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How to communicate in a friendly tone
We received a letter from our faithful reader. The woman decided to pour out her soul and share her difficult story with us. We decided that this instructive situation should not remain unknown. We hope that it will help many women in this situation and save them from unscrupulous fans.
Editorial "Site" He shares an interesting story with you and tells you how not to fall into the hands of scammers.
“Dear editor, I am writing to you because I cannot tell anyone else about this.” I don't want to, to be honest. I feel so stupid, but what can I do? In general, the thing is: I am a woman at the age of 50. Long since divorced, I thought it would be nice to meet a man.
I went to a dating site. I was so excited because there was so much. However, enthusiasm quickly faded when all sorts of strange people with strange sentences began to write. I was thinking about deleting my profile, but I got a message. I should have deleted it, honestly. The message was: Hello, Lyudmila, my name is Ivan. I now live in London. I am interested in your profile on the site. Would you like to meet me?
So politely written, with respect, I decided to answer. It's all turned around. He started telling me about himself, his life, his children and how he got to London. According to the correspondence, it seemed that he was not a man, but a dream. He gets along with his children and earns good money, lives abroad, but at the same time ours. I should have been alerted then...
Before my birthday, he wrote that he wanted to send me a gift. Words cannot tell how happy I am. There was even hope in my heart that I had finally found something worthwhile. He wrote that he had sent a gift, but I had to pay an additional commission on my part, saying that he could not do it himself.”
“What do you think? Yeah, that's right. I went and transferred the money to the account he wrote. Nothing bothered me, at all. I told him I paid him and he didn't answer. Soon he completely disappeared, deleted the profile on the site, in all chat rooms became unavailable. Then I realized it was normal. hook-up.
I know now that I should have understood earlier. We never contacted him on the phone or talked to him. He explained that it is expensive to call from Britain, and he has no communication software. When I asked for advice, he answered in general terms, without any real benefit. Perhaps all this was lost behind the romantic words and poems of Gumilev.
It hurts, of course, to tears. Not because of the money, but because I was cheated. I wish that had not happened to anyone.”
The reader's story impressed us. We sincerely sympathize with Lyudmila and believe that she will be fine. Unfortunately, such cases are not uncommon. Every day, scammers come up with new ways to cheat, showing enviable ingenuity. We would like to protect our readers from such situations.
That’s why we told this story, and now we will tell you how to identify scammers who operate even on the Internet. dating sites.
Let’s start with those who want to cheat and steal money. Most often, such correspondence begins with some kind of polite message, the interlocutor sprinkles compliments and tries to interest. After that, there is a period of calm communication, the establishment of trusting relationships. Then lies follow.
Of course, this is not always the case, but we are talking about the worst case scenario. If you communicate with a fraudster, then sooner or later there will be a situation when he asks you for money. There's hundreds of different circuits that they're deftly doing. One of them is described in our history, but there are many options.
Sometimes your admirer may offer to meet you. He won't be here by the hour, but he'll call in a few minutes and tell the story that he's stuck somewhere, damaged a car or had an accident. In any case, he will urgently need money that he does not have. We strongly recommend stopping the conversation after such requests.
Any way to extort your personal funds should be considered a fraud. It is very rare that a person, when in trouble, asks for help from a stranger. So it is better to protect yourself and never transfer money to strangers.
All these misfortunes have similar behavior, they are easy to calculate at the beginning of communication. Their first feature is to introduce yourself as a foreigner or ours, but living abroad. And the most favorite thing is to say that they are generals, majors, heroes of some kind of war. When a person appears to be a military person, there is some confidence in this.
They are too romantic and give compliments without measure. Women who dream of love often believe this, although they should not. If you see that a person is extremely persistent and unrealistically romantic, it is better to stop this communication.
Be vigilant, avoid dubious meetings and even more so offers that feature money. We do not ask you to be suspicious of everyone around you, but we ask you to think about your safety first. Have you ever had such stories?
Editorial "Site" He shares an interesting story with you and tells you how not to fall into the hands of scammers.
“Dear editor, I am writing to you because I cannot tell anyone else about this.” I don't want to, to be honest. I feel so stupid, but what can I do? In general, the thing is: I am a woman at the age of 50. Long since divorced, I thought it would be nice to meet a man.
I went to a dating site. I was so excited because there was so much. However, enthusiasm quickly faded when all sorts of strange people with strange sentences began to write. I was thinking about deleting my profile, but I got a message. I should have deleted it, honestly. The message was: Hello, Lyudmila, my name is Ivan. I now live in London. I am interested in your profile on the site. Would you like to meet me?
So politely written, with respect, I decided to answer. It's all turned around. He started telling me about himself, his life, his children and how he got to London. According to the correspondence, it seemed that he was not a man, but a dream. He gets along with his children and earns good money, lives abroad, but at the same time ours. I should have been alerted then...
Before my birthday, he wrote that he wanted to send me a gift. Words cannot tell how happy I am. There was even hope in my heart that I had finally found something worthwhile. He wrote that he had sent a gift, but I had to pay an additional commission on my part, saying that he could not do it himself.”
“What do you think? Yeah, that's right. I went and transferred the money to the account he wrote. Nothing bothered me, at all. I told him I paid him and he didn't answer. Soon he completely disappeared, deleted the profile on the site, in all chat rooms became unavailable. Then I realized it was normal. hook-up.
I know now that I should have understood earlier. We never contacted him on the phone or talked to him. He explained that it is expensive to call from Britain, and he has no communication software. When I asked for advice, he answered in general terms, without any real benefit. Perhaps all this was lost behind the romantic words and poems of Gumilev.
It hurts, of course, to tears. Not because of the money, but because I was cheated. I wish that had not happened to anyone.”
The reader's story impressed us. We sincerely sympathize with Lyudmila and believe that she will be fine. Unfortunately, such cases are not uncommon. Every day, scammers come up with new ways to cheat, showing enviable ingenuity. We would like to protect our readers from such situations.
That’s why we told this story, and now we will tell you how to identify scammers who operate even on the Internet. dating sites.
Let’s start with those who want to cheat and steal money. Most often, such correspondence begins with some kind of polite message, the interlocutor sprinkles compliments and tries to interest. After that, there is a period of calm communication, the establishment of trusting relationships. Then lies follow.
Of course, this is not always the case, but we are talking about the worst case scenario. If you communicate with a fraudster, then sooner or later there will be a situation when he asks you for money. There's hundreds of different circuits that they're deftly doing. One of them is described in our history, but there are many options.
Sometimes your admirer may offer to meet you. He won't be here by the hour, but he'll call in a few minutes and tell the story that he's stuck somewhere, damaged a car or had an accident. In any case, he will urgently need money that he does not have. We strongly recommend stopping the conversation after such requests.
Any way to extort your personal funds should be considered a fraud. It is very rare that a person, when in trouble, asks for help from a stranger. So it is better to protect yourself and never transfer money to strangers.
All these misfortunes have similar behavior, they are easy to calculate at the beginning of communication. Their first feature is to introduce yourself as a foreigner or ours, but living abroad. And the most favorite thing is to say that they are generals, majors, heroes of some kind of war. When a person appears to be a military person, there is some confidence in this.
They are too romantic and give compliments without measure. Women who dream of love often believe this, although they should not. If you see that a person is extremely persistent and unrealistically romantic, it is better to stop this communication.
Be vigilant, avoid dubious meetings and even more so offers that feature money. We do not ask you to be suspicious of everyone around you, but we ask you to think about your safety first. Have you ever had such stories?
