How to Increase Your Life Energy

The ability to show empathy and empathy is considered a positive quality. But it's important to do it right. If after talking to another person you feel exhausted, then you need to think about whether to change your behavior.

There are many problems in our lives. Our friends and family have them, and we often have to listen to complaints about something or someone. On the one hand, this is natural, people want to somehow relieve tension, talk out, and we help them in this. On the other hand, constantly listening to other people’s complaints takes away our energy.



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Some people talk about their problems to get support and advice. And others to shift their negativity to another. We need to learn to distinguish.

Maybe people in the second category will call you an insensitive egotist when you refuse to follow their lead. Maybe they will try to instill a sense of guilt or something unpleasant. It's okay. Compensation will be a surge of energy and self-esteem after giving up toxic communication.





DepositPhotos Why You Shouldn't Listen to Complaints Because Those Who Only Complain Are Not Doing Anything to Change Their Life He's used to being offended. That's his mentality, that's his worldview.

If you listen to him, how can you help? Nothing. He doesn't need help, he needs to talk. A conversation without a purpose makes no sense.

Complaining, he subconsciously, and sometimes, consciously relieves himself of the feeling of guilt for his failure. Such people should work with a specialist who knows how to influence the way of thinking.



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The greatest human impact They have their own thoughts about the bad.

You'll never solve a complainer's problems because he doesn't intend to solve them. You will never comfort his soul with compassion, because he does not need it. All he strives for is to find liberation from responsibility for his destiny. I mean, the impossible.





DepositPhotos What happens to us when we constantly listen to complaints We give energy to nowhere. We want to help, but there is no solution. We try again and again and as a result we become exhausted.

First signs of exhaustion

1. Emotional imbalance
2. Difficulty solving your own problems
3. Problems with concentration
4. The emergence of negative thoughts

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What can we do to avoid complaining?

1. Set and maintain distance
   Perhaps the complainer will initially be offended by the lack of participation. But in fact, if everyone stopped listening to his endless talk about the futility of being, he would have to finally solve his problems instead of just talking about them, or stop fixating on the bad.
   
   
   
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2. Make it clear to the complainant that there is no one to hold responsible for what happens but himself.
   Suppose you listened to the person. If so, take the time to tell him honestly that there is a local problem that he complains about, and there is a more global one that consists in his negative attitude to the situation and to life in general.
   
   
   
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3. Do not show "weakness"
   A complainer is a manipulator. Don't show him your willingness to follow his lead. That way you will destroy two, both yourself and him. Negative human activitiesThe one who complains to you will never stop. If he exhausts you, he'll find another victim.
   
   
   
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4. Set boundaries
   Ask him to respect your right to personal space. As well as choosing the topic of conversation. You might say you don't want to talk about "tragedies and troubles" all the time. Then the person will have to distract from the negative.
   
   
   
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Do you know how to communicate with negative people? Write it in the comments.