My husband is 13 years older than me, but I’m just an ATM for him.

"Loves of all ages are submissive," Pushkin said. But he did not warn that the age difference entailed a string of difficulties in family life. For example, when a loved one is older and has children from his first marriage, he will have to put up with it. It is necessary to understand that children for the beloved in the first place. When Polina got married, she knew that Vladimir had been married before and had a 13-year-old daughter. But Pauline could not imagine that an adult child would become a stumbling block in her family life.



My favorite man is older than I got married at 26. Then I was broken after a bad relationship with a young man. I focused on working in a family store so I wouldn't get too screwed up. Then the shop was renovated, in honor of this parents arranged a holiday, invited their friends. Then I met Volodya, a 39-year-old divorced man. He stayed with me all night, complimenting me and making silly jokes. I didn't like him then. But after a while he asked me to meet him. I agreed because I wanted to forget my ex-boyfriend.



We met in the year, he proposed to me, and I agreed. But from the start, it didn't happen as I imagined. I thought I would get married in a luxurious white dress and my wedding would be the most beautiful celebration of my life. But Vova said he was saving for his daughter's graduation. Then we did not fly to Turkey after the wedding on our honeymoon because of our daughter’s graduation. We signed and quietly celebrated the event with my family.”



I moved into my husband’s house where he lived with my mother. My mother-in-law always wanted to be a high society woman, but when I got to her house, I realized that high society didn't smell like it. She was not a very good hostess. For several months we cleaned up the house, my parents at their own expense renovated the bathroom, and I every day at the stove, then with a broom in my hands. I could get used to it because I like it when the house is clean. But one thing bothered me: the spontaneous visits of my daughter, who came to Daddy for money. She never took me seriously, only barely nodded at the meeting.



The husband never spared money for his daughter, especially for her prom. The graduation dress cost more than my wedding dress. And Vova gave his daughter and ex-wife a trip to Turkey, where we were supposed to fly after the wedding. And then the girl did not enter the budget, and Vova calmly stated that he would take all the costs for himself.



When I got married, I went to work at my parents’ shop. All the family expenses fell on my shoulders. I used to buy groceries, my parents would often bring two packets of meat and vegetables for us. And Vova continued to care for his daughter and paid the bills of his mother-in-law. I am very glad that my husband is such a caring father and son. Why do I have all my family and financial responsibilities? I’m younger than him and I want to feel loved. It turned out that Vova only in words so loving and caring.



Recently, my younger brother decided to get married. And the parents put up for sale their house in the country. I only told my husband when the house was sold and the money was given to my brother. My husband changed his face, immediately informed my mother-in-law, and she called my parents. They had no right to do that to their home. That's ridiculous! My mother-in-law stated that I was married without a dowry and that part of the money from the sale of the house belonged to my husband. Now I wonder if I did the right thing to marry him?



Perhaps Pauline got married hot. Trying to drown out the feeling of longing and survive the betrayal of her ex-boyfriend, she threw herself into the arms of another man. Everyone loves to be complimented. But you won't get enough of compliments. It is also important to support your wife, consult with her and spend time together.



Vladimir’s daughter is not going anywhere, children are for life. And the behavior of the mother-in-law and the consumer attitude towards the daughter-in-law only aggravates the situation. If the husband consults primarily with his mother and does not take into account the opinion of his wife, it is time to think about whether he really loves. Or maybe he is just comfortable that there was a laundromat and a cook in the guise of a young wife who also provides for the family? You should run away from a husband like that. What do you think?