My son didn't come to my birthday, I suspect his daughter-in-law didn't let him in.

This is the first time my son has not come to my birthday. We celebrate all holidays in a close family circle, but not this time, says Lilya Stepanovna. The woman and her daughter-in-law had serious disagreements that seemed to have been forgotten. Lilia Stepanovna suspects that it was the daughter-in-law who did not let her son to the holiday.



Serious disagreements "My son was surrounded by care and attention from the diaper. My husband and I tried to give him the best and supported him. Igor is an intelligent and talented guy, but in love he was not lucky for a long time. A couple of years ago he was abandoned by his bride, and two years later the girl cheated on him with her best friend.

Igor came to his senses for a long time, there was a time when he did not answer his phone for several days. And two years ago, he met Marina. The young married and had to move into our one-bedroom apartment. But Marina thought the apartment was too small for the two of them.



The girl lived in a two-storey house, and she is also an artist and does not tolerate small spaces. Marina does not get into her pocket for a word, she offered us to exchange with them and give them her three-bedroom apartment. We are old people, why do we need so much space? I was outraged and opposed to this idea.

Then Marina proposed a second, less absurd, but still not too attractive idea. A one-bedroom apartment I once gave my son, she offered to sell and invest in a house her parents built. My husband and I were against it, and my son agreed.



I warned him not to live with his parents, no matter how big the house was. But Igor loved Marina too much to soberly assess the situation. They lived in the house of the matchmakers, and everything went downhill. There was not a day when Igor did not complain about life in Marina's house. And she was comfortable, of course.

Despite the fact that Igor was not satisfied with this state of affairs, he had a daughter. Since then, my son devotes all his free time to his granddaughter, and we do not see her at all. Besides, we almost stopped communicating. If Igor used to come after work for tea, now we see each other occasionally on weekends and holidays.



I was hoping to see him at least on my birthday. I don't know if they've gotten better, my son doesn't tell me much, and we rarely call. My son didn’t come to my birthday party or even congratulate me on the phone. I don't know what to think now. I'm sure he couldn't forget, I think his daughter-in-law didn't let him in.



Despite the fact that my husband tried to encourage me and friends came to congratulate me, the holiday was spoiled. I couldn't think of anything, and then I roared all night. I called him, texted him, but my son ignores trying to contact him. I don't know what I'm guilty of, how did I hurt him?



The views of parents and children always diverge. They are different generations, they look at the world differently. Conflicts occur for a variety of reasons, but the biggest mistake loved ones make is not talking about their grievances or what worries them. There is a gap between parents and children. Sometimes they don’t communicate for years, blaming each other for their failures. Why do you think your son was offended by Lilia Stepanovna?