Beautiful people rarely have a happy family life. Some men, for example, are led at the first meeting on a beautiful appearance and, having received the location of a beautiful girl, consider her their property. Beautiful people can be pleasant interlocutors, kind and empathetic personalities. But they can rarely count on support.



Psychologist Dale Archer says beautiful women often have low self-esteem. When there is a man in a woman’s life who loves her, she will not be able to trust him and will always look for a trick in the actions of her companion.

Low self-esteem prevents a person from developing and achieving what he wants. At one point, because of the words of envious people, the principles, beliefs of attractive people collapse. Life becomes unbearable. There is another category of people who pursue beauty, overlooking the really important moral values.



Psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky believes that external beauty only in the first minutes of acquaintance can attract. Then it attracts confidence to itself. Beautiful women are also abandoned because of self-doubt. Magic evaporates. There are couples in the world who have been happily married for decades. And they are happy because they do not think about external attractiveness, but about how to show their love to a partner, how to be a caring wife and mother.

These people can be full or slim, beautiful and ugly. But they will never envy or judge other people because of their appearance. Because the true beauty of a person is not in appearance, but in actions, moral principles and adequate self-esteem. People sometimes fall in love with a smile, differentness, eccentricity. These little things are much more durable than external beauty, and much more important. Love yourself, take care of your psychological well-being, and very soon you will find harmony with the inner and outer world.